Overcoming Self-Hatred

"I hate myself." Such an odd expression. The "I" and "myself", 2 separate beings trapped in one psyche, one disgusted with the other, like 2 life long roommates - and one wants to kill the other.

The very fact that you are watching this video proves that some part of you still loves you and wants you back.

Self-hatred is a taught behavior. I love doing nothing with my time, and yet I've been trained to see that as wasting time; therefore, I placed labels on my self as lazy. This is one of the things that made me hate myself. But earlier this year, I understood that me "wasting time" is not exactly wasting. We were put on Earth not have a laundry list of shit to do. We were here for spiritual learning. So how am I wasting time by not doing the material list? I'm not. I love myself :)

I dont know if hate myself but i feel embarased about my life and my personality.

i'm starting to believe that the ultimate goal in life is to overcome the human tendency to want more.

I've hated myself since I can remember and I don't know how to make it stop. I constantly have a feeling that something bad is going to happen because of something I did.

I can't remember a period of my life when I didn't absolutely despise myself, I feel like I'm the worst person I know.

I never understood how "practicing gratitude" and "counting your blessings" can help against self-hatred. If anything, it just makes me feel more guilty by realising how much I have and how little I'm giving.

Self hatred stems greatly from comparison with others. You cannot be like others, because you aren’t them. The only real competition is your former self.

I hate myself a lot sometimes. I'm really hard on myself, even when I don't necessarily make mistakes. I suffer from anxiety and I consider myself a very unsuccessful person, I suppose that's the main reason for my self-hatred. But my personality and stupid actions annoy me too, but I guess I should try treating myself better. It's about caring for yourself, I just don't care enough.

my self loathing stem from past regrets, my high expectations and my unachievable ambition

I really do hate myself and it's actually getting worse for me as I get older. When I was a teenager I just had low self esteem and didn't like my self but now as an adult (23 yo) I can honestly say I hate myself, the way I look, the way I speak, the way I think, the way I treat myself and others, the way I compare myself to my friends, basically everything!!! I'm just inable to love myself or appreciate the blessings I have. Everytime I talk to someone I just feel like they dislike me so much, I always say the wrong things, everyday I think about the mistakes I did yearrrs ago and regret them (these mistakes really did affect my life,I lost someone I loved deeply). I'm just very sad, I'm always angry at home always getting into arguments with my family but outside the house I'm very chill around my friends (thats so hypocritical of me I know). I just spend 80% of my day feeling sad, thinking about my past and future. I'm demotivated I feel like I'm wasting my life and not doing anything to improve myself. I know very well I'm a good person, I really am nice and helpful but I have this ongoing mental struggle that just won't go away no matter how much I try. I wouldn't say I'm depressed, at least not yet lol but I definitely am suffering mentally. I never thought about suiciding and never will but I really don't wanna continue living like this I'm so tired!!

"you are holding onto it , it is not holding on to you, let go"

For me it’s disappointment in myself and a feeling of hypocrisy too.

As hard as i try to let things go, I can’t. I just can’t seem to stop beating myself up for things I’ve done. I hate feeling this way. I literally look forward to sleeping everyday so I can stop feeling like this for a while. It doesn’t last long enough.

I have tried to stop hating myself, but I can't, because everytime I tell something good to myself I feel like I am lying to myself. Edit: After a year and half I stopped hating myself and overcame depression. Working out helped me a lot and I want everyone who's struggling to know that things do get better. Even if it's hard and takes a lot of work, everyone is able to heal.

last time i was this early i still loved myself

Please, be proud of you, because you're doing the best thing ever: helping others. Plus, your voice is just perfect thank you

Honestly, i overcame my self hatred by accepting that I hate myself. Odd, but it worked for me. Because i also realize that hate is loves sister. And if i hate myself, i can learn to turn it into love