The UNCONSCIOUS motivations behind the narcissist's RAGE

Narcissists don't remember all good you've done for them but they'll remember the few times you were wrong or did something they didn't like.

A toddler's tantrum is a normal behavior, but an adult's tantrum is a red flag. 🚩

I have zero empathy for narcissists. ZERO. They are manipulative and self serving. Don't waste any emotions on these people. Completely move on where possible. Otherwise, keep contact to a minimum.

Whether they can control it or not, they ruin lives.

Not even the most highly trained bomb squad members could defuse a narcissist’s ego. It’s too risky.

Tbh, I'm done with compassion for these people. There are no excuses. I'm sensitive, was born into an abusive, narcissistic family, am messed up as all get out, but sought help and still manage to be a decent person. The majority of us victims are decent people. I'm not mean, but it doesn't matter what the reason is for somebody's abuse, I'm out. Their monkeys, their circus.

It's DEFINITELY NOT just ego protection. It's also about making it bigger... Narcissists will attack in order to "conquer" spaces, monopolize conversations to fill their sense of entitlement. It is definitely an actively aggressive Power Hungry personality not just a defensive person. These people are POWER HUNGRY ENTITLED!

When their own Mother tells you, "he's a Narcissist" BELIEVER her! She whispered in my ear when we dropped her off at the airport at one moment, "good luck with him". I was confused. Fast forward about 10 years, so much emotional damage to my kids and myself, I finally left. The peace....unbelievable. I wish I'd listened years ago. I'm sure she caused a great deal of the damage but she did try to warn me.

My narcissistic sister targeted me every time she let off steam. I have gone no contact, I find her scary and do not trust her.

Just say no and omg 😮 instant rage .

I stopped by to see my ex last night. I got yelled at. Cussing me like a dog. I’m calling the police. I didn’t do anything. But I got fed up. Why I moved out. I yelled back. Said F U. I left. I got health problems excruciating pain anxiety stress depression PTSD. From Him mostly. I don’t have to take it. He’s EVIL.

The screaming raging was so much a large part of my late mother's personality style. There might have been a short time when she controlled herself better and she said, " did you notice I didn't scold for a while" She seemed really aware of what she was doing and who she could do it with.

when you need to speak with them, choose words carefully…

It's like they're another species of human.

I think jealousy is what drove my mother’s narcissism. She hated being upstaged by anyone.

I TAKE BACK MY POWER and CONTROL to save my Soul and SANITY ❤

I'm so glad researchers are studying this and getting a handle on how aggressive these people are. Watching the news and seeing how many leaders of countries are ready to threaten other nations with potential war, I think the time has come for people to be able to spot this form of insanity and not allow these people to be in positions of power. I looked up the DSM definition of narcissism so many times in my marriage to a narcissist, and the definition was so lacking that it didn't seem to fit, and I would go back to doubting myself and siding with the couples' therapists we saw who thought I was the problem. I so wish people were taught basic psychology and sociology all throughout the school years. We should be trained in how to spot aggressive people of all kinds and know how to stay safe from them.

Yeah when you call a narc crazy when they are being crazy it makes them even more crazy

This is exactly my ex, what you're describing. He was constantly saying he's vigilant, and would jump at any "threat". It was weird. Then, he began to turn that on me. He would yell and go psycho whenever I had any critique or criticism, even if I was polite about it. Every single time. If I said something not criticism but just something he didn't like, he would yell at me. Even had the audacity to tell me I was the one being aggressive LOL.

I could sense when he was stewing... And I could always predict that in a day or two he was going to erupt. His patterns were usually on Sundays, because he was so pissed off about having to start a new work week at a job he didn't like. Sundays were usually when he would erupt, and I called them psycho Sundays. After living my life constantly on edge waiting for the bomb to drop, my health has been damaged from marinating and cortisol constantly. Now I have heart issues.