You've had a missed miscarriage - now what? / how to pick between the 3 options

I am crying as I’m reading through the comments. I lost my baby at 6w, my heart sank when I was told there was no heartbeat. I hope and pray all the women going through this get all the necessary help and support.

Thank you you get it! I was 12 weeks pregnant and the baby's heart just stopped my Dr told me my baby passed two days before because their was a heart beat at my last ultrasound me and my husband were crushed . Now I'm not bleeding I'm not cramping the Dr says my body doesn't know my baby has passed. I pray healing over all the moms having to go through this ❤

My daughter went for her 12 week appt yesterday and they couldn’t find the heartbeat. The ultrasound showed the baby stopped growing at 8w5d. This is so heartbreaking. We had already started to get onesies and swaddles. She chose the meds and will be taking them tomorrow and I’ll be by her side through it all. I wish she would have chosen the D&C just so she wouldn’t have to go through more pain and see it all. Prayers for all the mommas going through the same ❤

My baby stopped growing at 5w5d when I was supposed to be 11 weeks…I’ve felt so lost and this video and comments have made me feel like I’m not alone. Thank you so much for sharing this❤

Thank you so much for sharing your personal story and details. I have never had a miscarriage and am 35/36 weeks pregnant with my second child. Learning more about miscarriage makes me very grateful for what I have. A couple of months or so before this current pregnancy I did have what seemed to be a failed attempted pregnancy or failed implantation (without IVF). It seemed like my body was going attempting to conceive, but something didn't go right. My doctor had me get an ultrasound because she agreed with my suspicions, but nothing was found. I suppose it all passed out before the ultrasound. It was an emotional experience for me, I remember crying when I felt the cramping because I didn't think it was a normal period. Fortunately, I didn't go through the process of getting a positive pregnancy test or telling friends/family I thought I was pregnant because it happened so early. Ironically, my older sister ended up having an actual miscarriage around the same time and had to experience pushing out a baby. I can only imagine how deeply life changing a full-on miscarriage can be. My heart goes out to everyone who has had to endure such a thing. Thanks again for sharing this powerful information.

I see how hard this was for you to do and talk about. But I thank you so so much. My daughter had 2nd miscarriage yesterday. She is devastated. I'll have her watch your videos and hopefully not feel so alone. I'm sorry for your losses. Thank you for sharing and know this will help so many other woman.

It's been three years, and I still feel sadness after losing my baby. God bless any family experiencing a loss so heavy.

I went through this a few years ago and am listening now bc I still feel like I’m healing from it. Thanks for making this video 💕

This was the most helpful, informative, and thoughtful video. I needed advice on my options after bad news at my ultrasound apt, and this video made me feel so seen. I’ve never felt so connected to someone through a screen. Thank you for sharing the info, but also for sharing your heart. I felt it and needed it ❤

Thank you so much for making this. I am currently in the waiting phase of miscarriage and was looking for some helping words. I appreciate you sharing.

Thank you so much for your generosity in sharing such difficult experiences in order to help others through their own turmoil. It means a lot and I feel so seen even though we don't know each other.

I found out yesterday and I have to wait till Wednesday to be seen at the hospital, but the midwives warned me it’s likely to happen before then. I’m absolutely terrified and I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this more than twice. I was briefly explained the methods over the phone, but it was important and helpful for me to hear about the emotional side of things by watching this video. Thank you x

Hi Bettina, Thank you so much for making this video and thank you for being transparent and building the courage and strength to talk about this sensitive topic. You have really helped me in choosing my options for managing miscarriage. We lost our baby and it was heart breaking. It's difficult dealing with the loss. I am still coming to terms with it. I wish you the very best for the future and hope that God blesses you with a child very soon.

Best video I have found addressing this topic. I’m at the tail end of my natural miscarriage after a missed miscarriage. Most traumatic physical experience of my life so far. I’m saving your video to share with others in the future. Thank you for making this.

Thank you for this. Just received word yesterday, and feeling quite lost. I appreciate your guidance in our next steps.

Thank you so much for making this. Your tears make it clear that you understand. I was leaning towards medication but I was still worried that I would be subjecting myself to unnecessary pain and trauma vs. the D&C. Your point about getting to be home, with childcare arranged and a support person with you, and then expecting a flood of emotional pain during the process….this feels like the right path for me. I need to release this pain.

Thank you so much for this video ♥ This is full of so much valuable information and I feel like I found it at the perfect time. I also really appreciate how honest it is about each option as I just found out I need to consider them after hearing some unfortunate news after a second ultrasound appointment at 8 weeks, 6 days with my first pregnancy.

Thank you for that video. Im currently goin thrue natural miscarriage, not informed very well and my most sad part of it is I am feeling completely alone with it. My partner doesn't care and doesn't want to put much interest in this process, can't count with my family and plus the fact that I am abroad, with my other kid and cant take good care for myself.. Writing this here feels a lil better. And finding woman like you sharing their experience helps. Sending lots of love to you all brave woman

I had a pre- NIPT test ultrasound at 11 weeks a few days ago where the sonographer told me there was no heartbeat. It’s unbelievable, it died at 9 weeks but I still feel so many pregnancy symptoms. My first pregnancy and I am devastated, I am grieving not only the baby but my hopes and dreams for the future. I am now waiting for the hospital to contact me for a D&C, just wish my body understood it’s over now.

So sorry for your loss ♡