Dating in Singapore: First dates, green flags & money | We Try First

I pity those in the dating market these days. Whilst youngsters claim that society was far more patriarchal or traditional or more steeped in traditional gender roles back then, life was simpler. And I am not referring to the 60s or 70s. I am a millennial, albeit the oldest of the gang, but when I first dated my wife more than 23 years ago, there isn't any talk of who pays for whom. Oh, our first date was a stroll in the park, literally. We chatted, walked, and chatted some more. That was it. Oh, my wife is the only woman I have ever dated or held hands with romantically. And she was with me through thick and thin, through NS, and we completed our postgraduate studies together. We have five children together. ❤ She is my one and only.

One thing I’d like to add. Wedding ring (engagement ring) and wedding band are two different things. Wedding ring is a waste of money no matter how much it cost. For myself, I bought my wife a Rolex instead. And we had two basic wedding bands

These are the 4 most relatable and REALISTIC dating perspectives ive heard in awhile

The malay girl is the most balanced one, followed by the married guy. the other two are single for blindingly obvious reasons.

Lots of good insights!

How expensive are these “dates” that need to keep talking about split and costs? I married my wife two years ago with about 4 yrs prior dating. I paid for all dates, fancy or not fancy ones. If your date demands a fancy eat-out worth a few hundred each time, then it’s more of a red flag. If you a guy, can’t afford to pay for your dates bowl of ramen or have petty issues why do I always need to pay for your meal when that meal is not worth a ton, then there are huge issues out there

Munah #1 Munah and dew super funny together but prolly have to tone down for ST 😂

Before even going on first dates, ask yourself if the cost is too high. If yes, use that potential cost for better means (e.g. family care, investing etc.). You won't regret it. 😊

20 y/o never dated and don’t plan to. Save all my money and travel the world, people today are screwed in the head

Love never appeared in their conversation. Only money and transaction was only talk. Where this generation is going.

The ring should be the biggest u can afford, girls don't ask other girls how much the ring cost, they ask how big the damn diamond is. Dont get tricked into buying what AAA grade diamond bs, just get the biggest one u can afford.

Ask parents to help you guys lor. They are wiser, perceptive and better screeners than dating agencies. Cheaper as well. For these guys , it’s I, ME and MYSELF😁.

Marriage is about your Self Interest more than anything. This is why its not true love except if you define it based on self interest just like santa claus

Lol if you're interested then the guy pays the first date, then please never be interested.

I asked a Singaporean 42 year old woman online out for coffee, she said dinner better. I said Mos Burger. She threw a tantrum via text "who do you think you are??! You think I will eat fast food for you???!!". Major red flag. Can't cook, can't love, cant do housechores, can't earn money (I earn more). Basically she comes into the relationship with nothing to offer, and her eggs may be infertile at 42.she thinks she's 20😅😅😅. Two years later she's still lurking around the app waiting for her banquet😂😂😂

By the way, majority people said it's a matter of time before the remaining singapore reserves $ be scammed away, so how the pap party going to do now ??

Be brave and date as many as possible to get right partner...only don't be "chee-hong"

Is it permissible to speak this topic in public?

This lady again.

Still dating ?? Don't forget so many people already fallen into the scams.