Ask Dr. Ramani: How To Go "No Contact" with a Narcissist | Season 2; Ep 29
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Published 2023-09-28
Dr. Ramani answers your deep questions about the most difficult - but most effective - way to heal from narcissistic abuse: going no contact.
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All Comments (21)
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This might be TMI. but after I went low contact with my narcissist , My Cycles went back to normal I seriously thought there was something wrong with me. it's amazing how much psychological harm these relationships actually do to us.
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Sometimes these videos are a lot more helpful than talking to a therapist or friends. Most people don't know enough about this subject to steer you in the right direction.
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14:40 "Narcissistic people are fighters. They like the fight." Someone said, "I'm a fighter, not a quitter," but when it comes to a narcissistic relationship, I'm a quitter, not a fighter đ
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I was getting sick thats how i knew no contact
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I hate how ppl are shamed by society for going no contact 59:25 ... after experiencing narc abuse ,if someone says I havent spoken to my MIL/ sibling etc.. for 5 years ,I say "good for you , how did you manage that?"
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This episode was absolutely brilliant. I was nodding at everything that came out of Dr Ramani's mouth. She is so validating. â€
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I never heard of Yellow Rock before but I've instinctively done it and it's very effective! Also appreciate the idea of rehearsing how you'd handle seeing a narcissist again, and treating it as a sick day. I went no contact with my elderly narc aunt I was helping after she became unrelentingly passive aggressive when I set a basic boundary about my own health. The guilt recedes. We owe no loyalty to those who abuse us.
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Definitely agree about others feeling overly entitled to weigh in on our decisions to go No Contact. The old phrase âmind your own businessâ still applies, right ? Also nobody judges the narcissist for mistreating us, but once we cut ties, then everyone judges us. Thatâs societyâs fault that narcissists are never held accountable for their actions or behavior, but we are scapegoats even if we do nothing.
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I have already been preparing what I am going to say if I happen to run into my narcissistic ex and he tries to talk to me: "I appreciate your desire to talk, but I need some space right now. Thanks." and just walk away.
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âThe subtlety is what throws people offâŠ.â This is sooooo true. I questioned my own sanity so many times because of this. Finally going complete No Contact was the best thing I ever did!
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15:30 How do you know when to go no contact? I so relate to an unforgivable comment (or actually a series of comments) being the final straw. It was like something in me snapped and the empathy/attachment blinders finally fell from my eyes. Instead of viewing her selfishness as a quirk, I saw clearly that she doesn't care about my wellbeing and was just feeding on me like a perpetually hungry monster. đ«đ§
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I went no contact with my own kid. The abuse was killing me and the disrespect was off the charts. We both eventually got sick from the loss of our child and grandchild, and weâre still struggling every day. It sure hasnât been easy. But putting up with that kind of mental abuse wasnât either, and weâre glad itâs out of our lives. Itâs been many years, and itâs certainly too late now, but trust me when I say that these people just get worse and worse and worse. You will snap sometimes and look like the crazy one, but you know and I know you are NOT. Donât look for other people to validate your decision. They wonât, and often time family who donât get it will shun YOU and believe youâre the problem. Thatâs because theyâve been told lie after lie and they believe that you are a bad person. Resist the urge to talk badly about them to others. Pretty soon others will notice that the narc is the only one talking, triangulating and telling tales. It might take years, but give them time. There is no winner, everyone loses here, so forget that aspect of it. Your journey to regain self respect began with going no contact. Stay in that frame of mind as much as you can. Good luck.
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I didn't tell her I was going NC, nor did I write a letter (to her) after the fact. I wrote it to her latest husband (read: hostage). He asked my dad about some of it, and found out she'd been lying completely comprehensively on every subject imaginable for years (surprise!).... If their lips are moving, they are lying.
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To decide when to go no contact, try to imagine you are your dearest bestfriend being abused, bullied, disrespected, criticized, controlled etc. endlessly and what you will advise her to do. Then you will wonder why you stupidly stayed and didn't go no contact ages ago...
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The doctor is correct I went through it for nine months listen to what she says!!! My narcissist girlfriend actually slapped me in the face and that was that I went no contact and she imploded. However she did secretly talk to one of my sleazy friends that she knows is sleazy and try to get stuff to throw in my face Please donât let a single person dictate how you feel in this world nobody has that power
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Although I had low contact with my narcissistic mother I encouraged my kids to enjoy their grandparents. After my father died my narc mother began to triangulate using my son. He was furious. He now refuses to see her; she is 98 years old and he says that he won't even go to her funeral. It never occurred to me that my narc mother would risk her relationship with my kids. It's horrible.
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Forgive them and u ( no emotions to heal u) but NEVER forget who is the enemy
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Wouldn't it be better to keep your family (spouse and kids) away from narcissistic people?? They could mess up your loved ones the same way they messed you up. I wouldn't want anyone else to go through the crap that I went through
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The Problem is also: The line you set can be violated by yourself. I also said: never let somebody hit me or cheet me and step by step i lost my boundariesâŠ.
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Making me cry. It'll be 20 years this year that I cut contact with my sister, shortly after Mom died. Our family dynamics was very toxic, with a father convicted for child abuse, a mother just waving it away as a disease, all siblings coping differently. Nothing could hold us togetherđą