7 Steps to Start to Heal the Mother Wound - Terri Cole

I needed this, desperately. I'm 37 and my mother still effects me to this day. I went limited contact a few years ago. Im to the point of cutting off all contact with her completely. It's a heartbreaking, life-impacting thing to have a mean, delusional, gossiping "mother" Prayers for all of you that have found yourselves here ❤

I’m 29 years old and I’m just learning that my mother’s been abusing me and my siblings for our entire lives. I can’t stop crying. It’s so traumatizing you realize that the person who was supposed to protect you is the person who has been harming you all along. My mom would put us down and belittle us and make fun of us. My mother used to call me fat and ugly and make fun of me to my siblings. If I cried, she called me “too sensitive”. She always made me do what she didn’t want to do and would say “If you don’t do this then you don’t love me” and we were forced to do so many things.

My mother is a narcissist and I've been begging her for love as long as I can remember. I'm sick of letting it ruin my adult life, thank you so much for being here for us and for telling me what I needed to hear.

The inner child is still looking for her mother. I wish you were my mother. I'm sure life would have been totally different ^ ,^

At the age of 50, just found out that my mother is a narcissist 😢 and my dad might’ve been one too. My inner child is dying for a warm and loving motherly hug. Started my healing journey and hopefully I can get the peace of mind.

I need to heal from this. I want my life back

Thanks so much, Terri. I burst out crying while watching it - I am 43, and really feel lonely. I’ve known for several years that my Dad was/is emotionally unavailable but as for my mother, it’s clicked just recently that I was her emotional support in my childhood. Many of my friends were like her - i was their psychologist and when they healed, they left me. Now it’s time to leave this pattern behind and start something new.

I am now at the forgiving stage at the age of 69. My narc mother is 96 and totally dependent on me. Life is so absurd. I hope she rests in peace soon so that I can have a few years of emotional freedom. Women have the power to save or ruin the world with their behavior toward their children 😢

Knowing that healing is possible, lifted a the weight of an elephant off my chest. I can... breathe without wanting to cry, for the first time in the longest time. I hope my fellow hurting sisters can find the same relief. I will do my best to pass on this message. Thank you Terri, I love you. x

I could never find a mother's day card. All of them said things like "You're so helpful, caring,loving, there for me, and on and on. I would be lieing if I sent her one of those cards. I am 46 years old and have just now ended all contact with my mother. I now know she only cares about herself. She has always cared only for herself. It took me 46 years to realize she never loved me and she is a horrible vulgar woman.

The gap between the way you wished you were loved and how you actually were treated is directly proportional to the depth of love that you feel both then and now. You are not too sensitive. You are simply more so

I was screaming crying last night because my narcissistic mother is destroying me and turning everyone against me. It hurts so bad.

The predators are laying in wait for the wounded women I want to heal my innerchild so much, this episode is most helpful, your mssg of empowerment is appreciated.

Nailed it...Repetition of the relationship as either the “perpetrator” or “victim” of the abusive experience.

The word mother is always associated with a feeling of warmth and nurturing. I envy my friends because I have actually seen their close bond and even when she scolds them it's ok because she always has that loving tone. Whereas my mother has always insulted and humiliated me, she says the most hurtful things, I don't think I have ever been hurt this way by anyone even during the worst fights of my life.

my inner child was seen and i was allowed to cry. i went no contact 2 years ago because i just couldnt take it anymore after i was ruined financially because of them. i’ve had a hard time bouncing back because i don’t have anyone in my life i can go to for anything. but i remembered that growing up i did everything for myself that i wish was done for me and how can i not love myself for that?!?! thank you for this video 🖤 i hope to attract more women like me who just want to love and be loved 🥰

me watching as a 23 years old man with bpd. "become a good mother and protect your children from your cluster b mother" 😭

@1:09 admit it is true @2:26 Questioning @4:47 mourning /give up the idea that she will change @10:20 3 Qs *who does this person remind me of? Where have I felt like this before? Why is that dynamic familiar to me?

Growing up... I adapted Nick and Sharon from the Young and the Restless as my parents. I even wrote their names on a paper and submitted it to my teacher. I always wonder why I did it. Funny enough I used to watch the show (idk y I was allowed) and now I see y I liked them and y I'd wish for them to be my parents. The power of the subconscious. Thanks Terri.

Thank you so much for this video I needed to hear this! Especially me being a pregnant first time mom with a daughter! I definitely do not want to continue this painful cycle. IT STOPS WITH ME!