The Difference Between Being an Empath & Being Codependent

I learned this: "Whatever people give you, they can take away. Whomever you need, controls you. Need people less, love them more."

Whenever you bind your happiness to external sources, it's like you throw away the key for your wellbeing.

“I understand you” vs. “I need to fix you”...perfect analogy

"Allow yourself to be uncomfortable." Wow. Game changing for me.

Just what I needed to hear. This is exactly where I am at in my recovery from codependency. At 51, I have just learned that it is not selfish to put your needs first, it's Self care.

I get lost in a relationship it’s as if I stop being me and give up doing things on my own. Learning every day though thanks for this

Detached. Observing not reacting. Choosing to respond. Not react. Mindful in the moment. Not feeing guilty bout saying no no more.

Being empathic makes it hard for me to recognize manipulation sometimes

Breaking always from co-dependency is like learning a new language. I was trained from childhood to cater to my parents emotional needs and therefore did not have my own heard or seen. I am learning them now, and making sure my son can speak his emotional truth

People really need to learn to be happy alone. Now more than ever.

Re: Boundaries.. I started practicing by looking in the mirror, and saying, " I'd really like to help, but sorry I can't." ... because i noticed i would drop everything to go help others, but started feeling bad when it was never returned. Still a work in progress at 60. I do have a good handle on acceptance now. 😊Empaths and anxiety go hand in hand too i believe. Namastè 🙏🏻❤

With my ex-husband, if we received a bill on Friday. I would hide it until Monday because I didn’t want to ruin his weekend! Seriously! So happy on my own!

I was both at one time because I was raised that way. My mom never says no and builds resentment. She's tired all of the time and feels guilty when she rests. In order to break the codependent part, I had to learn boundaries and I will say no in a heartbeat and when asked why won't I do something, my response has been "I just don't feel like doing it." My mom seems shocked when I'm able to establish and keep boundaries with people. It's very liberating and I was amazed at how many people was actually upset that I will no longer let them walk over me. It's very unfortunate but life is so much more peaceful now.

I am with a narcissist and discovering why I am staying. This codependency topic is describing me, as well as the empathy. It is time to focus my energy on fixing me instead of accommodating or fixing others. Thanks for the insight!!

I’m hearing impaired. I love what you are saying. I can hear you. You have amazing diction and allow, me, at least, to read your lips. Thank you

you are right when you say that the other person has to be ok for us to be ok. Just light bulb went on!!!!!!

Wow I just learned Im both an empath and codependent.

I think I'm more of an empath but I deal with people trying to manipulating me almost everyday. It's just better to be alone sometimes but I need some good friendships with healthy people.

I am a recovering empath with codependent tendencies so you could imagine what most of my relationships have looked like. My mother was a drug addict and was killed when I was 8 yrs old and my father was never around until her death but was still distant. This was the beginning of the emotional rollercoaster my life had been since then and finally at age 33 I am just now seeming to breakthrough this blockage that has kept me from actually living. I use to feel it was my job to save everyone only to realize I lost myself in the process. I send out a big congratulations to everyone here because I guarantee this is the first step to not just living but actually being ALIVE! You are all appreciated if noone every told you and your definitely not alone in this journey. ⭐🙏❤️🌹🍀🌈🌟☀️🐝🌻🧚✨💪💪💪💪

I have been co-dependent with my son. I understand to stay out of the way now and let his life take it's own path. I finally let go and holy crap, how liberating. Yes, it was a painful thing to watch initially; however, today the bonus is.. HE has grown so much. Everybody is so much happier today.