What's the difference between Gender Identity and Gender Expression? Trans man explains

Does anyone have any idea: Why do we have to say different word sounds in the Serbian language depending on which gender is the person we're talking to? What is that even called? I call that "gender expressions". For example, if we were to use a past form of any verb that was done by a male person, the male gender expression would end with "-o", and if it was done by a female person the female one would end with "-la". If we were to say an adjective of any female person, the female gender expression would end with "-a", and if we talk about a male person it would sound the same but without the "a". I'm afraid of using the gender expression of every female person when I talk to them (except my mother until now) because I thought it sounded kinda weird to me ever since I was like 11, and I'm also not afraid of using the gender expression of every male person I talk to (except my father at most times). I'm trying to stop being afraid of that anytime soon. I once asked my mother "Šta si kupio?" instead of "kupila" which means "What did you buy?" in Serbian, even though she is female, but only because I just wanted to try that and nothing bad would happen if we do so. My classmate from the primary school named Aleksandar Jevtić told my mother that he went to preschool with me and then I said "Kako to nisi znala, mama?", which means "How did you not know that, mom?" in English, but then my classmate Danica Novičić thought I was talking to her because she is also female. There are in fact some times when I used the gender expression of female people that I talked to, but that was before I started being afraid of it. 1) I once pulled the strings of my sweatshirt while being hooded to hide my whole face except my nose so that I could breathe and then one person named Petra Horvat somehow knew it was me, so then I said "Kako si znala da sam to ja?" which means "How did you know that was me?". 2) I used to beat my school classmate named Nikolina Katanić for no reason... I mean, it was actually because I thought she was beating me up first but she was actually just hugging me, but everyone else didn't believe me. I didn't actually admit that I was doing that for no reason, I just said that so people wouldn't disagree with me, you can also say things that you don't think are true without meaning it. I once asked her "Šta si ustvari radila?" which means "What were you actually doing?" in Serbian. 3) When I went to preschool, I asked my educator "Da li si rekla gde idemo?" which means "Did you say where we are going?". I was actually supposed to do one thing to her that only exists in Serbian and that is called "persirati", that is used when we talk to certain people like school teachers and it sounds as if we're talking to more than just one person. 4) Not sure if I have also used the gender expression of another female person who I talked to, I don't really remember but my school classmate named Katarina Timotijević screamed into my ear and I think I then said "Probušila si mi bubnu opnu." which means "You popped my eardrum." I also used the gender expression of another female person that I talked to which was after I started being afraid of that, but I could only do that once and not any other time, so I guess that means that this is going to be one wrong thing that I have done once in the past and now I'm starting to regret it, or maybe that's only because I behaved a lot different then than I usually do; I was pretending that I got amazed by the way that one person named Anastasija Stojiljković added a straight hair to a photo of me and then I said "Kako si to uradila?" which means "How did you do that?".

I’m a girly girl and I’m cisgender and I like being called she .

Another related term is 'gender label' which is what you call your understanding of your gender identity so you can communicate it to others more succinctly and directly than through y our gender expression, since it's impossible to communicate an innate sense.

Could someone describe what it feels like to have an innate sense of their gender apart from gender expression and biology? I'm not sure that I have that (that doesn't mean it's not real, of course, I'm just trying to understand). Like I get wanting to present as masculine or feminine, but that's a separate thing according to this - that's expression. I also understand how people might dislike certain aspects of their body, but that's also a separate thing, that's kind of like body dysmorphia, right? Is it just about preferring a certain label or certain pronouns? Like what is it exactly that makes you sense that you are one over the other?

When/why would a non binary person not use they/them pronouns? I don't mean it in a rude way, I'm just confused and want to learn.

I applaud you for keeping your comment section open. Don't let those being wilfully ignorant keep you down.

Isn't it amazing how FTM look far more convincing than MTF. I personally would never touch a trans & I don't care how uncool that is this day in age. I can't help being straight & shouldn't be pushed towards someone I don't want!

0:42 "Gender identity - A person's innate sense of their own gender". Most people don't have such a sense, what is this innate sense? What is the difference between having a sense of female gender and a sense of male gender?

“...that can be stereotypically related to gender.” So this is based on stereotypes. This is regressive and even conservative. Gender is not assigned at birth. It is observed and recorded. You were not perceived that way because of your gender identity, otherwise you would have been perceived as a boy.. You were perceived as female because that is the gender you were born with. You need to define what you mean by gender. The vast majority of us use it as a synonym for sex. If gender expression doesn’t match gender identity, is gender expression even an accurate term? Myths 2 & 3: I’m sorry, that’s not how pronouns work.

Thank you, thank you, and thank you. I get so tired of explaining why I use my preferred pronouns. It’s our choice 🏳️‍🌈

Saying how edited and how long I imagine these videos take they should have more likes

zir cool term. Another one mx

Why was I not surprised in the least that you were born female before you even said a word? Don't you realize that what you call gender expression does nothing more than reinforce stereotypes? When guys put on dresses and makeup because they want to be seen as girls, that reinforces that stereotype that girls wear dresses and makeup. Why can't you just be a guy that likes to wear dresses and makeup? Gender is what you are. Gender roles are what you do. You can identify as anything you want. But that doesn't make it true. What you do is one thing. What you are is another. Doing something does not change what you are.

The comments calling out this bullshit give me so much hope.

Pinknews should really color the word pink in a baby blue. Why are they still operating by cis-heteronormative stereotypes?

When I was a young man (late teens and early 20s) I was absolutely terrified by girls. I think if transgenderism was popular back then, I'd also be incredibly confused!

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All very subjective and contested. Hopefully Pink News will be going the same way as Mermaids some time soon.

And this is one of the reasons why Pink News and Stonewall are no longer of relevance.