VLOG: Road Trip to EC | Lumi meets his Grannies | I Need A Hug 🥺

You did your best and that's enough! We love you for your authentic self. You are enough! Nozi, our parents went through so much trauma which inevitably lands of children. It's the generational struggle for disadvantaged groups like our black families. At some point you have to choose you - your wellbeing, your now family. We are the "too kind" people who end up depleted because we prioritise others first and our needs last. To make it, we have to CHANGE and be OK with prioritising YOU. The beginning of your BECOMING is the awareness and I think God brought Lumi for exactly that. Do what you can and God will do the rest! Unfortunately you can't be the BE ALL for mother dearest. Everyone needs to do their part, including managing their expectations. A colleague once said that because the parents divorced, he became a clutch for his mom and fulfilled his father's responsibilities. It's quite a heavy burden and we need to charge this with our children. Please take care and be comforted that you went above and beyond for your family and that's enough. Change is not embraced by most but the change is very necessary and beneficial even for parents. On the side note, as uncomfortable as it may be to confront your elders, bullying must be called out for what it is. Nawe ungumntu!

I want to thank my mom for never being entitled to me taking care of her. And always being appreciative of whatever I can do for her.

Setting boundaries is actually harder than people think, especially if you are dealing with Africans parents. keep enforcing those boundaries it will pay off

This is so relatable to most of us. And parents are not aware that this could actually end a beautiful relationship between a child and their parent. You're an amazing aunt to Lutho❤

I got so emotional because I know exactly what you are talking about. Your mom’s approach is exactly like my mom’s, always right and always the victim. She overlooks what I do for her, especially when I do something for myself she will always say that yena akanakwa. So in 2021 I was unemployed and there was a month I needed her help financially (she is a teacher) and all she did was complain and never helped me, I have since learnt to be selfish and I’m fine being viewed that way.

Lutho is SOOOOOO beautiful 😭❤️

Lutho's smile..She's soo adorable!

Well done Nozie nd Skhu! You guys did exceptional for Lutho's matric dance. Some kids that have both parents couldn't have such moment, couldn't afford the outfit ,but you guys made sure that Lutho has everything that she needs. Kwande apho nithatha khona

Pastor and his wife are a perfect example of “umntu ongena apho angafunekiyo khona”…. Our parents break us daily and it’s not an easy topic, I’m glad you opened up sisi. Many are in the same or similar situation, and it’s just hard 😢. Much love from Norway 🇳🇴

All we can do is change the narrative for our children and correct our parents mistakes by the way we raise our own. This was so heart felt

This one hit different! A mom who is never wrong, no matter how wrong they are, always the victim, toxic, my heart goes out to you. I know how you feel

That "i've never been so happy mtanam" part had me on tears❤️🙏.

When you said “umntanam” i totally felt lo “I’ve never been so happy in my life”… I love you Nozi, you deserve all things beautiful. Lumi came at God’s perfect time and YESSSSSS NGOWAKHO BABY GIRL ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. Lutho is very pretty, the dimples 😍😍😍😍😍😍. God bless you Nana

It’s the fact that Lutho can’t even seriously lie about blocking her 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

You know what?! So so many of us can relate and I’m glad you’re sharing it as real as it is. Going home is mad expensive. If it’s not the expectations, be it silent or shared it’s the guilt of not doing this or that even when it’s something you hadn’t planned. It’s a lot Shem. Thank you for keeping it real

This makes me emotional because people are so entitled and ungrateful. I personally appreciate your vulnerability, you are narrating a story of many. This is why some people just choose solitude. Some homes are toxic yeyiiii!! Side note: you look so beautiful mmagwe Lumz 🥰

Nozi don’t even stress! You are doing well. uMama needs to find her own happiness. You can give her R100000 she would still complain. It’s not even about you. For me my mum stresses me I IGNORE! If she is fed, well clothed, has food on her table and a roof over her head then life continues. As for the pastor’s wife block or ignore as well. Sorry sis!

I’m glad you have a brother who expiriences your mom with you,I feel sorry for anyone who’s an only child going through such severe black tax.Thanks for sharing

The way Skhu looks like his mother... What a beautiful vlog sisi thank you ❤❤

By being vulnerable, you’re healing some of us who are experiencing the same thing but have nowhere to share….thank you. Phepi Nozi….