i had a miscarriage.

Please stop telling her " things happen for a reason". Thats the last thing a mother needs to hear after losing a child. Please.

Dear Mrs.Rachel, I am eleven years old, but when I saw this my heart absolutely broke... I just wanted to let you know that everything will be ok, I will be praying for you and your family. Thank you for sharing this news with us. Anyway, I will definitely be praying for you and I love you so much, and thank you for always making me laugh and smile, I love you so so much and God bless you 💖💖💖🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️💛💚💙💜

Having had an early miscarriage myself I was surprised I didn’t have a more emotional, sad reaction such as this. I didn’t blame myself and knew how common they are for women. I felt guilty for not feeling more sad. Just wanted to let other women know it’s ok if you don’t have this kind of reaction and it’s ok to have this kind of reaction. Everyone handles it differently. Very sorry for your loss.

Here's what not to say: "At least you got pregnant" "You have a child or children ". Rachel, I'm so sorry for your loss (and your family's loss). I can't begin to know how you are feeling. Your feelings are valid. I'm sorry you feel so alone. I know this was hard for you to share. You are loved by so many. I hope in time the pain lessens. You are strong and brave. I wish I could help in some way. hugs

Sweetheart please don’t force yourself to be on here or any other social platform. Take your time grieve properly and come back to us when you are ready.

I had a miscarriage a few months ago and I’m still healing. I’m praying for you, I know this is one of the hardest thing to deal with. Love you ❤️

I'm so sorry Rach. I'm wishing nothing but peace and care for you and your family. 💗

I saw this video pop up in my phone notifications and my heart sank. I am so heartbroken for you. It's something that hits home for me. I have had 6 miscarriages (out of 7 pregnancies, 1 living child) and the doctors can't find a reason why. So I know that feeling of your body betraying you. It is so heartbreaking every single time. I want to hug you and cry with you. Definitely take your time for yourself and your family. Like with any loss, the pain will never fully go away, but it will get easier. Thank you for sharing this. We are always told not to share early pregnancies because of what could happen but as you said, miscarriages are super common and it's not our fault. We shouldn't feel like we have to keep quiet. We should be able to celebrate the life we carried, no matter how long or short that life was. I am sending you so much love and healing energy, hun.

I almost never comment on YouTube videos, but really wanted to leave you a comment on the off chance you saw it. I miscarried once at age 18, with a baby I wasn’t prepared for and wasn’t sure I wanted, and it was still a completely horrible, traumatizing experience; after the miscarriage I found out that I will almost certainly never be able to bring a baby to term naturally. I’ve since made my peace with never becoming a mother. But your deep love of your children shines through your every word - and you are such a beautiful ray of sunshine of a human being, it completely breaks my heart that you are going through this. It’s physically painful, it’s mentally horrible, and it’s deeply emotionally traumatizing. Thank you so much for speaking out about this. So many women who have suffered a miscarriage, or are going through it now, or may go through it in the future will be so comforted and helped by your words, and with your willingness to talk about the terrible grief and pain that ensues. We all love you, we are here for you, and your family and friends will hold you up even when you are falling down. Thank you for being so open - your words will help not just one woman, but thousands. Sending healing and love your way. <3

You and Chris will always be parents of 3. Even though one is in heaven, they’re all your children. Prayers go out to you and your family. My heart breaks for you.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. I too suffered a miscarriage and almost right away I then had an ectopic pregnancy which resulted in a cancer called choriocarcinoma. The devastation of losing not only one but two babies was very difficult, and I was one of the silent ones. Thank you for being so real. Oftentimes YouTubers don’t seem like real people. One day your rainbow will shine through this storm. God healed my body, and the cancer went away with no treatment, and now I have a beautiful 6 week old baby girl. So now I have an angel on earth and two in heaven. They’re probably playing with your little angel. You’ll always think about your angel with sadness, but with Gods help you will heal 💕

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Sending 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻for you & your family. God bless you

Please feel free to take time off. Your subscribers totally support you in that.

Sorry to hear Rachel. I lost my baby due to miscarriage the day I was getting on a plane to meet my in laws. My husband was told he couldn’t have children due to exposure to chemicals in the military and we even had him tested before we started trying and got the same results, so the baby was our miracle baby. I felt like a failure, like I took away our only chance to have a baby. We ended up getting pregnant again, once again a miracle with how low of levels he had, luckily I am super fertile and now she is almost 4. Our first baby will always be in our hearts. I hope you find your way and know you are never alone.

This poor poor women. She is so sweet and is an amazing mother. As a women that has gone threw this 4 times I know how hard it is, and when the doctor tells you that there is no heartbeat it is just the worst thing in the world. I know that I already commented and that I might be writing to much. However Rachel is such a good person and she is so nice, its such a sad and trying time when someone loses a child. Honey you will always be a mother of 3 babies. I know that right know it hurts and that it never will end. I want you to know that there are amazing support groups out there that will help you thew it, THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!! Whenever a women loses a child the most important thing that they need to know is ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!! I know that you don't really know me and that you live in Canada but I am here for you. This is terrible and it's going to be hard but you are a strong and a beautiful women and I know that this will heal. I love you

it took me 5 days to get the strength up to watch your message. This is because it has been 9 years, 1 healthy baby girl later and I STILL to this day am broken over the loss of my baby boy. He was lost at 5 months. This for those that are a bit confused; this means that I had to have him as a stillbirth. Therapy, meds, support, all the love I could stand and I still have a hard time not losing my cool when I remember him and that time. I believe that my postpartum; when I had my darling rainbow (a living child after many miscarriages) girl was made SO much worse by his loss and no one seeing the pain and fear of losing her. everyone always tells me that I am not alone and I am loved and it is not in anyway my fault and that is not the "higher" power punishing me for my sins or wrongdoing. however, as a woman, I still grieve and fear that i did something wrong. YOU are not alone, but you feel alone. we all process it differently. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. Do not shame or be ashamed about how you process or not process that loss with yourself or other. Remember just because I do not KNOW you, does not mean I can not love you!

I’m so, so sorry, Rachel. 😔

I don’t comment often and I’m sure there is little chance you will see this. I found out I was pregnant 4 days after my husband deployed to Afghanistan(I was estimated 5 weeks at that point) and then at 11 weeks I went in for an ultrasound and they found that my baby had no heart beat. I had to have the surgery as my body wasn’t doing it naturally. I had to go through it alone while my husband was devastated and stuck in Afghanistan. They called in his Chaplin and superior to be with him. But I was left to go through it alone. I say this because I’ve never told my story. I thank you for using your platform to speak about this. So many of us feel like we can’t talk about it. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Take as much time as you need to mourn. We will be here when you are ready Rachel. We all love you so so much.

I’ve havent heard many people speak out on this topic or talk about what they went through I’m glad you shared your heartbreaking experience and showed people what you go through and let them know they’re not alone ! I wish you and your family the best please take care of your self ❤️❤️ I just wanna give you a big hug stay strong beautiful

Having been through this myself, multiple times, my heart goes out to you & your family. Thank you for sharing your story 💞