YOUR EX May NOT Care Now BUT They WILL CARE LATER (Be Ready for THE Keith Lee Effect)

GOD IS SEPARATING THE WHEAT FROM THE TEAR DONT GO BACK UNLESS GOD TOLD YOU

No begging, no going back! Move on trust me it gets better..

No contact teaches you self restraint, self respect, dignity, patience and self reliance. By the end of no contact, you should feel like getting your ex back is less of a priority or victory, and more of a debate on whether or not you even want them back.

If my ex goes out and dated someone else then comes back to me, I won't take her back.

That keith Lee affect analogy is 100% truth. I had an ex hit me up last week after 16 years. I actually forgot all about her. I always tell people, the one major decision is life changing. If you are a good person, I promise you. They will NEVER forget you. Update: I’ll do my best not to make it long. We met up at BJ’s restaurant, we mostly communicated through text messages. I ended up being there first, as she walked. I stood up and greeted her with a hug, she started to cry. As we waited to be seated we chatted a little bit. I didn’t want to get in a deep conversation with people all around us. Once we got the table situated, I told her you have the floor. She thanks me for meeting up with me after 16 years. She gave me a run down of all what transpired in her life over the years we didn’t speak. I won’t go to deep into that conversation. She told me, I remember the things you use to say to me. I use to tell her, why are you SORRY for what you did. You knew exactly what you’re where doing at the time you did it. You told me 16 years ago, where in the Bible does it say sorry? You taught me to ask for Forgiveness. I’m asking you tonight to Forgive me for what I put you threw. I didn’t realize how good I had it, the men after you didn’t compare. She has 2 kids, same dad. They never really got along. I asked her, you saw the red flags in the beginning with him going out drinking not being a man of his word. Why would you not only have one kid, you turn around and have a 2nd. I thought having a 2nd kid would change things. I just looked at her and just SMH. She, asked me if I had kids. I told her no! Your 55, great man with no kids. Now, before everyone starts putting me on blast, of why I don’t have kids. I did a tour in Desert storm (ARMY)! I have screws in my lower spine, lots of stitches over my body. I average 4 to 6 hr.’s of sleep a night for the last 30 years, with plenty of pain meds next to me bed. I didn’t want to be selfish, and try to raise a kid in so much pain and not be able to play with them. Or just do the simple things in life, how to tie a shoe, ride a bike, fly a kite! Just simple things for me. I remember, it was a night raid. On our way to the object, SGT Mitchell step on some sort land mine. Blew his left leg off, I remember looking over and everything seemed to be in slow motion. Between the return fire and yelling and movement. I made my way over to him and carried him behind a wall. No, he didn’t make it. For the one’s on here reading this. My heart goes out to the people who have had loves ones that didn’t make it back. Let me stay on track! She just wanted to meet up and ask for my forgiveness. As soon as I told her I forgave her. I could see whatever had a hold of her on the inside, gave her peace within. I didn’t this about 10 years ago or so. I got in contact with some of the women I hurt in the past, some cursed me, some never returned my email or calls. Some actually said, thank you for reaching out and asking for forgiveness. I tell people all the time, we are never promised tomorrow. So why do I watch Coach Blac or a few other ones. Trying to help the younger generation. My nieces and nephews mostly, or anybody that is willing to listen without rolling their eyes. What brother’s me the most, so I can end this. I saw a few months ago, young lady gets on social media and tell the young gentlemen. I look to good for the cheesecake factory! What’s wrong with going to Baskin and Robins for some Chocolate almond Ice cream. Of course, it’s my favorite, you can have anything you want. My dad said to me May 18 1988, Son don’t hang your hat high enough to where you can’t reach it. Meaning, if you start off at high end place you have set the standard. Bottom line, choose someone that chooses you, Its make life a lot more enjoyable with each other. Gentlemen, don’t lead with your wallet. I’ve done that in the past, it doesn’t end well. Last thing, I don’t not recommend going to back to the ex. They are a Ex for a reason. They hardest time for me during my journey of battling my ex’s in my mind was at night when my head hit that pillow. That’s when those Mind monsters will get you. Everyone stay the course, be safe, be blessed! My best advice to give to anyone, you will know when you had enough!

My ex came back after 4 years. We have known each other 18 years. We started dating and he just ghosted me out of nowhwre. Hadnt heard from him in four years and honestly had healed and moved on from the heart break. To be honest he hadnt even crossed my mind in a couple years...pops up apologizing...we started to date again and while i had hoped he had changed....he didnt. Just realized he wasnt gonna find anything better....even admitted that... That was the moment i decided...nah... I dont want my husband saying to me "well...i went and searched far and wide for something better and decided you were the best i was gonna fine".... I wany my husband saying "I knew it was you from the start and i never want to lose you" period.

It always surprises me how negative people on this platform are. If you still love the person who broke up with you and are willing to forgive them, than go ahead and be with them. This is especially true if you've both done the work to improve yourselves. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

If they are a narcissist or narcissistic, definitely don’t reach out to them. Ever.

Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

He gets☝🏿ONE chance with me. One. I ain't nobody's option.

So much better when you don't want them back.

It’s been 18 months since my wife left. She showed up around July last year and said she missed me and still loved me. We started dating again and out the blue she said she can’t do it. We were getting on so well as well. I knew there was someone else, the person she left me for. Yet, I wanted to salvage my marriage. I went full no contact in November and she went straight back to him. Ultimately, it’s been this man the whole time. I’ve no idea what she’s doing in life now. Fact is people, they don’t always come back. However, IF they do, it’s because whoever they left you for wasn’t as good as they thought. If they’ve been with someone else after your break up, you can NEVER take them back. It’s so hard to accept that but taking them back shows weakness. They left for “better”….let them have it. Stay strong to you. You’re worth so much more.

This man is spot on. It took my ex-wife 16 years to reach out with regret... by then, I was 13 years married to a good woman, with which I have 2 children. Rebuild your life. If (when) she tries to come back... remember, she abandoned you once, she'll do it again.

Once someone leaves your life don’t hold on to them. That’s the only way they will be able to come back. Let that ex energy go. Take on a new you. New love. New life. They left for a reason. And why would I take someone back that had to leave my life for me to elevate and find myself. That’s means they were holding me back.

If they don't care now, they will not care about u later Only when they cant get who they really want, then they know they can come back.

If a person is dating and being with someone in only a week or so after a break up they been talking to that new person while in a relationship with you

Even if we did get back together I will never trust him the same again.

Unfortunately, we cant unmeet people.🤷🏽‍♀️

My ex did exactly what you said. Took him less than 3 weeks to come back begging for my forgiveness. Week later I learned of a woman he had been screwing the whole 4 we were together. I learned where she lives. I went there and sure enough he was there. You can imagine his surprise when he saw me pull up in her driveway. She had no idea of me like I didn't her. I was dumb enough to even considered working it out.... yes my family was there for me but they did not want me with him cause of the lies. I'm so glad I learned the true person he is..

No contact will not make her want you again. It's just the only option you have. She might feel lonely at some point at contact you again for validation when her new guy is treating her poorly but it's not even worth it talking to her again. Just move on. When a woman loses genuine desire for you it's because you were too available and lost your leverage at some point. Getting a woman to have genuine attraction for you again is very difficult and unlikely.