Jordan Peterson’s Advice for Newlyweds

Proposing to the woman of my life next week! Great timing with an amazing clip! Much love, Jordan and Tammy! Update: she said yes, you all are amazing. Much love.

The problem is when you take the other person for granted. Be grateful for them and your marriage. Treat them with the respect your wife/husband deserves as your spouse.

Married 20 years to a beautiful woman who loves me better than she should. Those words- “don’t settle down, strive up!” Man, that’s where I’m striving the rest of my life. Thank you Petersons.

Married for half a year now, and we’re learning to not settle for the ugly/unhealthy parts about each other that we now see so clearly. I‘m so happy I wrote down alllll the beauty I saw in my husband when we first dated! It’s a treasure that I will go back to everytime I lose sight of the wonderful things about him. And then it‘s my job to actively see him through this lense of beauty, and love on him. Why? Because he deserves it? No. Because he is worth it. He is made to be loved. And I decided to be the nearest person to him that will love him. That doesn‘t mean to ignore the tricky things. We both are willing to learn to be responsible for our own negative emotions and to name and communicate our needs. But to love him AS IF he already was the perfect version of himself, really is my number one job for the rest of our married life. Ultimately I see this beautiful concept in God. He loves humans to death, he really really does. Jesus showed it when he thought we are worth dying for. And the most intimate picture for his love is the theme of bridegroom (Jesus) and bride (people who love him). He loves his unfinished, sinful, egoistic, broken bride not because she is so beautiful in every way, but TO LOVE/MAKE HER beautiful and healthy and bright. Love is the only thing that truly changes people.

“You can see who they are at all stages of life at the same time” JP knows his stuff

4:32 “Your kids will benefit from the beauty of your relationship.” So true! My parents had a very beautiful relationship and I think that set a high standard for me. I’ve not yet been able to find the right partner to live up to that standard. But it has helped to have that great example to follow, because I won’t “settle” for a wrong person. I think that settling for a bad partner leads to a very unhappy situation. I think it’s worth holding out for and striving to find someone that you can have a beautiful relationship with.

Him giving this speech with his wife sitting happily next to him is a true testament to the validity of what he’s saying ~ makes me inspired to try all the harder to be my best in my own relationship

My Dad taught me you don't fall in love but you fall into a pit. You grow in love. Still growing in love!

I cannot fathom that there are people in this world that exist to tear this man down. Much love!

When I asked my father-in-law how he and my mother-in-law managed to stay so happy and so in love with eachother while raising 5 kids and running a ranch, he said this: "I love our children. But I loved my wife first." Meaning they put their marriage first, building a solid foundation for their kids.

My parents never argued. They never yelled at each other. They were always in agreement, they would make every important decision together. I want such a relationship as well. I know it is rare.

My wife and I make sure to have a date night once a week, no matter what. You need to focus on each other in order to make the family stronger. I tell all of my friends in relationships to do the same.

Jordan Peterson is always 100%. Another fantastic 8 minutes.

My grandmother's advice was don't go to bed angry at each other.

Your kids benefit from the beauty of your relationship. Absolutely! I remember asking my parents to call each other my love. I remember they weren't affectionate or even NICE to each other. I wanted so badly for them to make an effort!!!

Oh man that last bit was so beautifully poetic it made me tear.

He always takes the words out of my mouth and articulates them in a way that keeps me thinking about it all day. Thanks for all you do Mr.. Peterson

This was one of the most beautiful speeches I have ever heared. Mr. Petersons wisdom is just beautiful.

This is one of the best interviews that not only gives me comfort but also really gives me hope in people.

Getting married in 6 months. Let me tell you, after a lot of intense therapy and introspection I think I can finally say “I deserve love”. My fiancée saw something in me that I never knew I had: Value. I thought that I wasn’t deserving of a wife. I was addicted to alcohol, drugs, infidelity, and chaos. My 20’s were full of tough times. The long term damage is just shy of irreparable. In the 3 years we’ve been together I thought I was just prolonging the inevitable. Taking that next drink, taking that tab of ecstasy, having sex with another woman for the thrill of cheating…yeah. But I finally managed to get clean. 4 years since I have drank, done drugs, or had casual sex. I do deserve good things. In 6 months I’ll be married to my partner and can’t wait to see what the bright side of life looks like.