How to Recognize a Toxic Relationship

Dr. Tracey Marks
Dr. Tracey Marks
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Published 2018-08-01
How To recognize a toxic relationship. That's what I discuss in this video. I give you 10 red flags to recognize a toxic relationship and 4 ways to detox the relationship.

Here is a list of some behaviors that I believe should be considered red flags, that you do NOT ignore or think they’ll just go away with time. They’re also not transient behaviors that you see when someone is going through a bad patch. These are behaviors or attitudes that persist over time regardless of the circumstances.

1. Chronic anger
2. Chronic sarcasm.
3. Disparaging humor.
4. Having a Punitive mindset. o
5. Controlling nature
6. Excessive insecurity
7. Extremely opinionated
8. The Manipulator.
9. Predominate self-centeredness
10. Need to be on the offense.

If you grew up around someone who did some of these things, you may find yourself being attracted to similar people even though you don't like their behavior. Even objectionable behavior can feel familiar and comfortable at some level.

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All Comments (21)
  • @danigomes7879
    The worst part about being in a toxic exchange is the fact that you end up mirroring the toxic person’s behaviour.
  • @asdf4678z
    #1 clue that you are in a toxic relationship.....The relationship makes you feel bad.
  • @handycrafted816
    I've seperated myself from two toxic relationships today. My mother. And my son's father. We were living under one roof. I know I've made the right move. I want to attract an healthy emotionally intimate relationship. I need a therapist. We need a home. I am chasing stability on so many different levels. Pray for me, y'all.
  • @anamariadelpilar5962
    1. Chronic anger - 1.28 2. Chronic sarcasm - 1.48 3. Disparaging humor - 1.55 4. Punitive mindset - 2.11 5. Controlling nature - 2.47 6. Excessive insecurity - 3.31 7. Extremely opinionated - 3.50 8. Manipulator - 4.01 9. Predominant self-centered - 5.40 10. Need to always be on the offense - 6.19
  • @brendafang310
    Just left a toxic relationship. Find someone whose emotional intelligence matches yours. Know your worth and never settle.
  • @DebangshuPaul
    Just be alone. It's better that being with a toxic person. "and when nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. what do you call it, freedom or loneliness?" -Charles Bukowski
  • @TheeaMusic
    I was about to write CRITICISM when she said "opinionated" and mentioned it after. this is the biggest lesson I learned from my past relationship. if they tend to not shy away from saying things they don't like about how you are, what you do or who you are (and I'm not talking about deal breakers, I'm talking about minor things like them not liking how you phrased something that was intended to soothe them, or not liking how you express joy and excitement etc.). Healthy people aren't in default critic mode! They are focused on lifting you up, not nitpicking whatever it is they don't like about you
  • @CherieDeDieu
    I had an ex who would blame me for literally everything that ever went wrong. When he left for a few days, I felt so peaceful and did not miss him at all. That's when I knew it was time to call it quits.
  • @dothodzomasole7956
    Blame shifting is also very toxic.. someone who'll always find a way to blame you for everything even when they know they're wrong.. it's frustrating really 😫😫
  • @GetWellSoonR.E.M.
    This video actually helped me realize that I have a few of these toxic habits. I absolutely love my partner, but this video showed me I definitely do not treat them as well as I could. I definitely have some things to work on. Thank you Dr. Marks, I really needed to see this video.
  • @leticiabromley6013
    Being a co-dependent people-pleaser leaves one open to toxicity. I know. I lived them. Dr. Marks hit every nail on the head. When one extremely toxic relationship ended up with me in the hospital sick as a dog.. that's when I had to pull up the courage inside of me and say: Enough. I am keeping this disaster going. It's up to me to walk away. We do have to look at what part we play, like Dr. Marks says.
  • @thomast6741
    I started watching to validate my feelings about a toxic relationship. Turns out I've identified many toxic things I'm doing instead. Lots to think about now. Anger is a hard thing to let go of.
  • @420yogagirlxo
    I married my highschool sweet heart , he’s the only one I have been with ... 16 years now ... everything on this video is him. I wish I wasn’t so naive... now I don’t know how to leave. Your videos are so valuable and I appreciate these videos so much ! It hads opened my eyes. Thank you 🙏
  • @debrapomeroy7235
    All of this is spot on! But when you have a 40 plus year marriage that was good the first 35…..then the accusations, the belittling, the anger, the unwarranted lack of trust, the manipulative controlling ….it gets really hard to separate your lives when there are not only adult children, but grandchildren involved. I don’t know anymore where he ends and I start. .
  • @sunnyshonte5367
    I'm determined to fix the toxic inside of myself I'm attracted to toxic people and I'm also noticing that I might be toxic as well the difference is I want to fix it
  • @billiebleach7889
    How to end a toxic relationship ? Run Don’t look back Keep running Run faster
  • @yamiinusa6883
    I left for my own peace. Yes people do change with time. His chronic anger 🤬, relentless sarcasm, and controlling nature broke me down in four years. If I stand for myself..he calls me narcissistic, manipulator, blames me for worsening the relationship, demeans me. Omg every single point in this video is so true. I left this toxic relationship and feels so peaceful... I observed that he won't do anything to mend the relationship. There is never a closure.