Weaponizing Vulnerability: Lydia & Milton - Love Is Blind S5

Dr. Cherie is the Truth!!! I had a couple’s session with her and she was just as insightful (as she is in these videos)! It’s amazing the way she can interpret people.❤

I was telling my roommate as we were watching their last date scene that it seems like Lydia can criticize Milton all the time, but she can’t handle it when he criticized her once.

THANK YOU!! I like Lydia at times, but she can be sooooo overbearing and thinks everyone has to accept her for all her faults, without her doing any work to improve on herself.

Milton is the youngest yet most mature person on this show. I think Milton should live more though before he gets married.

Interesting. At the 5:26 mark when Milton is expressing how he feels, Lydia butts in and says "Do you think about how it makes me feel?" That was the same way Uche answered when Aaliyah was trying to express HER feelings. Milton can't even process his own feelings before he has to take care of hers.

“I crave so hard to be loved for who I am” means “I want somebody to love me no matter how crazy or ridiculous I behave”

I completely agree that he’s just recreating the relationship he had with his parents. It was apparent at Lydia’s meeting them that they treat him like a child and are constantly bulldozing him. Forcing the poor guy to sit there mutely.

I found it ironic that Lydia was crying about no one wanting her when Milton had clearly expressed his interest. It was like she was too caught up in the drama of the story to notice that it wasn't true.

My personal take on Milton is that his rush to get married is to prove himself mature to his family. From personal experience (as the youngest of my family) the way his sister looked at him at the dinner, with the condescending, stoic smirk, was exactly how my older sister (10 years older than me) used to look at me when I tried to express myself. My explanations were always put down or questioned and that really has lasting effects on a person. I had my first child at 22 and now at 27 have I now realised that (although I enjoy being a mother very much) I had my son for selfish reasons. It really was to prove myself as someone to be taken seriously. I feel Milton is doing this with getting married. He wants to prove to his family that he is mature and therefore worthy. edit: spelling

It was so weird when she says to Milton, "I'm reassuring you that i know you have my back". Wouldn't normal people say "I'm reassuring you that I have your back"/ Just shows that everything revolves around her and her only.

I hope Lydia sees this video, it will help her a lot as a person. None of us are perfect but we work towards being better, she doesn’t. Even though she claims she does. Milton, I hope he didn’t say yes.

This was so on point. I’ve seen people saying people are judging Lydia based on what Uche said. I disagreed, and this video was a great breakdown of Lydia’s manipulative ways.

Lydia is very manipulative, so glad to finally see someone calling her out. Lydia makes everything about her and feels she can do no wrong. It was messed up for her to knowingly befriend Aaliyah & she doesn't actually like Milton, she just wanted her 15 minutes of fame.

I honestly found Lydia to be so insufferable fairly early on, drama aside. She tries to use the “right” talking points about openness, selflessness, being a caring partner, etc., but it comes from a place of insecurity and selfishness. She comes across as caring far more about being in a relationship rather than who she’s in a relationship with because despite how confident she tries to come across, she places SO much importance and self worth on literally just being in a relationship with someone. And ofc being authentic and being yourself is a wonderful thing, but when you receive negative feedback about certain traits you have from many people and they affect your relationships very regularly, the notion of self acceptance is really just toxic because the problem is YOU. Lydia will never be happy and experience a healthy relationship unless she decides to put the work in to heal her very clear insecure attachment issues and focuses on some self growth instead of just finding someone to love her. When you do those things, love will find you at the right time.

You articulated perfectly why I can’t root for her.

Ughhh this feels like VINDICATION 🙌🏽😩😭 I’ve seen so many people go to bat for her and you’re the only person I’ve seen so far who’s had a thorough breakdown down of the behavior she’s shown that is very deleterious to her building meaningful relationships

Agree with your points. It seems Lydia wants to win the race to the alter after being rejected. Her interest in Milton is based on that and her wanting to control him. In the beginning she spoke to his age and that changed when she was left with no option. Her perception is skewed overall. She is very manipulative and immature based on what's aired thus far. Milton shouldn't marry her.

I don't think Lydia even likes Milton. She only latched onto him because he was the only one who showed an interest in her. That's really all she wants is the attention. She doesn't care who it comes from. Izzy, Uche, Milton...

I started to wonder if Lydia is a narcissist. The lengths she went to to get revenge on Uche and how she only talks about herself. She latched on to Milton as soon as he paid attention to her but didn’t truly get to know him. It was only about her. She just wants any dude to want her so she can make a big deal about herself.

I wish Lydia would see this. If she was just made aware maybe she can work on herself. I've known so many women like her and I stay away from them because no matter what they will make you out to be the bad guy