9 Traits of Borderline Personality Disorder

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I'm relieved to find out that I only exhibit 13 of the 9 traits.

just starting to realise that it isn't normal to feel intensely sad, stressed, relaxed and happy all within half an hour

She explains such a complexed topic in a way that makes it easy to digest. This Doctor is a remarkable woman and a joy to listen to

Wow. I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 15. I have never heard it explained so well. She literally hit every part of what I feel. BPD is not fun. It is a daily struggle. I hate that I'm like this and am trying so hard to change it. My heart goes out to anyone here struggling with BPD because it really is so freaking hard. I'm so glad that I am not alone in my struggle. It makes me feel less crazy.

The worst part is when you just KNOW your reaction is innappropriate but you still keep doing it without any control knowing you slowly make the other person feel horrible especially when they don't know about the disorder and then you spend a lot of time feeling guilty and thinking about how bad of a human you are :/

"They want to be alive, at the same time they want to be dead-- because they can't manage that pain."

I ultimately lost my daughter to BPD a year and a half ago…she was 24 when she took her life. She suffered for so long and she had been in and out of psychiatric hospital/ drug rehabilitation programs. I tried so hard to save her and yet I couldn’t. My world is so dark without her💔

My friend does exactly what this woman explained. I had to focus on studies, I was really busy, she snapped. In a flick of moment we argue, because I tried to reason with her. Only when she burts into tears she kept apologzing. That's when I seen how much serious is and how much she fears people will leave her. I stayed because I want to help her. I want her to know she is not alone. Thank you for this video.

"I FeEl LiKe WeRe AlL lIkE tHaT" This is why I hate explaining my illness

That rug really tied the room together.

Hey fellow BPDs, I come to share a little thing that helped me a great deal, it touches mostly the identity issue, but helps all around. It doesn't fix everything, but it helps finding some stability. Find your core values, refine them and hold on to them, make that the foundation of your identity. I find it's a good anchor that helps stabilize that personality and better manage emotions and behaviors.

I think something not talked about a lot is that many people develop similar traits when in an abusive relationship with narcissists. Infidelity can cause you to feel some of these things also and lots of times its a combo of the two

My husband once said of me "You're like a beautiful garden with landmines."

“They want to be alive but at the same time they want to be dead because they cannot deal with the pain” wow. Just wow. That hit hard.

Just found out that i have BPD. At 29, now all my life makes sense. I've realized that since I found out I know exactly what and who triggers me, I was able to reduce the anger by distancing myself of certain people but as soon has they are with me and say smth that bothers me ( my mother criticizing me ) sends me into a crises of mood swings in minutes and feeling lots of anger. I only feel calm when im alone now. Lord, I'm starting therapy. Good luck, everyone ❤

I was diagnosed with BPD 11 years ago. It’s been a struggle and I know that it’s been hard for those that love me. It’s really no joke. This woman really explained it well.

"People with BPD don't want to be dead but they also don't want to be alive." Wow, that's me exactly.

Friend: I love your personality Me: thanks, its a disorder

Wow when she said that you want to be alive but want to be dead because you can’t manage that pain… that’s exactly how I feel. Like this world, my kids, my husband would be better off without a crazy, unstable person like me. I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder 2 years ago and feel it may have been a misdiagnosis. Everything this woman said explains me directly. Have a new assessment next Friday and hopefully we can figure out what’s going on with me.. praying for anyone still trying to figure out and cope with their mood disorder, whichever it may be 💗