The Truth About DUTCH Hospitality

Is "going Dutch" for you?

English is full of "anti-Dutch" idioms such as "Dutch courage," "Dutch uncle," "Going Dutch," "Dutch treat," and "Double Dutch," which all originated from the Anglo-Dutch Wars in the 17th and 18th centuries, reflecting varying degrees of hostility or mockery towards the Dutch. The historical context of conflicts between England and the Netherlands contributed to a lot of these idioms, showcasing how language can reflect past animosities or stereotypes.

In Turkey when we split, we was say "Alman usulü" which translates to "German way".

I dated a girl from the Netherlands while at school in the USA. Also met quite a few Dutch women on vacation in Spain........ When we had our first date, she wanted that we split the bill. I insisted I would pay. After a while she agreed. Than few days later she surprised me with a nice dinner she cooked because I paid the bill. Fantastic woman.... Other Dutch women I met impressed me too in various ways. They are not cheap at all, at least in my experience.

I’m Dutch and I’ve never send a tikkie in my life. That’s a teenager thing, because they’re always broke 😂 By the way, I’ve also never been to a party where I had to bring food or received any tikkies? This is greatly exaggerated, sounds like it’s about a totally different country than I know all my life. Must be a generation thing.

I would rather set myself on fire than ask someone I invited to my house for their share of the meal.

Interesting fact; you mentioned in your video at 6:23 that people couldn't distinguish between Dutch and Deutsch, in Türkiye we don't use "go Dutch" instead there is a phrase "go German" or in native "Alman usulü" meaning the "split the bill equally"

Usually the locals can spot the Dutch tourists because they tend to spend less than other Europeans when they go on holidays. Dutch holiday makers also love their caravans and campers so during the summer, you'll see a lot of them on the motorways.

I'll share a bit about my country Croatia, if anyone is interesting in reading. if you are invited to someone's house for a dinner you can't just show up without bringing anything, if it is a kid's birthday or some kind of special event most people bring money in a little envelope and a card with something nice written along with the gift. That means often they essentially pay (or split the bill) the amount of money you had spend on the food and hosting for them. If it isn't a special event people usually bring at least something like a bottle of wine, or some sweets or flowers or other alcohol etc. if you are a high school kid or a university student out in a club or at someone's place or anywhere out drinking, usually everybody brings their own drinks. host will provide some alcohol an maybe some snacks but almost always you will bring whatever you plan on drinking or eating for yourself and then people of course share it afterwards, but generally everyone is mostly poor at that age so you aren't in a position to treat others. when you start earning and later in life we keep a count- one person pays for the round and then someone else pays for the round and so on that way essentially everyone paid for themselves just in a more complicated way. and if i pay for one coffee date with a friend they will pay for the next one. generally that's how it works we try to be fair and we also don't like to feel like we owe others money so everyone is constantly trying to pay for other people's food and drinks. there is even a funny ritual in which we fight over the bill and whoever is the most stubborn pays and then the other person pays next time and again after the same funny fighting ritual. it is just our way of showing we like this other person and we want to be polite, but no one is expected to pay all the time for everything. also there are some very generous people who pay for everyone all the time and I feel like most people don't like it bc they start feeling like they owe them. so the same idea is there of not wanting to owe anyone anything, we are just less direct about it unfortunately.

it does make sense though, that something stereotypical for a country is not known in that country, because there it´s normal

I would love to see other countries from different parts of the world would react to "Go Dutch" in their respective countries 😂 , especially the women

In italy is really common to split the bill with your group of friends mostly and we called it “alla romana” (in the Roman way). When we talk about the first date is the man to paying but it’s usually something very casual like having a coffee or a drink together (at least for the youngest generations). After the first date the couple will split the bills. At least that’s what I and all my friends do

I have nerver heard something like "going dutch" in Germany, splitting bills at restaurants is quite common, and also not "unfair", it would seem totally strange to pay for the order of someone else, except you have invited them. If you meet with friends at a restaurant or bar, nobody expects you pay for them. On dates you normally experience that the guy has to pay on first dates, and maybe on the 2nd, but when in a realtionship you normally split the bill or change who pays from occasion to occasion, but the whole tikkie thing is ridiculous. I just went to the app store and searched for "tikkie" and this proves it's a completely dutch thing, the app is only working with dutch bank accounts, which make it clear that it's not used somewhere else. Inviting people to a party and sending tikkies is insulting, you would loose all your friends in no time...

I am Dutch and grew up in a very low income household but we never grew up being stingy, my mum till this day will share her last euro, we never used tikkies. In my opinion it’s actually the students and middle income class that have very much the attitude of individuality. I remember growing up and everyone was always welcome and we would share the food no problem. About loving sales, it’s more forced upon us actually, normal prices in the shop are ridiculously high in comparison to other neighbouring countries when on sale you actually pay the normal price so we tend to look out for them.

Great job Marina—I can see how much effort was put into this! I've come to appreciate "going Dutch" because it's just easy and efficient—it saves a lot of time and headaches because there's no expectation of "who will pay?" Because I also come from an Asian family, and we LITERALLY FIGHT to pay the bill (which can be a funny scene in itself)—but it does create expectations of who pays next time and can sometimes create conflict ("Oh but we paid for them last time, and they should pay this time") But of course, I still think it's a nice, universal human gesture to offer to pay for others (or to serve) depending on the occasion! It was a fun day with great memories—I learned a lot! Keep it up!

I watched this and the previous video, and it explains my grandfather (whose own father (my great-grandfather) emigrated from the Netherlands to the USA at 19 years old) through and through. Cheapest man I’ve ever known and now I finally understand why 😂

As a man, I expect to pay. If the girl wants to, she can, no problem. The money doesn't matter. Her company, conversation, and a good meal are what's important.

I would like to add the nuance that the Netherlands is actually split up in many ways. Culturally we often speak of above and below the rivers, but in terms of cheapskate-ness en hospitality the north-east should not be excluded, thus dividing the country in randstad vs the provices would be more accurate in this case. In 'the provices' it's really common when you (unexpectedly) visit during diner time, you do get invited to join (and not receive a tikkie afterwards). An other example is the closing of the cookiejar. In the randstad you'll get offered one cookie during a coffeevisit, while here in the south the jar stays open and you could eat as many as there are available. There is more sense of community. The backdoor is always open for friends and family.

My ex is from NL and he's the cheapest guy I've ever dated. I was staying over his place and we went to supermarket together. He wanted to get jam for us to share but he made me pay for it. I only had two spoons and the rest of the jam sit in his fridge...

I think dutch cheapness is embarrassing. If someone sent me a tikky for ,50 or 1 eur i would never talk to that person again in my life . I would tell this person to stick the tikky where the sun doesn't shine. There are limits to everything.