PSYCHOTHERAPY - Donald Winnicott

Winnicotts definition of love: "Love is about a surrender of the ego, a putting aside of one’s own needs and assumptions, for the sake of close, attentive listening to another person, whose mystery one respects, along with a commitment not to get offended, not to retaliate, when something so-called ‘bad’ emerges, as it often does, when one is close to someone, particularly a child or even an adult."

Raising children is normally looked down upon in our society as a job for people too slow to achieve. The biggest effect most of us have in this world is our children. For good or bad, the choices they make after you have instilled a moral compass will effect generations to come. Well after your death, things you did or did not do for your children will be felt. I would like to thank every person who cares for a child. You have changed the world. I pray we always strive to change it for the better.

everytime I feel down about criticism I often receive about how I raise my child as a single parent, I watch this video and feel a little bit better. It's tough. 

This is an  excellent overview and distillation of Winnicott's work, so clear, so concise. But given the critical importance of his concept of the "good enough" mother (or "good enough" parent) to his psychology, could you perhaps make another video focusing on this? It doesn't have to be a great video, a "good enough" one will suffice.

In the late 70's, Dr. Rachel Pinney, used Donald Winnicotts model of parenting translated into intensive child directed play therapy. It was an astonding success and many children healed themselves within this environment. The therapists were trained in creative listening and non judgemental listening. Dramatic play a function of the creative imagination and way to play out in 3D whatever issue was formost in the child's experience. There were always at least 2 adults present to fill the roles the child wanted to play out. Danger, damage and impropriety were responded to and defined by the therapist in order to create a safe environment for the child and others in the therapeutic space. Children quickly understood the potential for self direction and intuitively worked on the issues that they needed to see clearly.  The process was Creative Listening.

Parenting: the most important yet the most taken for granted job. Funny how it is the only job which everyone indulges in yet no one trains for. Do people realise the value in it?? You're raising a goddamn psyche! A completely vulnerable psyche!! And then you blame the psyche for being the way it is! 👏

很不错的视频，很有洞察力的心理学家，引起了我的很多共鸣，我就有一个有心病的爹，从小就把他巨大的期望压到我身上，而且我都感觉他这个人有心理疾病对自己的家人都特别苛刻，但是我小时候特别懂事就拼了命地满足他对我的要求，我一直过得很压抑、很不开心，直到遇到我的女朋友我才慢慢走了出来。说真的，碰到差劲的父母，懂事的孩子真的没有糖吃，太懂事就会压抑自己的欲望和需求，对自己很不好。但是一味地寻找过去的原因是没有用的，要通过不断地行动去改变自己的生活，想得再多也是没有用的

In providing the gentle introduction snd getting me to reach out for literature I had no prior exposure to, this video as all the others are invaluable. Thank you! 💕

This has been very insight. It is so good to see someone who had that much foresight in the early development of psychology with children and parenting. Some of the these mentioned here I can definitely relate in my own life with my parents as I was growing up!

Wow, finding your channel has made me so happy!!! One source for so much information!! Thank you so much!!

I just recently found this channel and i want to say to the people who created it, THANK YOU from the bottom of my hearth. you are changing so many peoples life for the best.keep up the good work.

".......that small, mysterious, beautiful, fragile person whose unique otherness must be respected in full measure"  Very beautiful lines really! Thank you. They reminded me of a book from my reading list, by the wonderful writer Andrew Solomon.  I thought I should mention it here, for anybody interested. Because it is all about that  " otherness" from which we all suffer in one way or another.  It took him about 10 years to finish the book. They call it a " monumental work". Here is the information I copied: "Solomon’s startling proposition in Far from the Tree is that being exceptional is at the core of the human condition—that difference is what unites us. He writes about families coping with deafness, dwarfism, Down syndrome, autism, schizophrenia, or multiple severe disabilities; with children who are prodigies, who are conceived in rape, who become criminals, who are transgender. While each of these characteristics is potentially isolating, the experience of difference within families is universal, and Solomon documents triumphs of love over prejudice in every chapter."

Carl Rogers and Carl Jung please! The shadow and the core conditions of a psychotherapeutic relationship are really relevant!

Having never heard or read of winicot myself, i can only agree with what he proposes. In my patients and my own life all the negative feelings and behaviors seem traceable to a disfunctional adaptation during childhood, often cause by bad parenting in combination with other factors. I suspect we would need very few psychotherapists if we could come up with a good method for parenting and have all parents learn it before they have children. Most parents are bad parents out of ignorance, not out of being assholes.

He is amazing. His approach is so so helpful.

As a counselling student wrestling with Klien's Object Relations this has been really helpful and I especially love the humorous picture play which helps get the information into my brain in the nicest way. Thank you SOL!

Beautifully told, I love the narrator's voice.

This is my new favourite. I was a little bit familiar with Winnicott's work, but this video is excellent and I am sharing it on social media at once!

Eye-opening. Thank you!

Very interesting analysis of Winnicot.. Thanks for bringing all these videos to light :)