Only Poor People That Want to Look Rich Shop at Luxury Stores - Discussing Silent Luxury

I've been lectured about it before. "If I were you, I'd use your money on an experience instead of that." Well, sometimes whatever I've purchased is an experience, at least to me. I save my clothes and bags to use for years (mostly).

Omg I was JUST talking about this. The whole idea that wealthy people don’t buy designer is such a fallacy lol. I know and have been around wealthy people. They buy designer and luxury just as you said. They buy things that we may not even know are expensive. They’re the type to have 50,000 statues in their home that look like cheaper and affordable purchases lol

FINALLY someone who says it like it is! Not every mega rich person is like Marc Zuckerberg who just wears jeans and a t-shirt 🤷🏼‍♀️

I've always said "money is all relative" - you can spend a couple thousand on a holiday and have it be over in a few weeks, I chose to spend it on my first CHANEL handbag this year. I feel like I have to justify myself when I tell people about my bag but I really shouldn't - it's been my dream since I was 15 years old to own an CHANEL bag and now at 29 I shouldn't let people judge my actions

I think “silent luxury” is that other class of luxury that is even more expensive than the well known luxury brands. Those brands cater to a smaller population of wealthy that can afford them. So for instance, when most of us think of luxury watches, we may think of Rolex, but the extremely unattainable brands are even more expensive, therefore most people have never heard of them. My husband does research in luxury marketing, so I think that’s given me this bit of insight.

Man, this has been one of the biggest topics in my head since I made my first ever luxury brand purchase (a black Pochette Metis from LV back in March). It's honestly so snobbish. There is such a thing as ordinary people who don't have A LOT of money appreciating the finer things in life that can be expensive for them. I don't have to be a fashion VIP to learn about and appreciate what Haute Couture is. Besides, Louis Vuitton was born into poverty, just like Gabrielle Chanel was. They were just like us once, normal people just trying to do what they love regardless of circumstances. And now their fashion is worn in Hollywood. People need to mind their own business and keep to themselves. People can buy expensive things without putting themselves in financial danger.

glad that this topic is in the discussion! i always get criticised by my friends saying i like expensive stuff (although I never had luxury items). but when I had a good quality item either bags, shoes etc. they would mock me 'wow that's so expensive (side-eyeing)'. yet they use iphone which is also expensive?? so it's ok to buy hundreds and thousands of gadgets. but when it comes to fashion, I get heavily judge 🙄

Yes, I can't even wear a Chanel bag without everyone asking me if it's a super fake! Or why am I splurging on expensive handbags, as though I'm not entitled to own Chanel bags or wear brand name shoes etc. I'm sorry but I work hard 24 hrs around the clock daily as a stay at home mom supporting my kids their entire life, exhausting myself out, sacrificing my health, my youth, my beauty, emotionally, physically, mentally, traveling nonstop for my kid's sport events. The least I can do is splurge on myself once in a while.

As Dolly Parton once said, “it costs a lot of money to look this cheap”. To hell with silent luxury, if you like it and can afford it then buy it and work it!

THANK YOU its sooo frustrating, if i carry one of my luxtury bags i constantly get "i cannot believe you spent that much money on a bag". " i absolutely would never spend that amount of money on a bag". Bc I'm a normal ass woman with normal money.

I have never understood the myth that only "poor people" (whatever that really means) buy luxury to look rich. You can't make that make sense! Financially speaking, poor means to be without resources. With that being the case, how could a poor person possibly afford to buy a luxury house item? And you're correct, Super Dacob, that the über-rich and the aristocratic sets certainly do incorporate luxury names into their overall attire. So whoever started that nonsense was just blowing hot air. And truly, to wear luxury or not to wear luxury is a personal decision.

Yes, Dacob! Have you also come across people who like to say, "Well, I can tell that bag is fake, because that person takes public transit/doesn't get their nails done/doesn't dress right, etc?" Like, b!tch, are you following people home after you see their bag? I have a friend who's a socialite type, and she hated driving, so she took the bus everywhere! I've seen Birkin girls walking, rich people buying Old Navy.. Like, what the hell? Or, "I can't wear that bag because it's looks too expensive for me to deserve wearing it." Okay, sure. Never mind that your sugar daddy bought it, or you snagged it at an estate sale, or found it at a pawn shop, or ordered it from a Japanese consignment shop, or...any number of things! GAAAAH, CAN'T PEOPLE JUST LIVE, LOVE, AND ENJOY THINGS?!?

I find this (the topic) a form of bullying. It’s either to make people who can afford luxury guilty or bad. It makes those who aren’t “rich” who save for an item- and get LV, Gucci, etc feel bad also. This is ridiculous. It’s going to give those who are insecure a complex and then think only certain brands reflect certain things. Yes, there are tiers of luxury. Some brands are and start at a higher price point. Any thousand dollar bag or hundreds of dollars wallet, if not thousands, can not be “poor”. This topic is annoying. Bullies to make one party or the next feel bad and bully them. What is poor?!?!?

Once I was carrying an LV and went to McDonald's for takeouts. When I was walking out of the door, I overheard someone mumbling something like 'Did you come in here to save money for the bag? ' I was shocked because people still assume that people need to save in order to get luxury but the truth is some people save for emergency not for a bag. I meant when I hit the emergency fund target, I reward myself by buying a bag. This way, I have both luxury and money for emergency. And I eat both fast food and high quality food. I think in some way, it pains some people that there are people who enjoy life and not mind spending huge amount on things that can be scratched up and don't generate more wealth . They will never understand the convenience using luxury items can bring.

People who go on about “Old money” and “silent luxury” is usually their code for “I’m racist/I’m classist” in my experience. From the rich and the poor alike.

Lol 😂 “ im going to 💩 out that 🥘 in a few hours “ 🤣 🤣 🤣

“I’ve been to dinners where everybody’s like omg and then after dinner I went to McDonald’s because I was hungry” .. I just love you so much, and, how utterly relatable lol. Also, I seriously echo the sentiments here. I find it truly sad that human beings are still trapped in this terrible cycle of judging one another. Who gives a shit, honestly? I’d love to live in a world where wealth or poverty meant nothing in the realm of fashion, and it was just about simply hitting the vibe and loving /exuding confidence in what you wear, whether the bag cost you $20 or $20k. Let’s replace this so called silent luxury with the subtle elegance of how good it looks to be your own person, stay in your lane, and to let everyone else live their fantasy without being a bitter Betty, always criticizing others. Whether you’re a punk in thrifted doc martens, giving ‘em hell while wearing Chanel, or dressed head to toe in the Row and you’re just a gal on the go who grabs a cute TJ maxx tote and you’re out the door, the only thing that matters should be how fabulous you feel while not giving a fuck what anyone else thinks of you.

Fashion is an art. Some people collect sculptures, paintings, fine China, toys, comics, what have you. We collect luxury items. Wearable art.

Yup 👍🏼 💯 I had a friend that would spend ridiculous $$ on cars & jacuzzis… money you can’t imagine but they would make comments on my Dior lol 😂 “that is so expensive”. Ok Kelly but your Ferrari wasn’t.

"Wealthy" people aren't a monolith. They don't all behave in the same way. Let's also be real the idea of the quiet luxury aesthetic is very caucasian centric. People like what they like regardless of wealth. Money doesn't guarantee the absence of tackiness or the presence of style. And vise versa.