Most MEN ARE WALLPAPER: stand out or the world will pass you by

One of the reasons it’s so dangerous for single mothers raising adolescent boys and young men is that it never dawns on mothers that society is going to treat their sons differently than their daughters, and they raise them as such. It never dawns on a mother that no one besides her is ever going to give a rats about her sons suffering.

"The biggest risk in a man's life is not taking a risk" That's deep

"most men lead lives of quiet desperation" -H.D. Thoreau

I have 3 older sisters and a huge insight to me was, I don’t have the luxury of being careless or not doing somthing because “I didn’t want to”. When they get in a huge bind, it AMAZES me how many people will come to aid. My parents, there friends, there co workers and hell somtimes people they don’t know. If i did the same shit they did nobody would give me the time of fucking day. It fascinates me how the male/ female dynamic is looked at by society. If I have mental illness, depression and made terrible financial decisions the world would tell me to “cowboy up” with them, it’s all “Whoaa is me” “poor poor thing” gets alllllllllll kinds of help And back patting.

The "men all wear nearly identical tuxedos while the women all dress extravagantly" thing began in the Victorian era, and it was EXPLICETLY so that the men's clothing wouldn't distract from the women's dresses. Prior to that historically, men's clothing was just as extravagant, at least in terms of cloth choice, as women's.

I like that you are wearing an extra nice shirt while discussing this topic. 😉

In Canada, I was invisible. I went to China to teach English. Suddenly, women (beautiful, young women) were looking at me, saying “Hi” to me. Shocking.

“Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything.” — Imam Ali

He is absolutely spot on. Absolutely correct. I have a friend from New York who was stationed in California and he slayed so much. He also stood out like a sore thumb and didn’t give a fuck what people thought of him. I think if your seen as exotic you have an advantage

Took your advice I’m now gay

Well said. Dating is marketing, and everyone needs to build a brand.

This is amazing. This trumps any of the "online dating tips" I've ever seen. They usually give generic tips that do not help. Like "post good pics", "show your personality", "stand out". Maybe to someone smarter than me those work, but my usual questions is "yes, but how?" This actually makes so much sense as a man, because there is a visual example to pull from. That in itself makes it brilliant, but then being able to go into detail—layer by layer and you're able to go deep in "building a persona" of sorts that can be appealing to the other sex. You're doing the lord's work, sir.

the nail that stands out gets hammered down:face-fuchsia-tongue-out:

"They all work in tech, and do rock climbing as a hobby" 😂😂

LET'S GO BRANDING!

The other day I had on a sweater, a vest, and a scarf with complimentary colors. My girlfriend and her friend lost their shit over how good they thought I looked. I didn't plan it as an outfit or anything, it was cold, I had them, and they kind of matched so I wore them. They went on and on about it for like 10 minutes. This stuff is a big deal to women and it only takes a little bit of effort to stand out a lot. Your competition isn't even trying.

The comment about men having to take risks in life, or life will pass you by were some of the realest words I've ever heard, I think about that statement multiple times per week now, even catch myself saying that to others in hopes that they find as much truth and wisdom in it as I did

I notice this at weddings. The bride is the complete focus of the event, and her garments emphasize this. The groom might as well be a cardboard cutout. During my own wedding, I got the impression that I could have skipped 90% of it and no one would have noticed!

Being wall paper and being able to live in your own house and come and go as you please is a vast improvement over spending your days in prison at the hands of a women and a slanted court system. Think about it.

If you're already someone who does a lot of things, likes to dress to impress, loves to spend money on vacations, and genuinely enjoys the company of modern women, then great you don't need any advice anyway. If you feel the need to become these things just to put on a performance and attract the attention of someone who will only stay attracted to you as long as you keep up the performance... Then why actually bother in the first place?