The Narcissist Rating Scale

Level 10 vulnerable narcissist, paranoid, manipulative, vengeful and overall incapable of empathy but very good at feigning it to be the victim. This scale is sooo good, thank you 🙏🏻

Is this unusual for a narcissist?…… every time I need a day surgery or more my narc develops suddenly a very similar or goes to dr & comes home shuffling along or needing to go to bed & do nothing for days even a week at a time. He cries & whinges expecting sympathy & how he’s sicker or worse!

Malignant narcissist are definitely the absolute worst. No human being should ever have to deal with that.

To not be loved is one thing, to not be cared for hurts.

I had stepped away from this channel for quite a while. Now I’m back fully present and I’m not leaving. You’re my armor. One thing about being here that is so healthy for me is that nobody judges me for the fact that I’m back here. Thank you so much, Dr. Ramani.

Coercive control always starts at level 1 and rises gradually to 10. It’s like being that frog in the heated saucepan; by the time you manage to work out the problem isn’t you, it’s too late to get out.

I met all sorts of narcissists, some worse than others. There were no "better" ones, even if they appeared to be nice. Neither are great to have in your life

I don't know about scales but all narcs seem the same bullies. Surprisingly similar..any scale is unbearable

1 out of 10 is enough to cause lifelong damage.

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective [email protected] for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

My ex is a level 10. I’ve even checked myself into a psych ward to escape him for a while. Constant rages and lying.I am in ptsd therapy now

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can't stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I've tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I'm frustrated, and i don't see my life with anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can't. I don't know why I'm saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

Mine was a 10...11 month relationship, 3 PFMA charges (one of which involved cutting off my oxygen), and he is currently in jail awaiting trial for his 2nd felony stalking charge. This level of narcissist doesn't stop until something makes them stop...I am lucky/grateful to be alive, thanks to the awareness and training of law enforcement where I live. It took jail to stop him...who knows what will happen when he gets out, but for now, I am finally safe! ❤️

Regardless of extremes, we should support each other as we heal. We all suffer through narcissistic abuse. Remaining cognizant of levels can remind us that processing and healing looks different for everyone. We all experience the pain of emotional abuse, manipulation, betrayal, confusion, isolation, and struggled to be heard but weren't valued. They all manage their smear campaigns well, making us look bad when we tried our best. They have no trouble throwing us under to remain in "good graces." Sharing experiences is a form of release. It's discouraging when we're met with others in the world who don't get it or blame us. This is a gift and safe place to share. I appreciate this community and Dr. Ramani - it's been a catalyst for major change, growth, healing. These videos and comments teach me something new every day...I see a lot of resilience here.

A million thank you's for this video --- i was doubting myself as they are a 1-3 and not bigger scale. This made me not gaslight myself and realize my perceptions are real and valid

Regardless of a scale, narcissists are definitely bullies and cannot be trusted, so never go back.

I have a friend who is a 1-3. It is annoying and hurtful at times.

I'm going through a divorce and abuse criminal case with an 8-10 narc. Might I say it is a nightmare. I'm just starting into psychotherapy because the fear is greater than anything I've ever known.

I don't have ANY friends on the scale. Friendships are voluntary. I walk if the red flags start. I HAD to endure an NPD mother for 18 years. Needless to say, I don't have tons of friends. Don't need a ton just a few.

I know a few 1-3 "friends" in a group that I hang out in...but my ex was a 4-7 vulnerable/ cerebral narcissist...3 years ago I didn't even know that narcissistic people existed...Thanks to you Dr Ramani and seeing one of your videos, things in my relationship started to make sense, I thought he was bipolar but it was much deeper than that. After two and a half years of No Contact, I feel that I have recovered almost completely...there are still a few remnants left but I can deal with and am much happier. I still watch your videos daily and have also learnt to recognize these toxic people, its not always easy, sometimes you have to meet them a few times as tgey are pretty clever, but sooner or later they slip up and you csn spot the tell tale signs... Thank you for helping so mzny people like myself...❤