Is This The WORST Way to Tell Somebody You Are Autistic?

Can’t wait to hear your verdicts. Is mango person the a-hole? Re-watching the edit, I wonder if I was a bit easy on him! Maybe I’m underestimating how much NOT being pressured into eating things I didn’t like has contributed to me having a relatively good relationship with food now, despite still having sensory stuff. The other AiTA videos I mentioned: A heart-warming tale of ducks & peas: https://youtu.be/G2YKe35z9f0 Squishmallows in the Bath?: https://youtu.be/EdByHssKrgA Thank you for watching! Happy Easter! 💛

plot twist- if you know your kid can't or won't eat a food and you keep cooking it for them, they aren't wasting the food, you are.

While I was going through my Autism diagnosis earlier this year, someone I know commented "why do you need a diagnosis, you're a functioning adult so there's no need" - he didn't take the time to understand how much effort it takes every day to appear functional.

When my neurotypical mom tried to convince me (undiagnosed autistic) to make my son (diagnosed autistic) to eat everything, I made a point by making only food she hate, every time when she visited us. She finally understood and stopped guilt tripping me about my sons diet.

You can be abusive to your child without meaning to. You can traumatise your child without meaning to. Intent is irrelevant for that.

So... they're saying she was supposed to just sit there and listen to them spreading misinformation about her allllllll night, and THEN, after they had embarrassed themselves EVEN MORE, she was supposed to call them up and find ANOTHER time to meet up just for some sort of special private super-awkard coming-out meeting afterwards just to tell them she was autistic?? Who on earth would actually feel better about that meeting? How would that be better? For anyone? Talk about lying to themselves :(

14:23 I remember, as adults, my sister commenting "Think of all the starving children in Ethiopia" which, unbeknown to her, triggered my specific interest trap card- so I replied with "Well, can you count to 10 in Amharic?" I was disappointed when she didn't even know Amharic was a language, let alone where it is spoken.

I was talking to one autistic person, we both knew the other was autistic, but didnt know we knew. For weeks we were talking in hints "oh well I'm very...logical" "Ah, you see, I have trouble reading people a lot" " well I was watching this thing on YouTube about autism" (the last one was from your channel)

I just love the fact that the way that family thought this person should handle telling them she is autistic is THE BEST indicator that they have 0 clue what autism is 😂

Sometimes, "sitting them down and having a serious conversation" is what makes it feel so serious and "horrible". Being autistic isn't terrible. I don't think they would be very supportive even with a serious conversation.

It's wild to me that there are grown adults who think that disgust is something people have conscious control over. Like, surely on some level they must understand disgust is a visceral reaction, right? This is why I feel I need to use turd analogies so often to describe food issues. If I put a turd on your plate and told you to just eat it and learn to enjoy it, or told you to pick around the turd parts, or told you to ignore the fact that I used the turd knife to butter your bread, everyone would understand why that's an issue.

23:34 Societal norms can be, and often are, abusive, is the thing. The ideas that "only Bad People abuse others" and "abuse is something you can only ever do intentionally" are two of the strongest myths about abuse in enabling it

Its either overshare or never mention I can't seem to do any difference.

I just tell people I'm autistic sometimes. Sometimes I meet someone with like 14 different signs of autism and they don't seem to notice I have those signs too and I have to try my best to not be blunt about it. There are definitely more people who don't know they're autistic than autistic people. Especially in terms of women.

If my parents forced me to eat foods that made me feel like vomiting or caused me a headache or to start sweating and my throat to be sore, I would definitely question their intentions. I am not going to eat foods that make me feel sick no matter how many times you reference starving kids. Since having kids I learned that some of this may be undiagnosed food allergies given one of my kids is allergic to foods like peanuts that I would avoid.

I love the "there are people starving" logic (thankfully, my mom never said that to me) because i would just think If that's the case, just give the food to them then!

People hate being caught out as ignorant, and the immediate response is generally to go on the attack. The response here is classic gaslighting, as are many AITA posts.

After taking a lot of online tests I told my friend, "Hey dude, I am probably autistic. No official diagnosis but I am likely to have it." He replied, "No shit. Pretty obvious." I love him. So blatant. Great friend, love ye Ty. ❤

spitting your food out is a symptom of an ED. that child needs compassion and someone to make sure its not bigger than it seems. sounds like it is.

I hate it when people say acoustic. Like are you talking about a guitar?! Also when people say that someone is "special" ech