Limitations make you better: figure out your batman rules

No one likes the idea of being restricted. However, limitations benefit you in several substantive ways. In the first place, they help prevent your life from going off the rails when you finally attain the success for which you have been striving. And in the second place, they force you to become better than you are to compensate for the self-imposed handicap. These are your "batman rules." I discuss more in today's episode. Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com/ Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com/ Orion's Theme: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrXBzQ2HDEQ Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com/ Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com/ GRE Bites: youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: youtube.com/channel/UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw/join Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com/ Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #selfimprovement #selfcare

Batman rule: don’t react in anger. Wait until the poison has transformed into something more useful.

When I went skyward in business success and eventually got into some pretty serious legal troubles with a girlfriend, my brother said something that stuck with me: 'Good Choices limit your options... Bad Choices limit your freedoms'

Orion might be batman when he's not posting videos...

You had me at "Batman"

"Dont lie to get sex, do disclose your true intentions with a girl before it happens!" Makes the game harder but also causes less heartbreak!

"A man gotta have a code."

My rules were: Don't steal. Be onto others as I'd want others to be onto me. Live through virtue. These rules have recently undergone a revision. I realised I had been too naive and not completely honest towards myself. So I flip it around, Don't steal, including from myself. Be towards myself as I'd want others to be towards me. Live through virtue towards myself. Treating myself with dignity helps me hold others to similar standards.

I learned years ago to set dos and don'ts, wills and wont's. They'll keep you safe.

This man is operating in his purpose.

The problem for many successful people is that they then lose their former ethical framework. The key is to keep it after success happens.

“Man’s gotta know his limitations” ~ Dirty Harry Callahan

I agree. I believe that I have a very good example.I have retired from a professional occupation after 43 years. To combat cronyism (corruption) in the promotional system in order get promoted refused to compromise my ethics. Instead I developed my expertise. This worked. I attained my goals before retirement but ended my career on my terms, with my reputation and integrity intact. I developed my skills, knowledge, training, education and expertise instead of compromising myself. Very wise words in your video. Your videos are very accurate. Thankyou.

Limitations can force creativity as well. You have to find new ways to work around your limitations.

"The enemy of art is the absence of limitation." ~ Orson Welles (quoted by Henry Jaglom, in "The Independent Filmmaker", 1992)

Not having a life philosophy will mess you up especially when comes to dealing with women. You really have to have a line that you draw that can't be crossed or you will have a life filled with frustration and pain. The philosophies that I subscribe to are Stoicism and Buddhism. They overlap and are very complimentary too.

Thanks!

That reminds me of something that I once heard when I was at a seminar. She said that: "Money doesn't make you a bad person, money just simply make you MORE of what you ALREADY are (emphasis mine)."

Vids like Tarabands are a testament to the webernets: I learned more from youtube in a year than ive learned from my father in my entire life… and we talk every day and have a great relationship. Damn.

I’ve been listening to your videos for about a year at this point. This is my first comment. I love the way you’re doing everything you’re doing. You’ve been extremely generous and helpful and have changed things for the better in my life and in the world. Thank you for all of these videos, your effort toward packaging high-value ideas in short form, and your overall commitment to the well-being of those around you. I don’t mean for this to sound like flattery. That’s not what this is. It’s just a dead-pan, sincere thank you. What you said about scarcity is extremely well put. I hope men hear it. I lost my livelihood because I didn’t have a framework. I lost 2 families/marriages, all of my money at one point, the respect of friends and family, love from my kids, and nearly all of my possessions — largely due to a lack of framework. Like you said, “it’s one thing to moralize about infidelity when nobody wants you, for instance. It’s quite another when hundreds of beautiful women are throwing themselves at you every day.” It is. It definitely is. I went completely off the rails when I had the means to. I was a combat veteran who experienced the lawlessness of war, and I gave up on morality at one point. It almost killed me. I’ve been given many chances by merciful and generous people like yourself to turn things around and build a new life. And I wholeheartedly agree with the importance of self-imposed limitations. I offer in addition… if we want to magnify the positive effects of limitations: find a Tribe who’s mastered the practice and dedication to frameworks that generate joyful, peaceful, generous, creative, and positive results. If we dedicate ourselves to frameworks that generate war and chaos — that’s what we’ll get. But if we dedicate ourselves to frameworks that encourage mental physical and spiritual growth — that’s what we’ll get. Thank you for everything, Orion. You communicate truths very well. I look forward to your book. Sincerely, Evan