You're Not Autistic, You're Just Different.

If you’d like more ‘autism mom’ nonsense (for some reason!), you might like these two: Are Autism Moms REALLY That Bad?: https://youtu.be/rKNEwlQCi7c Autism Moms are making a MOCKERY of Autism.: https://youtu.be/-tbhcpXXQ2Q If you want something lighter, you have seen my autism meme reactions? youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEHi2YmjD7gEssdqTn0247t… Would you prefer it if autism was no longer considered a spectrum? Personally, I think there’s room for all of us! See you on Sunday 💛

"You don't have cancer, you're just health-different."

"My daughter is more autistic than you!" Ma'am, it's not a competition.

"Putting all of them in the autism category is for me not helpful". Well, all of this is NOT for YOU. It is for US.

The way she said that if you didn't receive certain therapies you can't be Autistic, really shows her privilege.

Imagine applying this logic to any other disability, “oh you’re not depressed, you’re still ALIVE, my kid died from it” “you’re not an alcoholic, you can hold down a job” “you’re not legally blind, you’re just visually different, you can see light, my kid can’t”

The problem with Abbys mom is that she looks at autistic people through the lens of how easy it is for a neurotypical person to deal with them. She centers the neurotypical experience. She doesn't actually pit herself in the shoes of an autistic person and think about how painful and challenging all the various difficulties can be. It's not just about whether or not neurotypicals can "tell" that we're different. It's not just about how easy it is for us to communicate with them. It's not about them. It's about us and the ways that WE FEEL our difficulties and the lasting effects that has throughout our lives.

“Why are there more people diagnosed with depression than back in 298 BCE?” “Why do we wash our hands now when we didn’t used to?” Ummmmm… information.

Imagine having a mom that calls you a 'deficit' every five minutes and won't shut up about how much she perceives you as 'less'. This is disgusting, I hope Abbey finds a place where she is seen as a whole human being with flaws and qualities instead of a 'neurodeficit'.

As an autistic person, nothing has been worse for me, or to me, than the autism moms. I'd rather listen to an xbox 360 COD lobby, at least some of those insults would be creative

Christine is the type of person who would harass someone using a handicap parking space because “they can walk just fine.”

So she admits my life was horrible, but I can't call myself autistic because I was able to mask enough so my mom's life wasn't horrible as well. Got it! My autism is about my mom. Great.

Hearing a non-autistic person say “I’m going to gatekeep autism” is so infuriating to me. 😭 Like how are you going to declare yourself an authority over actual autistic people AND medical professionals because of your personal experiences

My grandmother would shut down my mother's gatekeeping. She was trained in helping disabled kids and kids with learning disabilities, and any time my mother tried to take a narrow road due to my hearing loss, my gran would say, "Hon, I know you love your daughter, but harming others isn't genuine protection for your kid." My mother - "But they are wrong!" My gran - "No, they have similar but different needs. It is a different reality and requirements. Why do you think I have a room full of files and teaching tools?"

You're not autistic, you're just a little bit silly! And you cryyy when you have to answer the phone, but that's ✨unrelated ✨ /ref

For a lot of this I'm hearing "you weren't as rich as me with the expensive support options I had access to, and the fact you pushed through without those means you dont count”

This isn't even about her daughter, this is about her. "How do you claim to be autistic, don't you know how much I've suffered raising my daughter?" Gods save us from people who gate keep something they don't have themselves.

I wonder how Abbey feels when her mom calls her neuro deficient and then turns around and says people with Aspergers are so intelligent and gifted.

"you're not weird enough to be autistic" is such a wild take to have in 2024

Having a "spikey cognitive profile" as some people put it - where you function really well in some areas and really struggle in others - is tough. People see you doing something that falls in one of your easy areas and assume you never struggle, then they see you doing something that falls in one of your difficult areas and assume you're being lazy. "But you're smart! I've seen you do hard things! How can you possibly be struggling with this?" But it's just not that simple. Then you have people who haven't had the opportunity to see you doing things you're actually good at and just think you're a total dork.