Shut Up with the "Too Feminine or Too Masculine" Rhetoric feat. Mal Wright

I love the way Mal articulates & carries herself. I can tell she’s done a lot of internal work. It’s so attractive.

Mal has single-handedly carved a category for herself in what’s considered attractive and like Shan said: “we just need more of you”. What a beautiful person Mal is❤

I am in love with this woman. I love how she is able to hold herself accountable, respect her previous partner and be vulnerable at the same time. I feel like knowing someone like her with this much integrity would be blessing

Mal is a living example of someone being so attractive because of their energy. She doesn’t fit my stereotypical type but I find myself so drawn to her just by the way she speaks, carries herself and respects others

I miss THESE conversations. I really love learning, exploring, and diving deep into conversations around sex and human sexuality. This episode was so informative with lots of layers. It really made me think. Thanks Shan!

Ahhh, I ❤ Mal! She's like a soft pillow, she's beautiful, her voice is like butter, her vibe is THE vibe, she's so articulate & thoughtful with her words...she is just so dope! Chile lemme stop gushing over this woman & go text my husband! 🤣🤣 I'd love to hear Mal doing ASMR, on the Calm app, or just reading a newspaper!

Mal’s essence and personality is soooo relaxed. So soft. So comfortable in her own skin. I’m not saying she’s perfect but dang it she might be close.

I love this my girlfriend definitely can relate to this topic. She told me how her previous partners use to try and make her more masculine since she’s more masc presenting but she likes being feminine too. I told her i dont care she can be whatever she wants and I’ll be happy! Funny enough she was exactly what I wanted someone who could be both and felt comfortable being one or the other given the situation. I’m more fem presenting but my personality is more masc and I use to have a hard time dating because I would get told I’m too dominant or masculine it was so frustrating. So now I found someone who allows me to be either or

I love the way Shan practices telling people they’re wrong in the most neutral way. V refreshing

Mal can really articulate her feelings and what she's experiencing so clearly, like that's a GIFT. So much packed into this episode WOW! Really loved the questions Shan asked and I loved hearing a new perspective on the whole Masc & Fem conversation at large.

THIS IS WHY I BECAME A FOLLOWER OF THIS PODCAST! CONVERSATIONS LIKE THIS IS NOURISHMENT TO MY SOUL. This is so productive to human growth and listening to Mel is like having a cup of warm tea on a snowy morning. Not to mention everything about her being attractive, I don’t care who you are, if you’re not gay Mel will make you check in with yourself 3 times! These two brains together is a movement.

Mal had a peace to her & that's why everyone loves her energy

Hey lovers and friends - Can't wait to read your commentary on both the validity of assessing people's masculinity and femininity AND how awesome Mal is.

Genderless sex. That’s a new term I’ve learned today. & I definitely want to hear more about it.

Mal has been my favorite non-stop since the show. I love seeing there are great people around. She’s so knowledgeable and makes me feel safe in spaces I’m not in! 😂

I love mal and her description of being masc presenting but feminine at center, it resonates. I’ve had trouble growing up and trying to fit molds that never seem to fit perfectly but this description just hits the mark 👌 coming into my 30’s I’ve never been more confident in who I am and how I show up.

i dont label myself masc or fem, but i always get called masc by people, including my friends, and it makes me so dysphoric. even when i wear feminine clothes, they say i still look masc, but if a different looking girl wore the same exact thing, they'd still be considered fem or just wearing 'female streetwear'. it makes me so insecure, like im 'performing' femininity whenever i wear anything feminine.

I see Mal as androgynous, i've moved around a lot and although i did not have the pleasure to be with any one of them long-term , i have been temporarily blessed to be in the presence of androgynous women, i felt easy, comfortable and felt like it was a little break from the usual never ending desirability politics from both men and women ... i felt like i was being treated at a human being, no weird shit, they made me feel really safe, and seen

Mal thank you for representing a diff type of masculinity. i am masc presenting and sometimes confused for a cis man but i am also very soft and embrace the feminine aspects of me which i show in my speech, mannerisms, how i care for others etc and it can be frustrating when others want you to be strictly masculine or feminine and cant understand or appreciate how someone can embody both. i think its beautiful that some people on this planet have a balance between both feminine and masculine energy and i think we have a special gift that is underappreciated

Mal is really one of the best people. I'd love to be her best friend or partner.