Toxic Marriages, Right Time To Marry & Red Flags In Relationships - Shefali Shah | FO205 Raj Shamani

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction
02:50 - Should Parents be transparent about their relationship?
08:44 - Kids today don’t wanna get married
13:19 - The idea of a good marriage
24:59 - Struggles in marriage
27:10 - 4 Cs of a lasting relationship
29:01 - Women are not very celebrated in India
32:34 - When should one get married?
37:19 - When is a person ready for a relationship?
39:41 - Who to marry?
46:58 - Red flags in a marriage
51:26 - Should we have movies like animal?
57:00 - Thank you!

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In today’s episode of Figuring Out, we have Shefali Shah in conversation with Raj Shamani. Her acting is seen in movies like Darlings, Dil Dhadakne Do and Three of Us. But our conversation isn't about the movies she did but her perspective on marriage, relationships and struggles in marriages.

In this episode, we talked about her performance in Dil Dhadakne Do and whether it's fair to show kids the fights and the good side of their marriage. Then we discussed the struggles in marriages and what are the common problems in it. She also shared a heartwarming story of how her kids surprised her on her birthday. We then discussed when people should marry and advice for young people looking to get married and how people can decide who to marry.

Towards the end, we talked about different types of people in marriages and can two ambitious people have a great marriage. We then discussed red flags in marriages and when we know that someone isn’t for us or this marriage isn’t for us. We ended the podcast by discussing her views on the movie ‘Animal’ and how it impacts people.
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All Comments (21)
  • @minazkhan1440
    Lack of Financial Freedom is the biggest reason woman stay in bad marriage...its very important to give Financial support like a business setup or rental property to daughters instead of grand weddings..she don't have to compromise with her dignity
  • I had a toxic marriage pulled it for 24 yrs and communicated with the kids and left. I could do this because I was financially stable but believe me I am very happy now and same with the kids. So be strong ladies
  • Though I agree that everyone should have the right to speak up their minds but brother please don't call the film industry people for relationships related advice bcoz: 1)They comes from world where there is no line between professional & personal life, therefore we have very different perspectives towards life. 2)Because of the kind of work they are in, the people they are surrounded with and the society they live in, is literally poles apart from ours. 3) Most of their opinions on marriage and relationships are bizzare and irrational. These people have damaged the sacredness of marriage as an institution and have ruined the societies. 4) You can't just go and take relationship advices from people who are okay to attach their names with any person just for the sake of publicity. 5)They are literally marrying for the brand values how can anybody ask them for personal life or relationships related advices??? * Nothing against Shefali Shah, I love her work and she just best at it.😊 My thoughts are in general as I follow your channel regularly and lately, I have been observing that your questions to the film celebrities are much about relationships and less about their work. Mind it, they might be experts at acting(बहुत से तो उसमे भी नही है) but that doesn't mean they are experts at relationships as well. Their opinions and thoughts on relationships are only as important as any other common person if not less.
  • I think you should have called someone who has seen the bright side of marriage too along with this guest who saw the dark side. Or maybe make another podcast with Riteish and Genelia and ask the same questions and ask them how they both maintained and had a so beautiful marriage. Please note this.
  • Hi Raj! An honest opinion here.. If you're bringing psychologists, lawyers, or someone who has actually some experience like people who have studied relationships, marriages or breakups then related questions are valid. A person from media should be asked media related, movies related or fashion related questions.. it increases credibility for us as audience..
  • @hardikbpandya
    Unfortunately her own marriage failed and she making her personal experience as universal truth..
  • @rishisharma8311
    I dont know how credible this information is. Shefali Shah is neither a psychiatrist nor a marriage counsellor and being an actress i will think twice before agreeing with her because bollywood is just famous for presenting distorted realities.
  • @ShreyasKa92
    If you started dating in early 30s and want to date for 4-5 years, one might have problems conceiving a child. What if one or both of the partners are not open to adoption. You’re in a trap & this is only one of the reasons why you shouldn’t listen to these people blindly. Marry early, learn to grown and correct your mistakes together. Live a little spiritually. God bless!
  • @imanmalik5631
    Her advice on late marriage is not practical especially where women are concerned. Women who decide to have children in mid thirties are at higher risks of having babies with deformities.
  • Brother Please put thumbnail like "Dark reality of Indian Marriages" your are making people mindset to see negatives of indian Marriages even before the start of the videos, instead of making people to see what good and what is bad of marriages. Click bait is ok but don't make your audiences pre conception that indian Marriages are bad.
  • Shefali is so true and honest in this conversation .. lots of love for her… no high funda thought.. just day to day problems of specially Indian families….Bring one more episode on relationship with her.. pls
  • The way she is sitting - it's more like how comfortable cool she makes the environment
  • @najumehra1966
    Omg her brain is exactly like mine!!! So so true !! Love her for coming and being so vocal about what the reality is! Salute!
  • In order to build awareness and psychoeducating people about mental health and healthy relationships, these people are invited and not Psychologist/Marriage Counsellors like us. They may have experience but we definitely have education, expertise, and experience.
  • @ChildFirst
    Not all points she mentioned are having logical reasoning. She haven't get into the depth of issues & experiences in her own marriage. Her body language is highly impatient. This podcast is just a conversation and not any such to take away. 12:28... Interesting
  • @Arsalan_Ayaz
    bro please try to communicate in hindi because the community to whom you want to teach/target , unable to understand english.
  • @mainumedhi406
    Jab tak shaadi mein naaptol chalega tab tab esa hi ghisipiti jhagre honge.. Marriage is totally a bond between two souls who are different from each other but still likes to be together with the differences and equally enjoys each other's company.. I got married at 25 and i got a partner who is immensely fond of me and i am fond of him.. We both have different personality though.. Not all who are on screen are perfect to give judgements.. Sometimes you should also bring normal common people on podcast too.. So that we all feel related
  • Hey Raj Shamani ! this is the first podcast I have heart( watched) completely....its like a deep conversation...going to watch all others now....lots of love from Nepal!
  • @TataSky-jr7td
    Add one more C- Communication. Nowadays couples have stopped or minimized communicating. They r busy in their own world.. rather just talk anything n everything. Just pick up some topic n talk . Tell entire day stories. Go out with frnz n then come n tell ur person how your day went etc..