Emily Ratajkowski Opens Up About Divorce for the First Time | Going Mental Podcast

0:22: 📚 Emily Ratajkowski discusses her career, the criticism she faces for being a sexy woman, and how her views on femininity and sexuality have evolved. 6:41: 😔 The speaker reflects on the responsibility of perpetuating harmful stereotypes and the personal and systemic factors that contribute to it. 14:04: 📚 The speaker discusses her experiences with insecurity and body image as a model and how social media has exacerbated these issues. 20:42: 👥 The speaker discusses the addiction to external validation and how it affects relationships. 28:04: 😅 The speaker discusses their preference for being dominant or submissive in relationships and their attraction to masculinity, but also the difficulty of finding someone who is both caring and interesting. 34:48: 💔 The speaker discusses her decision to end her marriage, the speculation of infidelity, and the challenges of navigating a breakup as a single mother. 41:41: 👥 The speaker discusses their transition from seeking validation from others to finding purpose in relationships and personal growth, acknowledging their polarizing nature and the impact of haters on their self-esteem. 49:08: 😕 The speaker discusses the pressure to be perfect and the impact of social media on self-image. 55:44: 🎙 The speaker discusses the importance of giving a platform to marginalized voices and exploring difficult topics on her podcast. 1:02:40: 📷 The speaker discusses the pressure to conform to unrealistic beauty standards and the impact of posting images of oneself online. 1:09:43: 💁 The discussion revolves around the acceptance and normalization of getting cosmetic procedures done, particularly among younger generations. Recap

I like Emily as a person, but that question was so on point. I do believe that she's been perpetuating the very thing that she supposedly is against, and the people who suffer are generally the women who aren't privileged and protected like herself.

She has more power than she realizes and blaming the system is lazy. Posting the way she does “feels good” because she still earns money from the inherent privilege that she has. When she gets older and the looks fade, her perspective will shift. I do appreciate the empathy and consideration she has for others. We are all growing and learning to be more grateful. She’s on her way.

Saying "the world wouldn't be any different if I didn't post my naked pics, so I will not acknowledge the responsibility and ripple effect my massive platform has on the culture, and alter the way I post" is just like Jeff Bezos saying the world isn't going to stop abusing workers if he does, so he might as well keep doing it too. She and her refusal to show anything but perfection (never a single bad day, never a bad angle, she admits) to her tens of millions of followers for over 10 years now is a big reason why the culture is the way it is. The problem was never that she was sexy, nor that she flaunted it -- but the extent to which she did, only to then blame the system, totally decredibilizes her.

I think Eileen is the one host I have seen in a VERY long time (if ever) that asked the questions that the audience wanted asked and didn’t sugar coat questions. This made me subscribe to this podcast, I’m impressed. Please do not change your direction, Eileen.

Loved the questions/dialogue/rawness of this.

I really appreciate the host pushing Emily to answer the very important question of "do you believe you're adding to the oppressive and damaging female beauty standards".. because yes, she absolutely is. I also appreciate Emily's point that traditionally beautiful, skinny women should not feel shame about their body, which is not what anyones asking for. I agree with the suggestion the host gives about Emily posting more "everyday" photos where she's not hyper-flexed, hyper-posed, and not trying to be hot but rather just being a human and letting her body relax and just be. I think Jameela Jamil is a great example of this. She is, by all beauty standards, hot and she posts pictures of herself looking hot because we love a girly feeling herself, but she also posts moments of insecurity where she's not posing and trying to make her body look desirable or trying to make her body look like anything, but rather is just letting her body be. Emily gets the bad rap of being just "the hot girl", which is sexist and reductive, but she also only posts/shares her body/face when she's looking hot. I really do like so many of the conversations Emily has opened up about and appreciate her perspective, but I can't help but feel like she has a lot of definitive and strong arguments and opinions around issues where someone else is the "perpetrator" but when she's in the hot seat and is being held accountable for the role she plays in promoting unrealistic beauty standards and playing to the male gaze, she gets quiet and is like.. well I'm just one person, I can't change anything. I don't know.. I feel conflicted.

Wow I am so impressed by her wisdom and strength. I can totally relate.

Emily didn't understand when Eileen talked about plastic surgery. The issue, Emily, is not about explaining things to people, it's not about privacy, as she quoted. It's about this mania that you famous people have to have plastic surgery and vehemently deny it, while posting pictures being impeccable and, at the same time, wanting to show that you are a "clean girl" aesthetic. There are no problems with having cosmetic surgeries, the problem is doing it and denying it to millions of followers and fans, making people think that that symmetrical face really exists, that that perfect mouth exists, that the face with the right cheekbones is real. Some celebrities are super open about their procedures (such as Anitta, Chrissy Teigen, Priyanka Chopra, Courteney Cox, etc.) and this is not about privacy, it's about not deceiving followers and fans, because perfection doesn't exist, unless you really go to an operating room.

I really, really enjoyed this conversation...love Emily❤

It's nice to see Emrata on this podcast. She did touch up on a lot of subjects that need to be talked about. She is truly my inspiration and role model. I look up to the both of you. Great podcast episode! Can't wait for more xoxo

Amazing conversation. Lots I relate too and lots of concepts that click into place.

eileen asking all the RIGHT questions >>> love this

Love the line “coming back to myself”

Really enjoyed hearing Emily’s thoughts on the Chloe episode in retrospect. That must have been a complicated thing to approach but I agree that she did the best job she could.

The voice fry in this interview is on another levelllllllll

I love this conversation. Emrata is amazing! 🌹

Good job Bellabee. I liked the little hint you gave at 29:23. Thanks babe.

THIS IS THE BEST EMRATA INTERVIEW EVER. You two are vibing.

Eileen is so good at interviewing and pressing great questions!!! I felt like Emily was a little disregarding and I loved how Eileen could keep the flow of the convo