Jordan Peterson ~ The Best Way To Show Someone You DO Care About What They Have To Say

"Help them make their argument as strong as possible, and then deal with that." The Goku of discussion.

“The other person is entitled to their suffering. You don’t get to take it away, it’s their destiny.” The truest words have been spoken.

"You don't have to take on their problems. It's not necessarily bad that people have problems." - We often forget it's not our responsibility to fix people's problems.

Dr Peterson is one of the most beautiful example of using his immense intellect for the progress and goodness of humanity...I adore his lectures ...He helped me through the darkest moments of my life

Someone has wiped the camera lens with LSD

Don’t try to win an argument. Try to use what the opponent is saying as information and knowledge. It’s not an argument if it’s a conversation.

This is exactly what I learned while teaching kids math…sometimes, I can read their facial expressions and realize there was a disconnect. So, I would ask if there was someone that felt they could reexplain what I said and or demonstrate to the class, how to solve the same problem in kid language, or how to work a similar problem. I was often impressed that by adding “kid language” in they would try harder to understand so they could be the one to explain. Also, I had way more volunteers towards the end of the semester than the beginning. I also had some students that would use the same exact words but the class understood them and not me??? I concluded that I would not take it personal, because it wasn’t about me, I didn’t have to be the one that delivered the skill, I just monitored to ensure it was being explained in a way that was correctly consumed. Even if they used some funny terminology, the proof was on their paper. They felt more comfortable asking me if I could ask if someone else could explain something in “kid language” and they had created a safe atmosphere for making mistakes and learning….even when they started referring to me as an old person 🤣

The advise in this video, which I have taken to heart, literally restored my 10 year marriage from a year of divorce today. When he says to listen to and build up and understand their arguments and then deal with that… that line is what saved us today. I would not be next to my wife-again if not for Jordan Peterson.

Don't you wish politicians had to do this in debates?

Best quote of the day "understanding doesn't mean you agree, but at least you are trying to understand"

This 8 minute video is probably what’s going to save my marriage. I am now embarrassed in myself thinking back to how I “argue”. May God bless and protect this man.

My last relationship taught me patience. It taught me that arguing is only bad if you let anger control the interaction. An argument will be uncomfortable but it's important for both parties to understand that an argument or intense conversation is needed and quite unavoidable. You have to get through the entire argument. You have to ask questions and really investigate where a person is and what exactly they mean. I can make a statement, and until I explain it fully what I truly mean can't be described by that one statement. Do not fear argument. It is an Investigation on what's in each other's hearts and minds, and how else can you truly know who you're dealing with?

I can't even fathom how much this man has made my life better

The camera motion makes it feel like he spiked my drink then took advantage of me by lecturing me

He is the man who gave meaning to my psychology profession. I am using his 40 years of experience everyday in my life and will keep using for as many people as I can to make thier lives better .... I promise you Jordan. Thank you very much.

I'm a rambler, but I learned to control it, thanks to a friend who was always willing to listen and then summarize what I told him. Listening to his summaries taught me what details were relevant, and which ones could be left out. My stories CAN still be long, but they don't HAVE to be anymore, thanks to that friend who always listens. Be patient with the ramblers in your tribe. Listen and summarize. It's the only way to give them some chance of learning how to keep it short.

On one hand I wish I found him earlier, on the other maybe I found him at this time because I needed him now

I will be so sad if anything happens to him. I know he’s not doing well right now. I love him. I love how he points in a welcoming way, not a condescending way. He seems nice. He deserves good health.

After listening to this man for 2 hours I quit smoking ciggarettes been clean of weed and alcohol going on 3 years If only I could now learn how to be nice while I'm going through withdrawls my poor best friend that lives with me I'm sure is tired of me snapping at them and than apologizing like a monster with no control I hope this helps too because I do care

Beautiful, caring, compassionate and wonderful! I love this. I also love what Jordan said about taking marriage vows. "I know you're trouble and so am I." We'll be in this together for life and work it out." You cannot get to the sweet fruit unless you're completely in it for life. That's where true intimacy comes. It's the best kept secret.