your fear of BEING SEEN is holding you back from your fullest potential...let's change that

This video happened at the perfect time for me to hear what I needed to hear. It’s especially difficult to allow yourself to be seen when you’ve been through so much trauma. It’s also especially difficult to really live your life to the fullest from a hiding place. Here’s to courage and bravery, and letting our freaking lights shine!!

i have this fear. i've seen my ideas be fulfilled by others and have even experienced jealousy to the point where I had to get off of social media completely. it took years of growth to realize that i was indeed the problem all along. now, i'm out here chasing my dreams and making myself seen, shamelessly. thanks for the amazing video love <3

"There's something really cool about you that needs to be shared with the world...If you're not doing that, you really are depriving all of us of the magic in you" I had to run that back a couple times ❤

I know my fear of being seen has to do with being labelled as a "gifted" kid growing up - sometimes when you sparkle, people won't attack/dim your "shine"; they'll exploit it and exhaust it instead. There's always that little voice in my head that says, "if you show up fully as you are, people will just take and take and take from you until there's nothing left to give" / "if you do something wonderful or great, you'll be expected to maintain that same level of success/achievement forever and never be able to put it down and rest" - so instead of fully, genuinely showing up, I dim my light so that no one will ever really expect too much of me, in case the responsibility of success is too much for me to handle. (Self-sabotage is literally the worst, lol). I found your comments about children/childhood really helpful; growing up, I felt so much pressure to study and excel and perform and succeed and "live up to my potential", I barely had any fun at all (being parentified didn't help the situation either). That's something I still really struggle with; perfectionism and relaxing and just enjoying things as they are. Thank you for your insight - I hope you have a great day!

I feel like this is what's holding me back from wanting jobs with more responsibilities n better pay

The fear of being seen is probably why I always feel invisible, so thank you for this video!!! :)

I needed this. I dimmed my own light for a whole year, all for an emotionally unavailable situationship, trying not to make THEM feel insecure, all for nothing. Still trying to get back to who I used to be. If someone reading this is going through the same thing: don't ever change in order to please someone, no matter how much you love them. No one is worth losing yourself over. If they love you, they will love you when you are yourself. ❤

it makes me so uncomfortable thinking that other people have a perception of me and can think about me and see me differently from how I view myself. I've always had social anxiety and I'm veryyy scared to be judged and that makes me tone down my personality. I also carry a lot of shame which correlates with all of this, wanting to hide and not be seen for who I am, not wanting the spotlight in case I mess up and questioning if I even deserve attention.

Def body image has been a big one for me. I've literally listened to this like three times already. Such a good episode for the self conscious but secretly dope girlies!

I am currently a teacher’s assistant and let me tell you… kids will bring you out of your shell. They don’t care about what you look like, they just want you to join in their shenanigans.

I’m not playing small no more. I’m focusing on myself and growth and improving my life. I’m no longer accepting being fat. And gone work on my self sabotage and work towards losing weight and everyone finding me pretty and doing stuff on social media and people loving me for me. You spoke the truth. All my life I was outcast and at 30 I’m not accepting that and gotta stop caring and depend on discipline and consistency and been doing so good. Thanks for this video.

besides my fear of being seen, I enjoy my privacy and not having a digital footprint. I go through phases where I'm simply not interested in strangers seeing my life or trying to network with people because of spiritual hygience. I don't want to subject myself to the possibility of having to know people that un-know them because we're no longer cool or because I have to 'heal' from them

I think the most difficult of things for me to accept would be that not everyone would like me, its such a burden to want everyone to like you. Here's to me not being afraid of being seen anymore . thank you for this video Bria.

I'm in my mid-fifties, and let me tell you, this is solid life advice! Live like B is telling you to, and you will get to my age with zero regrets... ❤

At 49 years old, I look back over the years and see everything so clearly now. Mediocre people who couldn't be bothered making an effort in their own lives, trying to extinguish stars who could. From friends at school calling me a nerd for getting high scores, because they felt like they were going to be left behind, to teachers who resented their lack of achievement, trying to discourage their students out of resentment that some of the kids were smarter than they were and had more potential. Even parents who resented that her youth was over, and it was somebody else's turn, so they did everything they could to keep their own kids down. That's all it is. Mediocre people who have embraced mediocrity, resentfully trying to keep other people down, so they don't feel like the failures that they are. It has made our world a horrible place. Because if you don't let stars shine, we will all suffer miserably in the darkness.

I realised I have a fear of being seen when I noticed I was holding myself from posting on my social platforms or was surprised by getting positive reactions on comments I'd leave on videos. I realised it is coming from my childhood and being constantly body shamed growing up. I have constantly been between the fear of being seen because I have been told so many times I wasn't worthy because my body is a certain way and also the crave of being seen for everything else than my body. I'm now in my early 40's and I'm working up the courage of starting to post more often whatever I find interesting and fun. It's a work in progress, but I know it will be fun 😁

I do have a genuine fear of being seen because I have stalkers. I’ve also been around people who have dimmed my light. With all of this, I feel watered down. I hope someday I can get past this.

I have always been shy growing up, and it has always been hard for me to let people in and see my true self. I think because I was accustomed to ppl leaving, so I didn’t allow myself to form relationships. I got so used to just being alone or the odd one out. I liked that you pointed out doing the things you did as child. I used to take hella selfies and now I don’t because sometimes i don’t like the way I look. I have been working on my confidence and allowing myself to take more pictures. ❤

I do because I've been bullied about literally everything about myself, by friends ,family and strangers ;my body, my intelligence, personality, the way I talk , dress . It just makes me want to disappear and be invisible, like you said I don't want to be perceived . Even when interacting with others I feel scared to be authentically myself . I just hide in my shell . I also have a problem with oversharing lol . Then it just puts me back at square 1 😅.

Spot on when you said it’s a fear of being misinterpreted! That’s me for sure! I’ve always felt so misunderstood and I definitely watered myself down to seem more “simple and likeable” love this video frfr ❤❤❤