How to LOVE YOURSELF: three steps to overcoming self-hatred

Learning to love yourself is extremely important, because where you go, there you are. If your self is cruel and self-loathing, you can exist in the midst of peace and pleasure without benefitting in the slightest. In today's episode, I will give you three simple steps to overcome self-hatred and move in the direction of self-love. They do not require expensive therapy sessions, and you can put them into practice today. Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com/ Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com/ GRE Bites: youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: youtube.com/channel/UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw/join Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Sponsor an episode: oriontarabanpsyd.com/sponsor-an-episode Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com/ Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #selfcare #selfimprovement

I started by being mean to the cruel inner voice. Essentially standing up to the bully inside

I’m 24. I stopped talking bad about myself for the first time in my life about 2 months ago. I stopped putting myself down, and started lifting myself up. (Like a cheerful friend would) I stopped insulting myself and started giving myself small compliments. This ultimately changed how I interact with others. I have never been so annoyed at someone else’s disrespect toward me only after I started to actually respect myself. When someone Ik calls me a name or makes a bad joke, I actually challenge them amen correct them. I keep it classy and simple. I spent over 20 years calling myself names, and I finally stopped. Now why would I let you do it.

I’m here because I’m amazed by all the people around me doing bad things, hurting people, steamrolling people, and just not caring. They just keep moving forward. They’re successful, they have friends, and they seem happy. Meanwhile I’m beating myself up over everything.

I almost break to tears when I realized how I treat myself all the times I make a mistake.

To the person reading this, Good Luck! Don't stress, everything will be fine. No matter what difficulty you are facing right now, you can overcome it! You are strong and brave.

The thing that has helped me the most is saying ‘I’m doing the best I can right now’ instead of berating myself for every single mistake and flaw. I also ask myself what would I say to my best friend if she made this mistake or was in the same situation?

I used to worry about being a narcissist so I erred on the side of self criticism and being hard on myself. That was one hell of a mistake!

I have a picture of myself and my brother as children cheezin it up on my makeup desk. I remind myself that only a disordered person would talk to those small children the way our parents talked to us. That's how our inner voices came to be. So now I look at the picture of us as children to remind myself how to speak to myself.

Steps to self-love: 1. Stop speaking to yourself negatively. 2. Speak positive to yourself as a good friend, coach or parent. 3. Be the person, you can love.

My mom never learned to love herself when I was growing up. She carried the wounds of childhood trauma due to grandma beating the shit outta her and her siblings before they were 4 years of age. I myself went through childhood trauma and plenty of verbal abuse. I'm 36 and wondering where my life is going. I sometimes struggle with the intrusive thoughts of suicide. It's gradually gotten worse in some ways, and I feel like I have almost no one to turn to.

The inroad to LOVING myself started with realizing things I LIKED about myself... And that I wasn't such a bad guy after all

I almost died some time ago. And this made me rearrange my world.

I’m so much harsher to myself & those I love than I would ever be to a stranger.

I thought being extremely critical or harsh to myself was normal. It wasn't until I was in my 40s that someone showed me that the way I talk to and about myself isn't typical or healthy. This person sat me down & had me begin to list the positive traits I possess and the accomplishments in my life. I had to walk away because I started to become very emotional. Even though I know this fellow is right, it is a very difficult change to make.

I feel as though I can’t control my thoughts sometimes. It feels like when something small happens, like a rejection, someone says something that hurts my feelings, or I don’t hit a goal I wanted to hit, I begin to spiral. My brain starts to bring up all these things that are wrong with me, remind me how little support I have, and bring up memories I despise.

As a fresh 39 year old. I can tell you with complete confidence that this gets a lot easier as you mature. Try not to stress about it and let time do its magic.

I'm experiencing some mental breakthroughs from your videos today. My wounded self thanks you for showing me a path to recovery.

Just found you! I am a much older woman who has tried all my life to overcome self hatred with no success. This is the clearest message I've ever heard on how to change. Will start these steps today. Thank you! 💖

Healing won't be easy, yet it's SOOOO Possible ❤thank you