Jordan Peterson- "I Discovered My Wife Had an Affair" How do I navigate this?

There's no greater revenge on a man that steals your wife than to let him keep her

I went through this 4 years ago. To call it a kick in the guts is a vast understated. The one thing in the world I was certain I could rely on was my Wife's loyalty . I would have layed down my life without hesitation to protect her. I could have somehow coped if it was just sexual. But I asked her " Do you love him?" She replied " I think so." Then I asked her " Do you love me?" She replied " No." I'm now a 55 year old hermit. I don't know what the future holds for me. He dumped her a fortnight after she dumped me.

Psychopath ex actually gave me advice: "Use people. Take advantage of them. It is just a game. Not your fault if they are foolish and believe you". Stunning that there are people like that out there.

Affairs are heart breaking. I feel sorry for this guy and anyone who gets cheated on. It’s such a violation of marriage

I found out my wife was having an affair. Thankfully I didn't have kids. He was on his second marriage after cheating on his first and was now cheating on his second, whom he had akid with. I didn't tell her at all while I got myself a lawyer. I had to not say anything for two weeks while I found a lawyer and got the divorce papers ready. When she was finally served, it was such a relief for me. I was able to move on by finding a better higher paying job in a new state and bought my own house. I have picked up skiing and started making new friends. I was lucky to be able to restart my life and be in a good place again. I know many people don't have that kind of luxury. I hope everyone who deals with this is able to recover and be an even better person.

During my divorce from a narcissist I came across the quote "I'll always love the false image I had of you". Read that again and remember it. Loving the good memories of someone who betrayed you is not love.

If the betrayal tells their partner exactly what happened, exactly the same way in words and emotions as they tell their friends about the affair, almost no partner will ever take them back.

You leave, immediately and never look back!! ❤

I actually found out about that terrible betrayal and as a parent of a little girl, it shattered my world and still does. Finding out that a person is capable of that really bothers me, especially when the narcissistic, psychopathic personality exists out there. It's tough to move forward and redefine myself. I hope that all betrayed people find peace and calm.

Thank you, Jordan. My wife crossed a line in the sand over a year ago and never said sorry it will never happen again, just it makes me happy, so what's the big deal. A lot of your videos have helped over the year, but this video, I mean, wow. I told her I wanted a divorce about 2 weeks ago, and it was like a semi has been lifted off my sole.

I wish I had discovered this man's wisdom decades ago, it would have saved me a lifetime of grief and sorrow.

I Discovered My Wife Had an Affair" How do I navigate this? You divorce her, no exceptions, a woman's fidelity is the cornerstone of a relationship so if she has cheated it's over. Any man that tolerates that is a fool, it doesn't matter whether you love her or not - deep down she has contempt for you...

My ex was bi-polar and BPD. 20 years of stress and then an affair. Wish I could have pulled myself up outa that despair sooner, as it took years. I got custody of our two children and 15 years later my children are over 21 and I am still single. My ex married the guy and was miserable with him towards the end. She died young and missed out on raising our children and wasn’t allowed to enjoy our first grandchild. I just feel sorry for what she missed. Her new hubby got what he wanted and his health isn’t good. He never had any siblings or children and didn’t understand life very well…he was quite a bit younger than my ex or me. Trying my best to be a good father and grandfather.

Here’s what you do. She is not deserving of the pedestal you have her on. Quietly speak with a lawyer and move in the direction of divorce. Don’t fight with her. Protect your heart. And move on realizing there’s something wrong with her.

My wife cheated , then ran off overseas with the guy November 2010 . Left me with 3 kids all under the age of 13.I have not recovered since then I’m 60 can’t trust anyone the shame and disgrace this bought me , I cannot recover from. My kids are grown up and are great kids, I hope in my next life I don’t find her again.

Simple. Fired. Gone. Out. Bye. I think people should be able to sue their partner for breach of contract. Simple as that.

If anyone cheats on you, you leave and become a better person and move on. Life is too short to be with a cheater. If they are capable of doing that to someone they love, they are a broken person, and it’s not your job to fix someone

If you don't have kids leave and show yourself you're a much better person than your wayward. If you have kids also leave and show them how a man responds to such a disrespect.

Just had this happened to me. Been together 27, married 25 years with 2 kids. Its devasting, but the excuses and lack of accountability makes it even worse. He's right in stating that the confession and regrets have to be as deep as the actual affair. If she's just "sorry" she hurt you and the family, a reconciliation won't work since she is making excuses to avoid accountability. Ask me how I know... But to all the commenters saying...dump and divorce her. Its easy when you have not been married for long and have no kids. In my case, there would be a lot of collateral damage beyond the kids to consider and the impact on your eminent retirement .

If your wife cheats on you get rid of her, you chose poorly, do what you have to do to get out of it with as little financial trauma as possible. You can never trust a cheating woman again.