Lack of ACCOUNTABILITY from avoidants

This is exactly what happened to me all the time. He avoided being accountable for ANYTHING he did, he just would rather fall back for a few days, then come back to me as if nothing happened. No thank you. He’s blocked indefinitely✋. I’m healing now.

You should have seen the look of panic, fright and dread in my (ex) avoidant's eyes when I quoted to him that line from Le Petit Prince: "You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed" 😂😂😂 (I was doing an experiment, for science)

The core wound is a self fulfilling prophecy. They ARE trash because of the choices they make to ruin everyone’s heart they interact with. What a fucking nightmare. I want to say you make your life shitty by your choices and if you hate yourself it’s your fault. I have never suffered the way I have after this person entered my life and chose to treat me like the trash they feel they are.

The biggest problem, Her words dont match her actions. people pleasers, they just tell you what they think you want to hear. crazy shit

I got “I’m sorry me not being there hurts you and I don’t want to hurt you anymore” pretty much I’m sorry I’m throwing you away like garbage for no reason.

I've got the "I'm sorry you feel that way about me". Nothing is ever their fault, it's always "somebody else" did this ...

“It seems I’ve hurt you and you can’t grow from it”

Yep they will NEVER APOLOGIZE lol or even say sorry. “I hope you can find healing” but never will the words I’m sorry ever leave their mouths 😂 accountability is shame to them.

OMG Coach...That was her exact "apology" I'm sorry you feel that way. She never had issues telling me the things I did. When I tried to tell her things she did that hurt me, I was either criticizing her or "Viciously attacking" her. This really is a playbook

Good Lord, this is EXACTLY what happened to me just ten days ago. He said, "I'm sorry that happened". I responded, "it would feel more like a real apology if you said, 'I'm sorry I did this to you' instead." So then he just he just repeats "I'm sorry that that happened." Ugh.

Exactly why I left. Saying I'm miserable without considering how her actions impacted my mental health so severely was enough to let go..

All of the avoidants are more than welcome to avoid each other

Not just accountability.. There is a long list of things. I can think about a lot of things 🤯

Lack of self-worth and very low self-esteem

A week after we both said we loved each other and her telling me i make her so happy, I got a text. "Hey Andy, my romantic vibes have gone so im ending the relationship. Hope you find what youre looking for, take care". That was it!!! 😢 It was like a different person...with no feelings.

I’m so sorry for your pain. The emotional crisis life puts you through is horrendous. As an avoidant myself, I can share this: you learn to rely on yourself so much that you just feel frustrated at yourself for not being able to let go and just ask for help. You just lie to yourself and everyone around you about being okay, but inside is this storm of negative-painful-harmful emotions and self-hate. Please, journal your emotions and thoughts, take long walks, watch these videos, and remember it was never about you. Choose Peace. Forgive and release. Maybe even be grateful. He helped activate emotions that your soul no longer wants to carry. He activated them. That's the gift. It's your opportunity to release them. That's the magic. Sometimes, the poison IS the medicine (homeopathy). He helped you to purify you. Life is just a play out of our emotions, and really, a gift... For purification, for release, for ascension.

1:23 he has literally said both of those "I'm sorry you're hurt", "I'm sorry you're feeling that way"

Thank you. I needed to hear it isn't my fault. I really need that.

I mean bingo You’re literally telling my story

I got the "this is why i cant be with you" when i reacted to his blocking behaviour... its so annoying