5 Things A Woman Shouldn’t Tell A Man Upfront!

I really wish I knew about your videos prior to being married. I made every single one of these mistakes with my ex-husband, and he sure used every single one of them against me. Isolated me from friends, family, and thought I'd never be able to leave him with three children, BUT GOD!! Ladies, listen to Tony! I thought I was being transparent in the name of Christianity. That man pulled me so far away from God with every year I stayed in that marriage and we were "church leaders", picture-perfect on the outside. Love yourself, be assertive, and lead with the story of you, not your trauma. I am 5 years divorced, and through these videos, therapy, and self work, I have done some major introspection and HEALING without dating until being ready. And even then, I have to gut check with these videos every now and again when I feel my trauma wanting to respond instead of me. Thank You, Tony!

1) Never tell a man about your trauma, go to a Therapist and/or coach. 2) Never tell a man how many men you've slept with. 3) Never tell a man your complete vision of what you want in a man. 4) Never tell a man about your last relationship 5) Never tell a man too much of your family business

Tonys 5 thing: 1. Past trauma 2. Body count 3. What you want in your partner 4. Conditions under which previous relationships ended (see #1) 5. Family business My one addition (imo) 6. Finances, career goals 🤞🏻 Edit at 1.2k likes: ma look, I’m famous.

Ladies he just gave you a $100,000 worth of information for free! This is the truth! Older woman here, if I may piggyback and add-- apply the same guidelines for women friends as well. If she is a friend that you made after adulthood, keep the same principles. Unless you grew up with her and she already knows your history don't tell her everything either.

Damn that's deep! "Let a man show who he is, instead of telling him who you want him to be." PERIOD 💯💯💯

"Do not turn your lover into your therapist." "Go get a therapist." That is so true.👏🏼

Over time, if you listen to a man long enough, he'll tell you who he really is, so listen...listen...listen.

There are some things you never tell a man even if he is your husband. He may not always be your husband. My ex threw all my issues back at me after 26 years of marriage when he wanted out. A man is a man no matter what the relationship with him is. When he no longer loves you he will throw it all back at you.

Being open and vulnerable is apart of building a relationship. If you do not feel like you can disclose and open up to someone it is probably an indication you shouldn't be dating them.

Can we add "don't tell a new man about your money"?

Let a man show you who he is instead of telling him who you want him to be...💯I love it!!!

As a 61yr old woman. I am single and childless, by choice and I learned that we tell too much too early. I like having good conversation, but some men don't like talking and don't want you asking them questions because they are gathering information on how to trick or treat you in the future. The information pops when a disagreement or argument occurs. As you know men and women can put on Oscar winning performances until the mask falls off. In my opinion many men don't believe in seeing a therapist.

That is so true!! I told my daughters never tell what you been through with the last dude just because then they know how they could play them.

I had to learn.....some men will use your vulnerabilities against you....😮

Here is one Tony. Don’t talk bad about yourself, calling yourself fat, butt to big, small, complaining about what you don’t like about yourself your feet etc. He must see that you love and accept yourself. Let him see you working on you taking care of you. Own your power with a man.

If a man can't handle hearing about my trauma, he can't handle being my partner. If there's anything you think a potential partner shouldn't tell you, you aren't partner material yourself.

Basically, don't share anything negative about yourself. Avoid mentioning any negative experiences or mistreatment from others, as man may use that against you. Those who engage in such behavior are often narcissistic, and there are many of them. I learned this the hard way. I was already aware of the points you mentioned, and you're right about the part where they might try to inquire about your trauma to exploit you. I have mentors I follow, so I don't need emotional support from a man unless it's related to money and growth. Remember, don't share your history with anyone unless they have earned it. 💕

A man asked about my past and I told him about my trauma and 20 min later, he used it against me. This was a man I knew and thought I could trust. Women, listen to Tony. Don’t make the same mistake I did. Men will use it to make you feel weak and turn your trauma against you. Listen to this video until all of it is ENGRAINED in your BRAIN!! Thank you Tony. Bless you all.

Ive made all of these mistakes. I think it comes down to healing before entering a relationship. It's difficult not to speak on your trauma when your trauma is with you everyday, because you want to share whats on ur mind. But after you heal, you're able to have conversation beyond that. You no longer feel like ur hiding something if u dont mention it.

You’re absolutely right! I didn’t fully tell my husband about my trauma until after we were married and guess what? His mask fell off, he was a closet narcissist and he used all my trauma against me and tested how far he could push me abusively until I left him for good. I should have followed my intuition bc I didn’t want to tell my ex what I’ve been through.