WITHIN WITH HAZEL S3 EP7 HLENGIWE NKWANYANA

Samke was my student at Tholukukhanya high school, she was a very intelligent, respectful child. I knew her mom as well, she was a SGB member at my school. Hlengiwe loved her daughter, i wish God can just intervine

Hazel you’re such a good listener. You allowed her to fully express herself without interruption. Big ups to you!!!

If I could have some money, I can help this woman, to better her life, go back to school and be a better person. She has got a lot of potential

Ukhulumisa okomzali ozwe ubuhlungu, we honestly forget that our parents are also human beings. I hope she finds healing inhliziyo yakhe ixole nkosi yami ❤‍🩹❤

The way this woman speaks is so good. Ukhuluma okomzali and she’s very intelligent.

Ay, it sounds to me that the step dad started grooming and abusing this child from age 12(Ma mentions her first big acting-out episodes around that age, while uMa was pregnant). He used to incentivise her silence through gifts (uMa mentions that he used to take her out to malls and only buy her gifts, she even highlights that he bought Samke a BB phone) that’s rather suspicious red-flag. UMa, speaks highly of this man and he came in her life and he has been her only ever provider (trauma-bond). uMa, solely puts a blame on Samke and doesn’t ever hold her man accountable even for that (Pietermaritzburg BIG redflag) sweeps the whole thing under the carpet for him. Is it not possible that uMa is literally in denial her child’s underlying issue stem from abuse, because it would mean that she has to confront that she failed to protect her child from a predator all because he was their provider. Instead just chose to victim-blame. Also take into account that uMa has alot of her own trauma from losing her primary care-giver to being sexually assaulted by her uncle, to being shamed about her sexual assault encounter, to having to raise a child by her-self. I also listened to Samke’s podcast she keeps mentioning an underlying trauma that she won’t exactly reveal and tries very much to intellectualise her emotions instead of embodying them. A lot of sexually abused victims suffer from internalised shame, if not carefully dealt with they often live it in a way that perpetuates their own self-hatred. I would definitely encourage therapy for both mom and daughter to really get in the nexus of their wound so that can begin their healing. Samke is still very young, she’s only 26 with really good help and some coping strategies she could still transform her life for the better and they could still have a healthy relationship.

I wish she was my mom..I love her❤❤❤I was going to give her a love..yhoooo my heart bleeds that my mom died when I was 9 years 😢

Thank you so much for giving Samkes mom a chance to say her side of the story. I think I may have judged her prematurely based on that 2min voice note. Samke mom tried by all means to raise her daughter well but this is the thank you she gets 💔. My niece is like samke. Raised well but she chose to be on the streets. She has been given so many chances but she chooses to like like umdlwembe wontombazane. It breaks our heart as a family but we can't force her to come back home to raise her two kids. She is turning 26 this year. We can only pray that she is OK wherever she is.

This woman is a scorned woman.she raised Samke from a place of trauma. The fact that she didn't even like Samkes dad also plays a role.they are both so damaged and I hope they get healing

Samke if you are watching this it’s not too late to chance your life please forgive your mom and forgive yourself and change your life for the better

Children can be narcissistic and abusive to parents,I know that

This woman tried her best. Samke chose the fast life and when all started failing she finds people to blame. Samke ruined her whole life

The last words awashilo umama don't come from her heart they come from the pain and anger shame 😢 this is very heart breaking 💔😭

I met this woman kwaNongoma years back and she was talking about ukwenza ama short courses. I don't know personally but she is broken & some mistakes were a result of her past. Kodwa ingane imenze kabi but she tried & I respect her for that.

Mom is talking from a broken heart ,it hurts ,if u r a parent u will understand 😢😢😢😢😢

This mother tried. I believe her .

The main culprit (an old man who slept with a teenager) is not hated and wished evil upon his life? Why are you still with a man who slept with your teenage daughter?

Samkes's mum articulates herself so well. And Hazel is doing a fantastic job gosh.

I've never cried this much for a stranger 😢😔

Why does she not hold baby daddy accountable