Finding Love in the Modern Dating Culture (with Nathaniel Drew)

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Published 2023-07-16
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Check out the video we did for Nathaniel's channel:    • Why Relationships Are So Hard  

We also recorded an episode for his podcast:    • Lana Blakely: How to Navigate Lonelin...  

Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction
00:13 - Mental health
02:04 - Defining ‘being in love’
06:50 - What we look for in love
08:47 - Pickiness
14:15 - Looking at your dating history
15:25 - Vulnerability vs. privacy as a creator
17:45 - The mystery of finding love
19:36 - The challenge of modern dating
22:40 - Living with regrets
27:30 - Being a loner
33:55 - Making friends as an adult
35:55 - Reading peoples energies
42:48 - Maintaining friendships
46:16 - 3 tips for finding friends
57:20 - What would ND like to be remembered by?


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All Comments (21)
  • @LanaBlakely
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  • @natemarx4999
    Lana should definitely have a podcast. She is ridiculously great at conversations and her insight is spectacular.
  • You two seem like you can have such an easy conversation, like it just flows naturally without having to try and it’s nice to see
  • @ErikPelyukhno
    This is lowkey my ideal date, genuine open conversation in a park. No cameras and mics are necessary but just because they’re there doesn’t mean the thoughts shared in this video were not genuine! I’m so stoked you guys had this conversation, I learned a lot. Here’s to hopefully more content with type of form
  • I like how you demonstrate that men and women can have genuine deep conversations like this without there being any further intentions. My friend group is both men and women and we talk about everything with eachother. Some people who don't really know us are like "Is this person crushing on that person"...blah, blah, blah. Nope. We've all been friends for over 10 years and we all just get along well and have grown with eachother over the years. Not everything is romantic between men and women. We all benefit from platonic friendships with men, women, different backgrounds and perspectives.
  • Lana Blakely and Nathaniel Drew are one of the best at giving great advices. We wish them further success.
  • Hard not to be mesmerized seeing Lana in person I imagine, glad to see two of my favorite YouTubers sharing a video!
  • @zahra_mit_z
    I love your chemistry together! If you two had a podcast, I'd definitely listen to it.
  • @shadysnapshot
    You guys are such INFJs wow, I relate to a lot of this. The looking for something deeper than most people thing is real...
  • The collab I didn’t expect and love!🙈 So insightful!
  • Awesome advice, Lana! Mental health is so important, but often overlooked, for a healthy, happy life. Keep up the great work!
  • @wattw3900
    I can tell you two are both pretty one of a kind people, which is part of the reason this conversation flowed so well and is so genuine. I also think that with dating and love it might take some time to find someone who is also one of a kind. Something I tell myself is I need to find someone who is the same kind of “special” as me (which is one of the reasons why I am picky and it’s hard for me to find people I’m romantically interested in) because you don’t stumble upon a super special person every day, or in other words someone who “matches”you. hope that made sense, great convo and video!
  • @jimsullivanyoutube
    Thanks for taking us on this date with you. You kept me company while I worked on a very tedious layout! ❤
  • @ecoknitty
    Seems like he is describing Lana the type of the person he is looking for!😅
  • This was quite interesting to listen too. As I am in that phase of my life, where its only this year that I am been bolder and intentional, to not only ask people out but also see those that I find interesting to just connect with. And also cultivate existing friendships and notice those that cares too. And of course this conversations leads right into the next step of "adulthood" as I just graduated. So its something I am reflecting upon for how to make deeper connections with other people. And also, the part about not having to "weekly hangout" with friends, but you still have this unique present momentness when you meet different friends throughout the world. Thank you for recording this down to earth kind of conversation :) Nathanial and Lana!
  • It was a really wonderful conversation. As a podcaster, I remember having one of my early conversations in the same style sitting in a park, with one of my favorite creators and having a conversation I wanted to had and made it into a podcast episode.. But this one had a a lot of insights on dating and how not to pick the wrong ones. Lana is really thoughtful about her questions and where she wanted to navigate the conversation. Loved the energy between Lana and Nathaniel! Cheers!
  • @inaccessible4327
    Oh my gosh the vibes in this video are IMMACULATE!! the birds chirping in the background, you two talking about a very interesting and relevant topic that we deal with on a daily basis - this makes me ache for summer again ☺️🌿☀️🌾
  • I really like your calm energy, Lana! ☺️ Would like to see this interview/conversation style videos more often! :)
  • @MorganeThev
    I love that you didn't cut the moments when you were talking about the motorbike or when you were wondering if the camera was filming it makes the conversation feels very honnest and raw
  • @muhdeyam6281
    Wow this is awesomee, i love you guys both! Gonna watch and listen to substantial thoughts now