Retrenchment Comes With A Lot Of Shame

Just got retrenched in July 2024, this is fresh in my bones - interesting perspective. Thank you for this video

This was so beautiful to watch! I relate a lot to the feeling of shame. I think it stems from wanting to be self sufficient and not dependent on anyone because I doubt there would be shame if you lost your job and then won the lotto.

One of the things am more scared of about being unemployed is the shame of going back home...

I've loved Bonga since the episode where you talked about navigating the work environment as a new, entry-level employee. That episode helped me so much—now I can cope with most things at work. Keep it up, guys! ❤

Bonga touched on two things I struggle with the most. The two managers who were sitting across me after 6 years telling me I wasn’t qualified to do the same job I had been doing for the past 6 years. I associate them with that experience and not in a good way. I hope one day I wake up and never think of them…at least I have moved from anger/bitterness. I started in my current job February 2023 (5 year contract), yet I am soooo jittery looking for another job.

I actually went through the retrenchment process but I went with a voluntary separation option because I had been wanting to leave for some time but was just waiting to get another job. I just decided to take the jump. I'm on the five month mark and nothing has been secured yet. I think my perception on retrenchment has helped me not feel offended by them. I see everything as a contract coming to an end at some point. What helped me was that I was ready to go. Had I not been feeling like that I would definitely be devastated by it. It's worse for people with kids. It's funny how we look to HR for answers during the process, and yet they're going through the same thing. We just forget to give grave to them because of how we see them. Thanks Bonga, you have really been a voice of reason for many of us here. Happy you are not back at making money sosi❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

Triggering episode but what a beautiful and informative episode. Thank you for being vulnerable Bonga, this happened to my sister while i was in my training contract and I had to step up and take care of her and her 2 kids. After 3 years of not securing a job she finally found something exciting and when I tell you, we reflect to the times when we were struggling and make the most of the time we in now i am not joking. It does feel like PTSD when you don’t want to spend money but to save it or invest it. I think because of her situation and being secondary affected in a way i really understand what you mean when you say save for retrenchment. Thank you for sharing ❤

There is a lot of shame in being unemployed because it makes one feel like they were not enough or a failure. I recently met an attractive guy and the work issue came up I wasn't sure if I should say that I am unemployed incase they then consider me a girl who would be a financial burden. I ended just telling them the truth ngoba I don't know for how long I would keep up a lie. With regard to desperation I did start applying for jobs that I qualified for but was not really interested in. It drained me so much emotionally and felt like I would be taking myself back to the same position I was trying to get out of. The process does really mess with one's mind. I am currently paying for a bond and should I run out of funds I feel like I have no other place to go to because I am building a home that I never had so I won't fail. The one thing I am sure of is that I will make it through and will not lose this home.

Thank you for this. Your episodes are so healing. They have help me expand the level of my empathy

Great conversation as always. The policy is called an Income Protector offered by most FSPs like PPS etc .

For Americans listeners retrenchment means layoff. This is so relatable. But when I was retrenched I had to take a much lower paying service job so I wouldn't dip in to savings. Still at job too.

This episode is so validating. Being able to put words to feelings brings so much validation. Lovely episode : )

Oooooh love this ladies Ursula,Bonga and Asante Bonga has touched on something the shame of being unemployed people thinks you're lazy while you are applying 100times Get you Girl love you guys

I’m in the season and it’s so tough. There’s a difference between the climate and going through this climate. I relate so much to Bonga’s story. Being young, educated and unemployed.

I loved and appreciated this conversation so much, I love Bonga on camera so much and hope she shares more of her lessons as she grow...❤❤

Lovely conversation 🎉❤

Yaaaay!! Bonga❤ love seeing you in front of the camera

Oh Bonga ❤️thank you for your vulnerability. There’s so much strength in vulnerability and sharing your story. I can absolutely relate after having walked a similar path. You have comforted many with your story and shared some valuable gems. I love how you were able to find some silver linings in the midst of the storm and still find comfort from your support system. May you soar high and continue to radiate your beam and light. May your cup overflow. Sending endless hugs your way sis 🫂❤

Can’t get over how beautiful you ladies are 😂❤. Our jobs mean so much to us because they are i.e source of income, for some people living out your passions etc… losing that hurts. Can’t imagine how much it hurts to lose your job.

Thank you for your vulnerability Bongs ❤ life truly happens to all of us and geuss what! It was a much needed event, for where we are going