Therapist Breaks Down 'Love is Blind' 4 After the Altar | Jackie's Love Triangles & Micah's Struggle

I was under the impression that Kwame's jokes about Paul were related to his physical fitness vs. Kwame still being upset about Micah. In any case, your video made me realize how their history probably still plays some role in how they interact!

I love how you explained how people often see boundaries as punishment. You gave me a new perspective on how it’s actually protection for ourselves. Definitely gonna implement this philosophy into my life. 😊

On the Kwame/Paul thing, I don't think Kwame was saying he took joy in beating Paul in the game because he was still mad about Micah choosing Paul over him. I think he was just making a joking or slightly passive-aggressive comment on how he knew he could get past Paul because Paul's not as physically fit as him. And that's why Chelsea was laughing along. At least, that's how I understood it

I think... Paul saw that he was literally about to marry his mom and ran for the hills. The overstepping of boundaries is WILD!!!!

I get the feeling that Monica is typically a pretty level-headed person, but past dealings with Josh just immediately puts her on the defensive. Can't say I blame her to be honest. He is definitely the kind of person who could make my own 5+ years of working on patience with my therapist fly right out the window.

I was hoping you’d touch on how Josh treated Jackie. I noticed that he was playful and not very loving to her. It seemed like he was using comedy to take jabs at her. It made me feel like he doesn’t actually like her and that he just tolerates her. I was uncomfortable, watching all of the “jokes” that he was making. It seems to me that she is way more into him than he is into her. I wonder if he was more interested in “winning her” than actually being in a relationship with her.

Dr. Anya, thank you for explaining that boundaries are not a punishment for the other person, rather it’s protecting myself!! I needed to hear that as I often feel guilty for setting boundaries, especially with ex’s.

I loved your explanation of apologies. That the person getting the apology gets to decide wether they accept it or not. It helps to understand it that way. I always felt like I had to accept an apology. Maybe because that's what we learn when we are young. Someone does something bad, then the adult makes them apologize and you have to accept it, move on and still be friends with them. I always felt like I had to accept my ex's apologies when he cheated on me or treated me poorly... This way of looking at apologies is really helpful and also helpful for what you accept from others and boundaries so thank you! We always get something out of your videos !! (english is my second language)

"An Apology is a gift to another person" I love that! It's so nicely put

it seems to me that Paul and Micah’s friendship is a friendship with benefits

I SWEAR Kwame is not in love with Chelsea! He wanted Micah and because he's a good guy, he settled for Chelsea because she was/is heads over heels in love with him. He seems to be like "well, I'll make the best of this marriage". You're right, their relationship looks all performative. Even with some lingo she tried using "aight bet" sounds so silly coming from her, you know thats not how she talks.

Don't forget that in reality tv like this, producers play a big role in the interactions. I'm like 99.9999% sure they arranged the meeting between Micah and Paul's mom and they told her to talk about the fact that Paul was dating someone else.

I could be wrong but I feel like Micah just played nice to save her image.

Question: Do you think there's a possibility that Josh is abusive. The way he acts towards Jackie, the way she got scared when Monica showed up and the way she will not say anything bad about Josh even as a joke but she easily did it to Marshal. It seems like fear not love.

I absolutely LOVED Marshall - I found him to be such a gentleman and a good soul. And Jackie treated him so poorly.

I just assumed Shelby was cast by the producers in hopes that she would say something shocking and create a dramatic moment. I agree that she was very out of place in those settings!

Brett and Tiffany are the BEST (Zack and Bliss are a close second), those couples are the ones I watch this show for. Seeing things work out and go right(and successfully navigate issues). I wish all the couples could find their perfect matches and make it to the end, but that's a crazy pipe dream 🤣💚

Still waiting for season 1!!! Lauren and Cameron are the best but I think there would a LOT to breakdown with Amber and Barnett! Even stuff amber has said recently about the show.

Josh is playing with Jackie. They both need to heal, he wasn’t giving husband or truly caring about Jackie, he belittled her and wasn’t proving a safe space for her from what we saw.

I wonder if the new maturity of the cast comes from not having alcohol shoved down their throat (metaphorically) by the producers every second of the day, at least I hope so. I think the changes a lot of personalities. I hope the conditions weren’t as bad in this special as the full season.