5 Ways to Forgive Someone Who Wronged You
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Published 2021-09-09
As Viktor Frankl wisely stated: “When we are no longer able to change a situation we are challenged to change ourselves.” End quote. We can’t change the past, and we can’t change others. Our mental well-being doesn’t depend on whether or not we get revenge or receive an apology. It depends on how we handle the pain inflicted on us. So, we have a choice.
We can choose to stay attached to old hurts and take our suffering into the grave. Or we can choose to take the antidote and let go of our suffering, so we spend the rest of our lives without the heavy burden of resentment. This antidote has a name: forgiveness. This video (5 Ways to Forgive Someone Who Wronged You) explores five healthy ways to forgive and let go, based on philosophy and psychology.
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00:00 - Intro
02:19 - (1) Accepting that humans are flawed
04:12 - (2) Contemplating anger and resentment
05:40 - (3) Being mindful of destructive thinking
07:36 - (4) Not forgetting the positive
09:19 - (5) Choosing love, not hate
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All Comments (21)
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“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ― Lewis B. Smedes
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“I forgive you, but I’d never give you a blind eye because you’d stab me in the back.” Life lesson I had to learn early.
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Let's not forget to also forgive ourselves for the bad things we might have done in life, to others or to ourselves. The best thing we can do is to move on, learn and become better
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Forgiveness is an ongoing process. Sometimes situations and circumstances put you right back to square one and you have to start all over.
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When it comes to forgiveness, it is not something that we can just decide in an instant as we usually still have resentment towards something or someone afterwards. It happens over time by reflection and feeling.
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People usually have this idea that forgiveness is for the person who wronged you, but in reality, it's for yourself. The purpose it serves is to allow you to move past your hate and anger.
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An unhealed person can find offense in pretty much anything someone does. A healed person understands that the actions of others has absolutely nothing to do with them. – Unknown
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Someone who wrongs me and does not apologise has no place in my life. I have too much self respect. I would rather have no friends rather that so called friends who think it OK to do something hurtful and never apologise. All too often we tolerate things we should not tolerate.
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When you forgive the one who wronged you, you heal that injured version of you .....but never forget to have healthy boundaries...forgive because you deserve peace but stay away from what's not good for your soul...
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“You can't beat evil by doing evil. I know that.” — Buffy Summers
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Interesting perspectives. I was betrayed and greatly wronged by someone that was very important to me. I need to figure out how to let go of the hate and anger I feel towards that person, for my own sake. It destroys one inside and changes nothing that has already happened. Easy to say, much more difficult to achieve within oneself.
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Anger and hurt at another’s actions can point to a deeper wound in oneself. Honoring our feelings, processing them and cleaning those wounds assure that our forgiveness is not simply a bandage.
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you can't imagine how timely this message is for me; thank you
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I used to say the best revenge is to live good then I learned I don't need revenge or any negative energy no matter what has been done to me.
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As a wise Muppet once said: "Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering."
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One of the first benefits of Buddhist meditation is the quality of "non-remorse". Meditation can really act as a catalyst to help us out there
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I’ve never visited my dads grave because he’s the reason he’s there and did it with the intent to hurt me and my family, i haven’t forgiven him yet but I feel like I’m being irresponsible because it’s been two years and I have learned to live without him already and want to improve by letting go and forgiving him
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I've been a lot of heartbreaks & traumas. For so many years, I cry every night until I fall asleep, and woke up with a heavy heart. I've come to a point where all I have is anger & hatred. I suddenly had a countless goals & dreams. I started to work on myself, all my insecurities & traumas, and all the heartbreaks. And now that I get better, I started to understand things and slowly forgive them. I'm not at my best yet, but I enjoy my life more than before----happier & braver.
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Many people don't understand how freeing forgiveness really feels. They don't understand how much the hate and resentment really weighs on them energetically. It takes work but it really is worth it in my experience.
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when i realized i was carrying resentment against my parents for neglecting me and a myriad other things, i started to forgive them for what they did (i know they were hurting themselves from their own upbringing), it’s been the most freeing experience
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