I Confront My Mom on my Childhood Trauma | Trauma Bond

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That mother is GOLD! The daughter lives in never, never land and wants everyone to play along. But she’s a sweet young woman.

Hurt people hurt other people. Our parents had trauma as well that’s why they pass it to us. Need to break the cycle

It's one thing to ask the mother not to comment on her weight, but it's another to flat-out say, "I'm NOT fat". You can be fat and ask people not to point it out, but to say that you're not when you clearly are is living in denial and awkward for everybody.

I cried. Mostly because Auntie is open minded and willing to discuss. I greatly understand where she came from in terms of her understanding based on how her mother was.

As a parent, you have to build up your child’s confidence, while they are gaining their sense of self. Words matter. I think we need to remember that.

my husband is filipino, he’s told me stories like this. filipino people deserve this kind of healing. thank you so much for doing this work 🙏🏾 and for sharing it we’re watching live and one day our Black+Filipino kids are going to watch too ♥️

these are the hard conversations all filipino families should have in their households! thank you for making this kind of content.. can't wait for the video..watching from Milan, Italy😊

I didn’t realize how important it was to have these kind of uncomfortable conversations until I had to have it with my parents. My mom is Filipino and my dad is Vietnamese/American and I recently had a conversation with both of them separately about the trauma I had due to their actions. I held it in for so long (26 years basically) and it really started to affect my relationship with them. But through therapy I realized they need to know and understand how they made me feel bc it just causes a lot of resentment. The conversations went really well and I think has strengthened our relationships. And I feel better knowing that THEY know how I feel and what’s going on so that we all can learn and be better bc in reality our parents are doing the best they can while dealing with their own trauma from their parents. I wanted to be the one to stop the generational trauma before I start my own family.

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I’m in tears. Brought back memories of my childhood. Even now the meanest things I hear are from mom and aunties

I’m not Filipino but this video really resonated with me. It reminded me a lot of my relationship with my mom. And it was beautiful to see how much they share even with the trauma from her childhood.

What I recently learned from another influencer is that the real goal is not to not use the word 'fat', but instead be okay with it. This influencer said, "I AM fat. You denying it and saying 'oh you're not fat', means you have some discomfort with it and associate something negative with the word. But I'm okay with it. I'm okay with myself being fat, and I don't want people to deny it because then it just means you still think of 'fat' as something to be ashamed of". Lightbulb moment, right?!

This made my eyes well up with tears.😢 The physical insult of being called fat by my mother AND father left emotional scars that I remember to this very day.

Thank you for making content like this!!!

These are hard conversations. It's brave that this mother and daughter got to talk about unresolved issues they have with each other. If things escalate, I would love to see a mediator in future episodes (maybe a family counselor or a psychologist).

Coming from a fat person, I dont see anything wrong with what the mother said “she was fat.” It’s a matter of acceptance. I used to get offended when I was called fat but that was the reality, I have gained extra weight than what is healthy ,it was me who was having a hard time accepting that fact. I know its hard but you are beautiful , if you cant accept those right now its okay ! ❤ you can focus on the things that makes you happy ❤ I love how vulnerable and honest they are <3 great video! ❤

Drawing issues from the tabo. Love it!

because of this, getting called fat by one aunt and being told by another aunt that i wasnt eating enough and was skinny, i developed an eating disorder . i spent so many years hating myself.

I really love this mom, she is truly open minded. My mom is from Vietnam and considering how hard social norms were enforced on them, I love hearing them accept her faults and be so honest. In reality they made life easier for us even though they may seem old fashioned, they are actually quite progressive considering where they came from.