The Truth About Singleness: Unanswered Prayers and Perfect Timing

Have you been praying for something and had to wait longer than others?

I am 72 years old and still single. God has never pointed out to me why, but one day in my early 50s I knew that it would never happen and accepted that. The freedom I have as a single Christian has given me hundreds of blessings in other ways. As a worship leader since 1988, I’ve had the freedom and blessing to lead others in worship, and write worship songs that have been successful, with nothing getting in the way of either of those desires or obligations. I’m sure when I get to heaven Jesus will tell me why, and for now I am content. I consider myself blessed to serve where God has sent me without hinderance. Amen!

I waited a long time, got frustrated, took matters into my own hands, got ahead of God — and ended up married to a literal sociopath. The marriage was a total nightmare. We had a child, and I am raising her alone. It is not easy. She has his brain and narcissistic tendencies. Life has been made so much more complicated because I didn’t continue to wait. Waiting was lonely. But the toxic marriage was MORE LONELY.

When I was a teenager struggling with things in my life, I felt God say “worship me and you’ll be free.” My life has been nothing but struggle and disappointment ever since, but EVERY TIME I’m feeling like I’m at my wits end, I think back to those words. Once I calm myself and begin to praise Him, all the worries and cares of this world just melt away. Jesus is literally the only thing that matters in this world. He gave up everything so that I could be free from sin and be reconciled to God, I owe Him my very life and soul. So regardless of how much I have to suffer and struggle in this life, I will always worship Him because He alone is worthy

I’ve been single for almost 7 years because I refuse to live in sin. I’ve asked God to connect me with someone because I got tired of dating demons. I’d rather be single than marry the wrong person.

I know exactly. I’m 46 never been married never been in a serious relationship. Always have desired to be a wife and mother. 🙏🏼♥️

I love this. I was a singles pastor for many years in a huge ministry and I’d tell the singles that we live in a broken world and being single and desiring marriage is healthy and biblical, just like wanting a good marriage is biblical. But in this broken world we don’t always see the ideal happen and God may be just as heartbroken over the single wanting marriage as he is over married people wanting divorce.

Im a Christian man, age 61, and single. I can relate. It is not good for man to be alone. I have learned enough to know that the wrong women will cost you your life. And a wife is from the Lord! And ya better know the difference by being the difference. Anything before God's timing and His maturing is not good!

Im 58 latino male no family due to abandonment since birth ..being alone has really lead me to look to God for the love i need ..the lover of my soul 🕊

I got married at the age of 41 after what seemed like an arduously long wait. I had sort of given up. Suddenly the Lord caused our paths to cross. It was his timing…not mine…He bought me the best….and prepared me as best he could for this godly man….our lives don’t follow the usual patterns of the world….they are shaped uniquely by Him. We follow at a cost…

Thank you for your raw honesty and talk about wrestling with God and getting to a place of peace. I am 48, never married and no children, so this honest conversation was a blessing. I am contending with God on His promise as He has promised me marriage. I also think someone in my mid 20’s might have been the one but his own fear and insecurity kept him single and he’s now in his 60’s. I just met a kind man a few weeks ago and he’s 54 and never married with no children. We’ve gone out twice and he’s asked to meet up again, so this might be the season where my 30+ years of praying comes to fruition. 💝

Sometimes we just need to accept God’s will for our respective lives. Some will marry and some will not. Some will have children and some will not. Some will be rich and some will be poor. My personal prayer to God is for Him to give me the strength to accept His will and accept the things that are beyond my control. I use to idolize marriage but I have made a deliberate decision to let it go. If marriage is in His plans for my life it will come to pass. If it is not then I accept. It is all in His hands and He knows best.

I was like this in my early 30s and got married at 35. It was so HARD being single but I had so much time to spend with God and doing his will and travel and do what I wanted. Got married and hardly have much time for any of that anymore. My relationship with God is less robust as it used to be as a single and the kids TAKE OVER your life to the point you feel like you have no life anymore and it's all about them. So I would say please enjoy being single and taking care of yourself. Marriage and kids is literally self sacrifice. The benefit is you aren't lonely but you desperately want to be alone sometimes. It's two different extremes. I wish it weren't so extreme.

Imagine being married but feeling the most lonely and rejected, even more so than when single. Marriage isnt the answer to all your needs. Create a wonderful single life for yourself! Maybe God has someone for you in the years ahead but if not, thank Him for all the saddness and despair in a possible marriage He's saved you from.

I'm 47, and still single. The hardest part for me is the discrimination among Christians and in the Church toward singles. Churches are for families, and even seem to favor folks who have been divorced over those of us who have never been married. (Dani Treweek has a new book on the topic, which I found very interesting.) Everyone needs Christian community of some kind, and the way the Church treats singles makes it really hard to find.

My dad was a widower but met someone and remarried at 71, his wife is similar age. You never know what might happen. Thanks for this video, very well done.

Sometimes there isn't perfect timing. It's simply just not going to happen, and it's best to just mourn, grieve and work through the pain to reach a place of contentment.

I’m 46 , a Nigerian and lover of God, people make it seems like a disease not being married at this stage

It's not rare that people who believe in God and Jesus are single. Because we don't waste time in people we know are bad for us, or just simply don't understand us. The love a person can have when you find yourself, is not common and people are not used to be alone. That's why there's a lot of couples that really don't work well and people are toghether out of fear.

Thanks to all of you for listening and contending for the promise of a God design!