EVERYTHING You Need To Know Before Getting Married: Mahr, Red Flags & More!! | Sheikh Belal Assaad

Salamo alaykom, just a simple translation of Dr Jasem's 10 questions: 1) What is your future ambition? 2) What is your understanding of marriage? 3) Which qualities would you like to see in your life partner? 4) Is it necessary to give birth in the first year? 5) Do you have any health or hereditary problems? 6) Are you sociable? who are your friends? 7) How is your relationship with your parents? 8) How do you spend your free time? 9) Do you have a charitable or voluntary activity? 10) What do you think about having your mom or my mom involved in our personal matters?

I’m not a Muslim but I learnt so much from this interview. Thank you for sharing. Hoping for a next interview with Sheikh Belal.

Questions to ask before marriage: 1. Where do you see your self in ‘x’ number of years? What is your outlook? 2. What is your world view? What are your thoughts about the world? What are we here for? 3. Ask about family. How do your family live? What do they enjoy doing? How did parents meet? How do you guys interact? 4. What do you enjoy doing in your free time? Tells about personality. 5. How do you see finances and management? Are they a spender or saver. *there are 5 other questions I can’t find them tbd Ask informally, it’s not interrogation. You can start talking about yourself. Leave the questions open ended. Don’t solely rely on conversation but also pay attention to how you feel and do some background work (social media + community). How do they act with their family? They will treat you the same when they get comfortable. You can test a person but without lying or deception. To see how they react when put in certain situations.

14:13 "another advice i give is look write down six or seven main things that you as a person you can never be able to tolerate" amazing points made regarding this topic!

Sheikh Belal is a gem, may Allah protect him and his family. I loved the interaction which was warm, funny and respectful at the same time :)

As a Muslim father of two I really respect this man way of of thinking, he inspires me and gives very reasonable examples tabarak Allah his a zalameh

There is so much wisdom in what he said. I totally agree, i’m from Azad Kashmir Pakistan and my husband is from Karachi. We got married just out of emotions and eventually its a big disaster. Our customs, lifestyle are totally different we just cant get along . He feels uncomfortable with my relatives & im in his. I advise young couple to choose the partner wisely and keeping in mind all the points as Sir said. Dont get marry based on attraction, physical looks and emotions.

Asking these questions is a good start but be aware that people lie. I know about even the parents lying about their kids to get them married, thinking the person will change with responsibility. But if the upbringing was not right, the capacity of handling responsibilities won’t be. Also, narcissism is a real thing. Someone can outwardly be someone and inwardly be someone else. They hide themselves very well, they manipulate very well, they are clever in giving quick responses. Be very observant and have a connection with Allah swt.

All videos of you guys with Belal are always my favs!!!

This speakers voice is so soothing ! He will make a good voice for any audible books!

big thanks to the questions you guys asked - guess all us young people got the same questions lol. sheikh Bilal really answered them beautifully also keeping in mind the times we're living in... which is something alot of adults or parents don't consider.

One of the best lectures on this marriage thing. So many golden advices there. I'll always keep coming back to it and share it with others too insha Allah. Thanks Sheikh and this channel for addressing this beautifully.

Mashallah he speaks very gently. Learned a lot

Most of our youngsters, even up to the age of 20 are nowhere near of being ready for marriage. Dont know how talking about it would change anything. Most of the problems come from the parents/household/society. If that does not change, then talking about marrying at a young age will dont bring any change.

Its so good to see young muslim generation doing beneficial work for their Ummah it will inspire the upcoming generations. Mashallah and jazakum Allah khayran inchallah wa baraka

Ma’shaa Allah loved this. Inshallah Sheikh comes next time with the 10 questions. Looking forward to that ❤

i am mixed as well and honestly the struggle is real. honestly at this point I feel like being with a mixed person would be the most comfortable for me

This was amazing to watch, this is pure wisdom. What an inspiration of a man!

Jazakarallah khayran …. This was much needed knowledge for the upcoming generation who are thinking about getting married. I wish I had this insight before I took the plunge. ☺️

This was so insightful, jazakallah ❤️