WATCH THIS! To learn how to break the trauma bond with a narcissist
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Published 2023-01-29
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All Comments (21)
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The abusers will never ever admit their nastiness and malice!
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I left after 30 years, 3 years later I'm still healing. I pray for healing for all of us. This is the first time I have cut off all contact. I am suffering with emotional distress and it's causing headaches. I'm now on Trintellix and anxiety medication. I'm proud of myself for loving myself. I have way too much empathy. I deserve a good life.
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In short trauma bond is like addiction .
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I have to watch your videos every day to keep myself from going back to my trauma-bonded abuser. Thank you thank you thank you a million more times
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I did it! Even though I thought I would die without him. Broke trauma bond with malignant narc after 10 years together. More than 6 months no contact, ignoring hovering. Continuing with my trauma therapist. Feeling strong. Thank you Dr Ramani for your wisdom. You are a gift to all of us. 🤗
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The best help I got in the trauma bonded relationship was when a therapist said " if it's not good enough for her why is it good enough for you? "
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I’ve been dealing with guilt, questioning myself and wondering if I’m the narcissist. I realize now that I’m trauma bonded. This video was a blessing
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It’s a emotional roller coaster!
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Trying to forget someone you care about is the same as trying to remember someone you have never met.
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1. Acknowledge the abuse.
2. Explore your early attachments.
3. There is no jackpot in this relationship. The narcissist is not going to change.
4. Judge the relationship in the here and now. The cycle will look more like the abuse that it is.
5. Keep a list of the things that make you uncomfortable about the relationship, and refer back to it when the narcissist tries to reel you back in.
6. Seek therapy with someone who understands both narcissism and trauma. -
I broke the bond after 3 years. I feel so free.
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"We had to save ourselves, and that felt uncomfortable" simple yet profound.
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Being raised by a narcissistic mother, I never learned to love myself. Needless to say, many toxic relationships later, I do love myself now. It took years of being mistreated until I finally said "enough".
Thank you Dr. Ramani. -
Part of the problem in my experience is our sense of guilt for leaving a relationship too soon. Time and time again I went back thinking that if I can do this last thing it will fix the relationship. I very literally scraped the bottom of barrel trying to find something that may turn the relationship around. I just didn't want to bear the guilt that I have not done everything possible. This futile pursuit caused 17 years of pain, doubt and constant anxiety to me and the ones I love.
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Dr Ramani is a saint. Her content should be part of high school curriculum. I wish I had known what was happening to me as I was growing up and in my 20s. Now in my 30s I feel so sad for the time I lost to these monsters!!!
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It’s a strange world we live in, you have saved my life, but yet you don’t even know me. 🙏❤️
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I was absolutely trauma bonded but the important word there is "WAS"
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I remember how wonderful it felt when my narcissistic spouse left for work. A calm fell over the house. I was able to enjoy our children on a much deeper level. When he came home it was like world war 3. Thinking of it now actually makes me sick to my stomach but happy that toxic parasite is no longer a part of my life. Thank you for sharing this video with the public. It’s been years since I had to deal with him on a daily basis. The healing process is a long road.
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Yes I feel like I’m the problem sometimes but then if I re-read text messages I’m proud of myself for being level headed, clearly expressing my needs, establishing boundaries and then I’m met with rage, gaslighting, verbal abuse, word salad and I’m left confused.
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I have CPTSD, normalized abuse for years, and did not understand how strong I was until I became supply for a narcissist. I've learned a new language and I will share my knowledge.
YOU CAN BREAK FREE.
YOU CAN BE HAPPY.
YOU CAN SURVIVE.
YOU
CAN
THRIVE.
