Why Doesn't the Unfaithful See What They Are in Danger of Losing?

The thought that your spouse doesn’t think of you before they act is horrific. Everything every decision I make I think of my family/spouse first.

I actually don't know how anyone could lie to their romantic partner about having sex with another person and not puke. It's just beyond my comprehension.

It has been 2 years since D-day and a little over 1 year since my husband moved out. I've officially given up on saving my marriage. Why? Because he's disinterested in listening to me; still lying; refuses to engage in intimacy; doesn't spend time with me outside of the house; and refuses to disclose where he lives. I'm tired and it is clear he's either still "with his a.p. or found a new one. I love him, but I deserve more.

My wife admits she thought about what she would lose, but the excitement outweighed those things. Like all other unfaithful spouses, she thought she wouldn’t get caught and could end it without me ever knowing.

I have to call BS on they aren't thinking about what they are doing/losing. The lies are proof they know what they are doing. The coverups show they know they will loose everything. The unfaithful just doesn't value their family enough and are willing to risk loosing them for a cheap lay.

This made me feel worse. I wasn’t important enough to risk loosing 💔

The devil knows the temptation and the cheater doesn’t see the consequences? How? We all know what happens because of affairs. The truth is at the time, the cheater just doesn’t care.

So the cheating spouse is only sorry they got caught.

My husband duped me into thinking he was an upstanding man. 12yrs no red flags whatsoever so when he started acting differently I knew something was up, turned out he was bonking his work colleague - half his age. Of course 3 months later he realised the grass wasn’t greener… I tell him I love him but I know I’m going to leave him when the time is right. He has no idea how deep the wound goes…. But he will.

I am no longer able to trust or love my husband deeply . .

I feel like the unfaithful is over loved their every need is being met

Whenever I ask, I am met with "I don't remember", or "I was wrong, I'm sorry". Very frustrating.'

Love without responsibility is the greatest feeling in the world.... That sums up infidelity in a nut shell.

It's not about why men cheat but how men justify lack of self discipline And self control in marriage. The unfaithful should repent and seek forgiveness show remorse and build bridges

The unfaithful men say it is only lust and desire, great sex, feeling understood, thinking of their lovers 24/7 and having the best sexual thrills in their lives and had no intention of hurting their spouses!! No emotional involvement whatsoever...They kept it a secret as they knew very well they were doing wrong. They made a conscious decision every day to contact their lovers. And only stopped when they were caught out... And the betrayers expect their betrayed spouses to accept their apologies for hurting their feelings, like really. I think what hurts most must be the fact that they can't apologise for having the best sex and time in their lives, and can only apologies for hurting the other partners feelings...

My unfaithfully spouse just keeps quiet. That pisses me off .

It has been years since the betrayal. My husband says he has always loved me even while cheating. What does this mean? How can he have loved me while hurting me?

Man. I just can’t comprehend how some people cheat. I don’t get it at all.

Thank you! You finally said the realization of the consequences of cheating. As for me, married to a sex addict... The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. And that's where a lot of us are. The cost is incalculable. So much damage has been done, indifference is the safest place to be. I will never, ever, be "back in" to this marriage. It has cost way too much. I struggled also with suicide, I still have PTSD. I want to live and not die, with or without him. Why, he thinks because he is "sorry" and uses a lot of Band-Aids, "I love you"… They mean nothing. You need to go deeper. The heartbreak, the gut wrenching, the destruction , is incalculable. You should also include spousal abuse. I can guarantee you it is in every marriage where there has been cheating and more. Please, go deeper with this. And don't be so shy to talk about the spiritual aspects of this. It is demonic as hell. Don't worry about offending those who don't believe, please… my husband has not been in his right mind in over 38 years. Go deeper. 👍🏽✝

My wife didn't think she'd get caught. And plus in her mindset at the time she thought she'd be ready to lose me if she did get caught. But when caught and it was actually a possible reality that she was facing, she quickly realized she didn't want to lose me and the life we have. She quickly realized the affair was not worth it at all