#1 Narcissism Expert: The Harsh Reality Of Toxic People & Setting Boundaries | Dr. Ramani Durvasula
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Publicado 2024-02-06
This is a great episode for anyone wanting to better understand this disorder and get out of a cycle of abuse.
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Timecodes:
0:00 Intro
1:54 Defining & Identifying Narcissism
6:59 Why This Develops in People
10:20 Different Types of Narcissism
13:59 How Our Society Rewards Narcissism
15:36 How Certain Types Develop
19:16 At What Age Narcissism Begins
21:40 The Internal Reality of a Narcissist
25:45 Common Traits of Narcissistic Abuse
31:38 Why Love Bombing is Toxic
37:09 The True Meaning of Gaslighting
41:18 Triangulation & Cycles of Manipulation
42:40 When Self Esteem Becomes Too Much
47:14 Cultural Distinctions & Healing Family Trauma
52:18 Breaking Free of a Narcissistic Relationship
1:01:11 Will They Ever Change?
1:04:29 Is It You?
1:10:57 Supporting a Friend in an Abusive Relationship
1:14:45 Becoming Aware of Your Own Narcissism
1:19:28 The Sad Reality of Being a Narcissist
1:22:00 Spiritual Narcissism
1:28:07 Final Thoughts
1:35:34 Conclusion
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Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations. Her work has been featured at SXSW, TEDx, Red Table Talk, the Today Show, and Investigation Discovery. You can also find her on YouTube where she has accumulated millions of views on her videos discussing narcissism on her successful channel, and on social media @DoctorRamani. Now she will be adding the role of host to her resume as she launches her new podcast, Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani, a show that focuses on narcissism and its impact on relationships.
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Todos los comentarios (21)
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This woman is a gift to the world.
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“Another human being is not meant to be a…pacifier or……a punching bag…” -Dr. Ramani Durvasala……..snap! 😮!
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Dr. Ramani is one of the most intelligent and compassionate psychologists working in the field today. 💙
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Today I just ended a friendship with a person who definitely has a narcissistic personality disorder and who constantly violated my boundaries even when I made those boundaries very clear to him. I gave him numerous chances to not to continue to do this but it continued until it got unbearable. If something like that ever happens again it will be three strikes and you are out of my life. My advice is don’t put up with this type of dysfunctional behavior as it will just get worse, it’s either shape up or ship out!
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I am cautious with people who r too nice - especially when it feels like an act.
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Give up the hope of reconciliation with them. You do not miss them, but rather the idea of them. Liberate yourself by letting hope die.
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The way she articulates herself sounds like someone who has a complete mastery of psychology.
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I have deep gratitude for Dr. Ramani. I don't know so many people as good and widely impactful in what they do as she is. She definitely made a positive impression on me and transformed my experience of relationships for the better. Thank you for featuring her. ❤🙏
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It amazes me how these type people are able to keep finding and damaging so many folks.
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I'm glad to learn about variations of narcissists like covert, vulnerable, communal and malignant. I think covert or vulnerable narcissists are more dangerous than overt ones because they act stealthy. 😮 They are exactly a wolf in sheep's clothing. They look charming in front of people, but they abuse you behind the closed doors. 🚪
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Dr. Ramani is the best there is! We are so lucky to have her work and wisdom shared with the world!
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When your awake, you don't allow more. Tolerating and thinking you are a good/kind person for allowing room for more, then you are part of the problem. You definitely don't help by accepting it, you are condoning it. Strike one, your out, not strike three. You get what you settle for.......
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I’ve listened to Dr Ramani on you tube for awhile she has helped me how to handle my boundaries with narcissists in my life…grey rocking works “ …thank you for this interview
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I heard once, the one difference between narcissism and every other disorder, it's the only one where the victim ends up in therapy. I'm in 4th one in a row, and up until now, never knew what it was. I'm just so exhausted and will never trust again. Thanks for all the insight to help with my healing,if ever.
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"Mental health IS flexibility...The awareness of others, the capacity of engaging, empathy, intimacy, self-awareness : that's the core of health. And that's absent from a person with narcissism"
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Omg this is awesome!! I found Dr. Ramani when I was trying to come to terms with my own malignant situation 5 years ago 🙏🏽🥹 the clarity she provided SAVED ME AND MY SONS LIFE!!! ON GOD!!!!! Every time I wanted to make excuses and see the "better elements" I swear she would upload a message straight to my heart. She helped make things so clear, make so much sense. 😆 I'm friggin tickled to see her here!! 😍😍😍
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I LOVE this woman. She is a true Hero. A true Champion in educating people on these toxic entities. Thankyou!!!🙏🙏🙏💙
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Dr. R. And Dr. L. Carter have saved my life. I am post 2 yrs out of a Narcissist Relationship and his family cult system. Have a good understanding of Narcissism now. I have first forgiven myself and then the narcissist and family. I am so grateful for my freedom and good health and having absolutely no contact with them all. Starting I very has been hard but doable. Thank you Dr. R. FOR YOUR WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE.
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Yeah, most NPDs will never, ever walk into a mental health professional's office. Never. I was raised by a malignant narcissist and married a grandiose narcissist. Both were very, very harmful people to me. I am glad both of them are out of my life. It's taking me years and thousands of dollars to even start recovering from those relationships. Neither one would ever condescend to go to therapy.
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I just want to thank you Andre for taking the time to express so much compassion for the kids who got cut off from there creative self’s. I’m 27 and just now learning how beautiful it is to be creative and to express yourself as your own unique person.
