Ob/Gyn Reviews IUD Horror Story | Molly Burke

Hey! I appreciate you doing this video, I learned a lot! As I mentioned in my video, I'm not a professional and was simply sharing my experience, which is exactly what my channel is all about - honestly sharing my life experiences. It was not my intension to scare anyone away from getting an IUD or away from female doctors. I will personally never get another IUD and feel more comfortable with male Gyno's, but as I said in the video, that's because we all have different life experiences that change our perspective/perception. I in no way meant to put female doctors down, but in my case I had 2 female doctors working with me at the time who both showed no compassion or support to me and then a male doctor did - this shaped how I feel because it deeply affected me emotionally. I'm happy that since posting my video many have shared their positive experiences, which I know is statistically the majority of those who get IUD's, otherwise they wouldn't keep inserting them. Many have also privately reached out sharing stories similar to mine, some much worse, and have found support through me sharing my experience, which I'm so happy about. I didn't look up horror stories or negative side-affects going into getting my IUD because I didn't want to convince myself I would experience those issues - it wasn't until I was searching for answers to my issues that I found those forums and realized I wasn't crazy, this was real, and I wasn't alone. Some may be put off by things I said but I'm human and I shared my authentic story, which was extremely vulnerable and scary to share, so I appreciate people being respectful of that and not being negative towards me or that fact atet I may not have known all the right terms or things to say. Again, thanks for making this video and being so kind and open, I hope others in the comments can do the same.

It's amazing how far women would go for contraception and then some men are like "ohhh man, I don't like condoms".

The last time I went in to get my IUD replaced the woman who was getting hers replaced right before me was in the next room over and she was screaming for them to stop. I could hear the doctor say to her “No, you don’t actually want us to stop, because it will just take longer when you already would be on your way home right now if you would have let us do it.” This woman went from sobbing to completely complacent and silent. SHE WAS SHAMED INTO A TRAUMA RESPONSE BY HER DOCTOR. Then he said, “Most women are in and out in 2 minutes” to which one of the nurses said “to be fair, she has not had any children.” He didn’t acknowledge this comment and instead said “Come on now. You can handle it. It is just 3 cramps.” (I 100% believe in my soul that should roles reverse and men be the ones forced to endure things like this, they would be given heating pads, ibuprofen, laughing gas, and local anesthesia, every time, regardless of how many or few kids they birthed). I heard that women whimpering as they forced her to do the procedure she told them she didn’t want them to perform anymore. By the time the nurse came into my side of the suite to grab me for MY TURN, I was in a complete PTSD meltdown. I was shaking and crying and couldn’t formulate words and couldn’t look at the doctor when he came in to introduce himself. I finally told them you could hear literally everything that happened to the woman before me and the doctor made a giant exaggerated SIGH and said “And, in a couple of minutes you are going to see that very same woman walk herself out of the office completely fine.” I looked at the nurse and said I needed help. I didn’t really know what I meant exactly but that was all I could articulate in the moment. She said something to the doctor and a couple of minutes later she and I were alone in the room sitting silently while she patiently waited for me to feel comfortable/safe enough to talk to her. I said I couldn’t have that doctor. She started to say he was the only doctor signed up for the procedure room for the day but she cut herself off mid explanation and excused herself from the room. A PTSD eternity later, and she came back in with a female doctor and explained that she had an idea she wanted to run by me. She said she was actually a doctor finishing up her residency or something like that and asked if I would be comfortable if she did the procedure? She added that the woman she brought in would be there to help her if she needed any assistance. That is when I noticed the other woman was holding a plastic tray with some items in them. The doctor explained to me the second part of her idea was to use a topical numbing spray they use in the dentistry clinic to numb the skin of my cervix. And when I was ready she would then use a little bit of local anesthesia with a needle and make sure my cervix was completely numbed up before they tried to take the IUD out. And that’s exactly what happened that day. I just hope to whatever deity is out there that when I need to get my next one replaced in 2022 that I will get a doctor who is willing to help me like that lady was that day! …I still have nightmares where I hear that poor woman begging and screaming… Side note: That is also how I learned that anesthesia can make your heart race temporarily and make you feel like you are having some anxiety

I tried to get an IUD placed when I was 18 and basically completely ignorant of my own organs, and had never had anything in my vagina before, let alone any cervix dilation. I was unable to relax my muscles at all so the doctor couldn't even get her fingers in properly, and I was crying from the pain. She stopped, because obviously an insertion was not happening that day, and asked me why I was trying to get an IUD at all, and talked me in to trying other birth control options (which have worked very well). She was super kind and understanding, I was crying from shame but she reassured me that IUD's aren't for everyone, and that's okay!! I hope all my future OBGYNs are so empathetic and kind.

