get in loser, we're entering our villain eras 😈 | Khadija Mbowe

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I saw something on Twitter that said that “Your anger is the part of you that knows that your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well and with kindness. Your anger is the part of you that loves you.” So yeah…

In one of my sociology lectures, we were talking about anger, and the prof said her anger as a white cis woman is usually treated as a joke and a source of humor/entertainment, men would describe her rage as cute. But when Black women express anger, it's often seen as dangerous and a threat, and she pointed to how the type of body you live in really determines how expressions of feminine rage are recieved.

As a South Asian woman, my culture is heavily focused on the "docile" "perfect woman". So I remember everytime I'd get mad at my dad (who is a massive misogynist) he'd always yell at me for getting angry - see the irony? Like there was something wrong with me or I was crazy for getting angry. My mum and aunties would tell me that silence is powerful. Over the years I've learnt how to be so faultless that when I did get angry I would be perfectly justified in my anger. I hate that I've basically taught myself to be the perfect victim. Why can't women get angry without being judged? How can we always uphold the standard of being perfect? For me it is so exhausting because I have to always psychoanalyse myself and give benefit of the doubt after benefit of the doubt. Sometimes I just want to be truly pissed AS A HUMAN, but I always feel a sense of guilt when I do so and hold myself back. It is sad that I've essentially mastered being strategic about my rage. Some see it as mature though, but idk.

Ugh yes, the "black women are going to save us" thing is one of the worst things I think someone can say to me. I am so tired. I have a family who, up until recently, relied on me to be the one to save everyone. I don't feel like I can save anyone else, I'm barely hanging on myself. Thanks, as always, for an interesting and thoughtful video.

honestly, rage is the most feminine thing you can experience imo

Rihanna's B**ch better have my money is the perfect black female rage anthem. She made that song for her accountant after mismanaging her finances.

Anger as a Latina is one of the most important yet awful things we can do, we are labeled as feisty, firefy, or loud, no mam we are Just sick and tired of our society, and a lot of the times when that anger comes out so many people coughs men coughs see it as sexy or sexual is Just sick. Watching your videos is so funny cause interseccionality is a thing, i'm mixed but grew up in a white household but the issues are the same, we live in hell.

"You can be apart of an oppressed group and still be apart of someone else's oppression." is such a simple concept that is incredibly difficult for so many communities to understand. This is probably why "oppression olympics" is such an issue because people subconsciously think their marginalized identities excuse them from growth or advocacy for other people. The two communities that I see this problem the most are the queer community and the autistic community. Being queer/trans does not automatically mean you are not oppressing other queer/trans people. Likewise, being autistic does not absolve someone of their bigoted views or excuse the centering of white autistic people in every conversation.

THAT INTRO! Had me slow walking around my apartment like I'm in a movie intro. Aint never felt so seen. "It was a problem, but now it's about to be an issue" >>> ATE THE HOUSE DOWN, HOUSTON I"M DECEASED! snap, snap, snap

this hit so hard, I’m a Filipino-Australian disabled woman about to be evicted by my landlord simply for challenging my rent increase. I am so distraught but most of all ANGRY. That I have been a great tenant for 5 years and in his words “his favourite tenant and such a good girl” 🤮 but when I stop playing along with his shit I am literally displaced in a housing crisis for not being a good girl anymore!!! He knows how sick I am and that I’m in hospital every year for months at a time, he knows there is no housing supply right now yet he needs to punish me for challenging a rent increase!!!!! The homeless public services that have been “helping” me all gaslight me and get so uncomfortable and try to talk me out of my red hot rage for what is being done to me by this man that has so much power over me!!! Making a disabled woman homeless in a cost of living and housing crisis is a-okay!! the real problem is being angry about it! Now that’s just gross

ugh as a daughter who was parentified it’s so hard to navigate life as a young adult when you feel like a parent to both ur siblings and ur parents. I’m SE asian, and it’s just like the black or Latino communities. It’s so frustrating and there’s no room for error ever.

The fact that it took me YEARS to unlearn that me being angry at the people who traumatized me wasn’t a bad thing and didn’t mean I was “just as bad as” them… Also this is the first video I’ve seen that focuses on black feminine rage which is cool 👍🏻👍🏽👍🏿👍🏼👍🏾

As a Sith, I approve of the feminine rage, and the black one, and the black feminine rage. Just rage in general actually. All for that rage getting things done.

every time feminine rage is shown, whether irl or in media, it’s a catharsis that makes me wanna break something and cry at the same time. scream until my voice is hoarse and my eyes hurting from tears. all the trauma i’ve experienced from men and pick-mes since i was a child all coming together at once and can’t be put into words. however, i am a white woman (i am queer but), i know that i will never be on the same level as bipoc women, especially black women, and will never be able to understand the exhaustion. however, i empathize and rage alongside with you through and through. black women need to be heard!

As a growing young black woman your channel is key to my development 💅🏾

Not centering myself, but also my single white mom with the adultification of certain aspects like free babysitting my brother while still being emotionally and socially sheltered. Love that. Be an adult when I need you to be; be the child bc you are and bc I said so—parents.

I would also like to add that if you're black, AFAB, queer AND disabled there will be a tumble of things going on. I've noticed that the minute the disability comes in to question, people want to start infantilizing that rage and reducing it to nothing since as a disabled person you are "nothing" in the eyes of the certain systems and society. For me I'm all of these (AFAB, queer, black +disabled) and I've also noticed that in the black community, the section of disabilities isn't really taken to account (but honestly it never is in any community) I see this with the queer community too even tho disabled peeps are indeed most likely to be 💅 Disabled people are just NEVER in the conversation of intersectionality or ANY conversation to be at that (even in the conversations about disabilities we're not included in 😔) Edit: Also fatness is part of that intersectionality :)

I was one of those Black woman who believed that I didn’t have any feelings. I’m turning 23 in a week and I just now started to embrace that I do and the reason why I suppressed them was due to family trauma and random encounters I had in my life. You’re right, we are entitled to feel all emotions, especially anger and if others don’t understand that, then that’s on them!

I told a psychologist I hated being so angry and was told “Anger is your barometer…don’t break the barometer” by ignoring or punishing yourself for having anger. Thank you for practicing showing your anger and teaching us the power of it. And thank you for teaching me about your experience, and for providing some painful reminders that my personal deconstruction needs to continue.