3 Reasons Not To Divorce A Spouse Who Cheated

Why can’t people just have an adult conversation, “I don’t love you any more, I’m leaving” without all the social stigma? If you realize you don’t want to be with your spouse anymore, why cheat? Just end things honestly and go live your best life

When a glass is broken, however you patch it, would never be the same again. Just like a marriage. When one betrays, the agony and pain stay forever even when forgiveness is handed.

I chose to repair my marriage after my husband had an affair in 1983 as newly weds, then in 1993 he had another affair and moved in with her. It was a hard 10 years in between. He cried and asked for another chance after both of them. Now married for 42 years to him, I see the only emotionally distraught, depressed, not trusting anyone pathetic one, is me. He has remained happy and carefree, taking trips without me having a fulfilling life and thinking of no one but himself. I gave him my youth and my heart. Think long and hard about that 10 -10-10 I pray all of you have a better life than me.

I like this speaker, he feels like he gives good “dad advice”, really tells it like it is. It is important to fight for your family, but at the same time if it makes you sick...it is important to fight for yourself first.

This is a wonderful advice. Pity he didn't give advice about how to deal with the emotional pain that seems to grow everyday, making me confused, sick, and depressed. Betrayal makes you question the integrity of everything and everyone. For the sake of my child I am doing which I consider the impossible: which is business as usual, and I guess for my sake too, because I can not endure the emotional pain. It has projected to a physical pain and I am suffering big time with aches and pain and poor health. God I am doing your will as to not breaking this marriage. Please help me and envelope me with your grace and love. Please show me the path to heal emotionally and physically.

It takes two to fight for the marriage. People who cheat really don’t care about their partner. If they did…they would care about hurting their other partner.

Once the dignity and trust of either partner is damaged ,it shall stay with you and back of your mind rest of your life

I would rather be alone than be with a cheater. I don't care if I never find someone ever again, if you cheat, we are done.

This isn't 3 reasons not to devorce. This is 3 questions to ask yourself to find your own 3 reasons!

Crazy I’m trying to move forward and forgive but it’s so hard when the reality is still replaying in your head 😮

How do you get over the fact that your spouse was intimate with someone else? That someone else touched your spouse in places and ways only you are supposed to?

She cheated and doesn’t feel bad about it so she’s not worth it!

A cheater will cheat again and again and again....marriage of 30 years praying didn’t stop him from serial cheating counseling didn’t stop him...I believe in trying to save a marriage however I went through a lot of pain and abuse for decades!!!!! Leave and let God heal you....and if healing occurs on both sides then maybe reconciliation.

I love how another person can use your spouse as a carnival ride and just walk away with a big smile. Getting caught is the traumatic part for cheaters… not the betrayal. Trying to be intimate with your spouse after she/he cheats and seeing the look of disappointment in her face when your finished is something I have zero interest in. She demonstrated who was important to their heart… just can’t change it because they got caught

This will certainly favor those with damage self-esteem. Not me. Haven't had my ex wife sleep out out of the marrital home for over one month and finding out she was sleeping at another man's house was enough for me to divorce her, you can forgive a cheater as much as you like, when the time comes around, most will surely cheat as many times as you can forgive them. So get rid of those cheater immediately Trust is as Fragile as a glass, once it's broken it's broken

10-10-10.....you forgive your spouse 1× he cheats again, then cheats again....30-30-30???? Seriously. .....why always the one that has been hurt and humiliated has to think about the kids, the cheater and everyone. 😭💔

I tried to forgive and understand why it happened rather than focusing on it happening, but what I ended up with was my spouse feeling like I was the one needing to prove I was good enough for him to stay loyal and receiving pictures and being told details about these girls he was cheating with so that he could control me and destroy me completely. It took me a year to realize he wasnt gonna change and 3+ years later Im left battling anxiety, panic attacks, self esteem issues, trust issues and depressive episodes...what for? I forgave him for my own well being, and forgave myself too, but never again will I try and take back someone who cheated on me. Once a cheater always a cheater. Im Sorry.

Actions need to have consequences, good Dr. Let that sink in for a minute. It's not "punish the person who hurt you," it's establish that actions have consequences. Without those consequences, the odds are that the unfaithful spouse will repeat the infidelity.

My wife of 20 years cheated on me because I treat her like shit and didn’t respect her and I was broken hearted but I forgive her and she regretted also so bad for what she did and we are better now then before .I change alot of course and I feel bad for pushing her into somebody else’s arms by the way I treated her !Lesson learn

Most people continue to cheat. After you take them back is it really worth it to be hurt all over again