Breaking the Cycle, how I did it and you can too

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just got done crying about not being able to achieve this and this came up. the FBI agents are hitting the ball out of the park. Thank you for this video.

Short Summary - Self-regulation is crucial for practicing healthy habits and becoming self-disciplined. - Learning to regulate our inner state allows us to break the cycle of autopilot behaviors and responses. - Understanding the autonomic nervous system and its role in regulating our physiological and psychological state - Understanding and regulating the nervous system for a healthier response. - Understanding the three stages on the scale: Safety, Fight/Flight, and Shutdown. - Recognizing your state of mind is crucial for personal growth. - Using tools to regulate the nervous system and manage emotions. - Practice conscious awareness of your nervous system - Consistency leads to results - Setbacks are important for growth --------------------------------- Detailed Summary Self-regulation is crucial for practicing healthy habits and becoming self-disciplined. - Self-regulation involves monitoring and managing our inner energy states, emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. - It allows us to manage disruptive emotions and impulses, and move flexibly between different states. Learning to regulate our inner state allows us to break the cycle of autopilot behaviors and responses. - Understanding the nervous system and its role in self-regulation - Navigating overwhelming emotions and finding ways to get out of them - Building a toolkit of helpful resources for regulating the nervous system - Developing self-discipline through consistent practice of positive habits - Recognizing the pattern of starting and stopping habits based on motivation levels Understanding the autonomic nervous system and its role in regulating our physiological and psychological state - The autonomic nervous system consists of the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems, which are responsible for our active and recovery states respectively - The sympathetic system triggers the fight or flight response, while the parasympathetic system promotes relaxation, digestion, and immune repair Understanding and regulating the nervous system for a healthier response. - Being aware of the different states of the nervous system and consciously moving between them. - Identifying triggers and emotions that lead to unconscious behaviors and finding healthier alternatives to feel safe. Understanding the three stages on the scale: Safety, Fight/Flight, and Shutdown. - Safety stage is where we feel calm, open to connection, relaxed, and grateful. - Fight/Flight stage is when we feel activated and stressed, with a sense of urgency. - Shutdown stage has two aspects: one where we feel relaxed and excited, and the other where we feel tired and drained. Recognizing your state of mind is crucial for personal growth. - Creating a system helps overcome resistance to tasks that require energy. - Drawing or writing out your feelings can increase self-awareness and identify patterns. - Awareness of your physical and emotional responses helps understand your current state and triggers. - Recognizing anxiety and stress can guide you in managing challenges and fears. Using tools to regulate the nervous system and manage emotions. - Tools like breath work, meditation, yoga, drawing, and exercise can help regulate the nervous system. - Different tools work for different situations; for example, shaking, jumping, or running can help release immediate anxiety. Practice conscious awareness of your nervous system - Use tools like deep breathing and lowering heart rate to manage anxiety - Build confidence and self-trust by learning how to handle strong emotions Consistency leads to results - Consistently practicing new habits and breaking old cycles will lead to positive change over time. - Starting small, being kind to yourself, and taking slow actions will help you make progress. Setbacks are important for growth - Setbacks become less frequent with time - It's okay to have setbacks and struggles.

My therapist recommended a really great book on this topic called “Anchored” by Deb Dana — for anyone who would like to dive deeper into these concepts.

Starting a new semester tomorrow can't wait to use these techniques for a smoother, more focused fall!! Love your videos

I thought your explanation was one of the clearest and most practical that I’ve seen-it takes the concepts and gives simple steps to put them into practice. I’m just learning about these different nervous system states, and I think I’ve been in either a disassociated or anxious state most of the time for decades. You explain so clearly how this leads to feeling like I can’t control myself or build better habits and why I compulsively do things like watching social media. Thanks ❤

I’m so glad the algorithm led me to your channel. I’m in a similar point in my journey to self-parenting and self-regulation so I definitely needed to hear this.

Thank u sm for this! I have been in this shutdown state for as long as i remember and yes there have been points when I realize that it’s time for a change and enough is enough, but at the end nothing happens. For my first 2 years of uni i’ve been in this state and as a result my grades have suffered and so has my mental health. I am now going into my third year and something has to change. I cannot live like this anymore. So thank you very much for giving me this push because I will actually put in the work! And thanks for that message at the end, to start small. I think that was my biggest issue, I thought i could change overnight and that was really overwhelming. But no, one small step is enough! And all those small steps u take build up over time and eventually you’ve changed without feeling overwhelmed all the time. So thanks for this again and I will be using tips! <3

I'm so glad I encountered this video, I've seen so many videos about this but none that explained it as well and as thorough as you did. It really helps with knowing the nervous system states and the tools to combat it. <3

just wanted to say that i love this! you were very informative and very well spoken. i have been struggling with anxiety for a while and i think this video was a good refection on how i have felt in the past. thank you for creating this. i look forward to seeing more of your content.....and leaving more comments to help you along the way as well :) wishing you all the best!

thank you so much for posting this video! this is an incredibly helpful explanation of something I've been trying to learn about for ages now. I could not have found this video at a better time :)

Thank you! Woke up today feeling overwhelmed, questioning how to get theough the day and your video found me and your tips are exactly what I needed to hear today! This will stick with me for life, thank you! ❤️

This was very helpful and you did make sense! I appreciate how you explained the ideas very concretely and with humility. Wishing you all the best on your journey. Keep up the good work!

Oh my god. I'm so glad this came to my feed. I was really struggling rn and it made so much sense. I could feel you girl. You explained it so well even when it was hard for you. I admire your strength and send you a lot of love. This is what a trauma informed video looks like and I absolutely want ppl with PTSD or any kind of trauma to share their story and be a part of an empowering community.

I keep watching this video every few days. Tysm for this. I’m glad to know that’s it’s possible to feel safe inside my body.

I really needed this right now. thank you for sharing your journey and advices.

I love that you are so authentic in what you do and say <3 keep posting :)

Thank you so much for this video!! I always find it hard to just get up and do whatever I want to do.. I feel like your video helped me a lot, Jen.. Lots of love ❤

I've been on my healing journey for about 3 years now and this video found me at the perfect time. You have no idea how much I needed to hear these things about self-regulation and described in such a beautiful and easy to understand way. Thank you so much for making this video, I genuinely feel like I have leveled up to the next step of my healing because of it💕

This video is sooo amazing! Thank you for this <3