Too Much, Too Soon Ruins Your Chance to Get to Know Someone

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People are addicted to the honeymoon phase and dating apps are exploiting this addiction.

I've learned the hard way that there's no better way to ruin any relationship than to rush things

“Sex is supposed to feel like a promise”, wow, an interesting way to put it. That’s definitely how it feels

Remember, folks, there's no condom for the human heart.

Please know, it is not only younger men who are using dating apps as a form of a call girl service, it is the 50, 60 and yes, even 70 year old crowd too. They don’t even want to wait until the third date. They want sex the FIRST date and literally become angry if you don’t. The sense of entitlement they have is just shocking. As a widow now for 11 years, I’ve given up on dating and haven’t dated anyone now for over a year. Frankly, I would rather be alone than put up with that pressure and nonsense.

Spot on: Friends first, over time.

"when you sleep with someone your body makes a promise whether you do or not" - Vanilla Sky

I've met someone who likes me for who I am. He's quirky, keeps me thinking young, and we've been enjoying our friendship for ten months and there's no rush for physical intimacy. The emotional intimacy is astounding to me as I've never delved into so many personal topics honestly and openly with another person, not even my best friends, people who've known since my early adult years. I trust this person and knows he trusts me. He seeks me out in a crowd, sits near or within sight of me, brings me small gifts, remembers details of my life that I've shared so briefly that I had forgotten that I even shared that detail, and shows his good and bad sides to me. He tells me when he needs space to recharge and I tell him when I need alone time. We're good with that as we understand what we each need. Will we eventually be more than what we are now? IDK, IDC, I love this guy right now. We're not promised tomorrow.

Dating is so hard because as a woman you'll meet plenty of men who only want you for your body or who want to use you. I've had a man invite me to his home before we even have a first date, of course I didn't go. It's rare to find a true gentleman who isn't eager to jump your pants soon as he meets you. Where have all the gentleman went ?

Especially having trauma from childhood and being an adult with unhealed wounds one of the worst things we can do is be intimate with people sexually very quickly. For a long time I would use sex as getting to know someone and bonding. Most of the time it was people that we had not confirmed being together yet. Then I would get heartbroken because they weren't interested in anything further. Going on 6 months of abstaining from sex and it's one of the best decisions I made in my life. Anxiety and depression are down A LOT and I'm really getting time to focus and heal. So grateful for this channel. crappy childhood fairy you played a big part in helping me see from different perspectives.. thank you ❤️

I honestly don't think its trauma. I believe we live in an instant oatmeal, microwave society. When i explain a relationship of trust is building a fire first and then you can expect heat. People get mad they don't get to enjoy the heat without chopping wood and building a fire.

7:30 - it's not a bad person to not commit to someone you've been dating for a couple weeks, or to break it off, it is normal 9:33 - people are attracted to you and you are attracted to people but it only goes so far and that's how it works, that's how every person is 10:04 - having a way to stay grounded in reality that you are getting to know someone 10:29 - what you're getting to know is, are they going to become into you, are they going to stay into you, are they good people, how do they react under stress 12:00 - emotional guardrails 12:37 - the SECRET!!! to dating 14:50 - you get to own decisions you made in a dating scenario, and you get to change your mind about how you want to do it in the future, but you don't get to blame the other person for not feeling you 15:00 - no one knows how they will feel about a person, that is why they date 15:38 - it's not fair to blame another person for not protecting our boundaries when we didn't 16:44 - there's no certainty in dating, engagement, marriage. You have to stay with yourself and ask, "How can I use my best judgment and only go forward when I have the information I need?" 19:40 - Don't be friends (in the sense of continuing to hang out, aka hang on, after a breakup)!!!

He sounded like a good guy. He was honest and sometimes you think you might be in to someone and then it changes. It's no ones fault.

I need to tattoo the title of this video on the inside of my eyelids 😅

My experience is that men connect through physical intimacy and if it isn’t obvious that it is forthcoming they disengage. I’ve been single for 5 years after a 30 year marriage and as much as I don’t want to do life solo forever I will continue to be so until I find someone who is willing to move at my pace.

Everything is eventual… Nothing is guaranteed… Enjoy the rides… When you get off, don’t be sad that it ended. Be glad that it happened, especially if you brought your best self to the party… Blessings will come… Lessons will go… life will go on, just don’t let it break your heart, mind and soul… Keep brushing, flossing and smiling… ❤❤❤

"The fear that the person will walk away if we have a boundary..." 🥵👏 well said.

When it's over, IT'S OVER. STOP SEEING EXes! ⚡⚡ NO! WE ARE NOT FRIENDS! Now get out of my way! ⚡⚡(listen kylie minogue get out of my way👯🎶🎶)

This is gold. Sex is sacred, and ties our soul to another, it is only precious within a solid commitment. When that bond is broken it tears us apart physically mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Interesting how "free sex" has devastated our society There is an epidemic depression and mental health issues I believe is tied directly to sex outside of marriage The Creator knows what damages our soul and loves us enough to warn us of this heart-wrenching "pleasure"