If your doctor tells you "side effects don't exist" get a different doctor...

Moral of the story: If your physician isn‘t compassionate and professional, change to someone else. I did that with my dentist. My body, my choice.

I have four friends that have IUDs put in. Three of them, love theirs would never give them up, the fourth one had the same exact story as Molly the whole way through. The crappy doctors, the pelvic infection and having to get it removed at the emergency room. Also getting yelled at by her primary doctor afterwards.

I agree with Mama Doctor Jones on this. The quality of an OB/GYN has nothing to do with their gender. I personally have had several, of all shapes, sizes and genders and they’ve all been wonderful

Doctor: side effects are fake Me: well my pharmacology degree is USELESS

It was really amazing how Dr Jones corrected Molly and disagreed in certain aspects but still made it clear that she respected her and didnt take anything away from Molly's experience

My primary doctor, OBGYN, and I are discussing specifically the Mirena IUD to help treat my heavy periods. He was honest and literally described the procedure feeling like a labor contraction. A mom of three, it gave me a point of reference. He also recommended scheduling the procedure towards the end of a menstrual cycle where I'm still bleeding a bit because the cervix is softer. This OBGYN is my primary care doctors doctor and has proven to be amazing.

I’ve never had a female gyno and I can tell you there are equally bad male Gyno’s as females. I do have a female urogynecologist and she is amazing and wonderful. She has to stick a catheter in me every 6 weeks to treat my interstitial cystitis and she is super gentle and always goes slow with me, even though I’ve been getting these treatments for years. She is also very reassuring and constantly tells me, throughout, how good I’m doing and how impressed she is with my strength.

Doctors like Mollys who don't believe in side effects and scream at you for going to the ER should have their licence revoked!!

I remember when I got my IUD put in. It was so painful, I got tunnel vision, and nearly blacked out until the OB/GYN reminded me to breath. lol I was talking with a group of female friends who all also had IUDs. None of theirs were as painful. They started to make fun of girls who complain about it being so painful! Saying they are just weak, or have low pain tolerance. I had to butt in and tell them, that can't be the case, because my pain tolerance is very high. I accidentally got my finger cut off and made the person driving me to the hospital stop at Taco Bell on the way because I was hungry. I fell off a horse I was training once, and went jet skiing the next day. Come to find out I had fractured two vertebra when I fell off that horse... I went jet skiing WITH A BROKEN BACK. (It was a blast, but painful and dangerous, had I known I broke my back I wouldn't have gone) IUDs insertions are different case to case and body to body. Don't let anyone tell you, your pain is because you're weak!

I had my IUD put in last week. The doc thought I was going to pass out, and they only told me to take 2 Advil about an hour before the appointment. It was awful. I was literally screaming, I was shaking and sweating. I honestly feel somewhat traumatized from it. I want to cry just thinking of the pain.

I also had a really terrible experience with an attempted IUD insertion that was horrible largely because of the way that my physician was handled things. I felt so small and stupid and dramatic and not listened to at the time (I was 17), and it is really validating to hear you reinforce the idea that women deserve to be respected and listened to as patients. My OBGYN, I later learned, did not believe me when I told her that I was a virgin with absolutely zero sexual experience (I had also never had a pap smear or pelvic exam) during consultation (so she was a lot less gentle with me), didn't give me any information about what to expect after the insertion, got angry at me when I started screaming and crying during the procedure and asked her to stop, and then told me to hurry up and make a decision because she had another appointment in 10 minutes. I was also told by the person who came with me that I needed to "grow up and get over it" because "we are women and this is just what we have to deal with." My sister-in-law just got an IUD, and I was blown away by how gentle, patient, her physician was and how much information she was given ahead of time. The knowledge that my experience was not okay and not normal actually made me feel a lot better about trying again with a different physician. I am 22 now, and I am going to try again. I am still very very nervous, but I have a better sense of how to advocate for myself, and I'm really grateful for channels like this that help educate and empower female patients to find providers who are worthy of them.

I really appreciate how you explain what Molly says without "attacking" her or discrediting her story either. Your content is chock-full of facts and sympathy, and it is delightful to watch. Thank you for yet again another great video!

Emotional maturity should be a requirement for health care professionals.

From my own experience I wish my doctor had given me a warning to the possible amount of pain since she knew I was a sexual assault victim, I know that pain is normal but I wouldn’t go through the putting in or taking out for all the money in the world. It can be wonderful for many women but hearing Molly’s horror story made me feel way less alone

Almost all of these problems were the doctors not telling Molly things she needed to beforehand and could have been easily avoided. That's so terrible I hope she has a much better experience soon