How to practice emotional first aid | Guy Winch | TED

-Take action when feeling lonely -Change response to failures -Protect your self esteem -Battle negative thinking

"It makes us really afraid to reach out because why setup yourself for heartache and rejection when your heart is already aching more than you can stand" this really cuts me deep..

I appreciate how Ted Talks named this video "How to practice emotional aid" and not "How to practice emotional aid on yourself " Because we all came thinking how we could help others...and returned learning how we could help ourselves firt

This video is a perfect example of the good the internet can do. Imagine how many lives this man has touched with his words. How many lives he has saved. All thanks to the world wide web.

Listening to the guy's voice, he could have a successful second career narrating kids' shows on the BBC.

I really love how he addresses the issue of emotional health without shoving his expertise in psychology to the audience, while still able to get everyone to hear what he says thanks to his narrative-ish speech—which I must say is really easy to understand. We really need more humble professionals like him.

I would watch this over and over again to remind myself about the harms of rumination. That I need to do something about this chronic anxiety and loneliness.

No doubt. You are a "REAL"Doctor. Your speech brought tears to my eyes. We tend to be so hard on ourselves. Thank you so much

I clicked on this video for the purpose of helping my friends who have mental health problems but this guy made me realise that it was me who needed help. I really appreciate this video

"loneliness affects immune system" Me- cough

5:40 Loneliness 7:32 Pay attention to emotional pain 7:42 Failure (toy-activation example) 10:58 Stop emotional bleeding 11:46 Rejection (divorcee example) 13:34 Protect your self-esteem 13:45 Rumination 15:40 Battle negative thinking

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” ― Henry Ford

He has such a calming, gentle voice. Makes you feel like everything will work out

12:44 This is something I have never considered. He's so right that we would never make a physical injury worse. We would protect it and care for it so it can heal. Yet, we don't do that with emotional injuries. We often make them worse with negative thinking. What a revolutionary concept to treat our minds the same way we do our physical body. I only wish we were all taught how to do this. It makes me want to learn more about it.

Loneliness being purely subjective was such an eye opening statement. I feel like often when someone says they’re lonely someone else will point out all the “tangible” ways that they aren’t. But at the end of the day it doesn’t matter, you can be in a see of people but if you don’t have the specific connection you NEED then you will be lonely and it’s not for anyone else to perceive but you. That’s so powerful

I found myself close to tears a few times. That tells me that I have some emotional hygiene issues to work on. I'd like to watch this again with my whole family. I hope it would stimulate a positive, healing conversation. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights, Dr Winch.

It's so difficult being compassionate to yourself...

"Break a negative cycle before it begins" Damn. That hit too hard.

Hi Ted! I am a nurse. In my life I have to deal with many situations that mainly consists in loneliness and rejection even from my own family. It has been very sad that I barely had emotional support from my parents. This lack of happiness and a constant search for it corrupted by my surroundings has made me struggle all my life till today in my last semester for my Bachalor's. One thing that distinguishes me is that no matter what my situation is I will succeed. It has been extremely hard to deal with my father's and mother's divorce along with their rejection and cruelty to me. I know everything I just wrote is very personal but most people are scared of speaking about it, I am not because I know that the sun will rise again and I will be able to breathe and treat my patients with the love I never had. I am more than thankful for your studies, your effort and your determination to help people. Thank you!

After recovering from a traumatic event i churned over and over why it ate into me, why it left me hollow. And i realised that it was less the event and more of how i had hacked away at my mind and soul by negative thoughts that i collapsed into a nobody. I lost my confidence, pride, compassion, desire to live ; all because of what i did to my lonely self within the four walls of my empty house. I hate to discuss my personal life but i know what it is like, so anyone feeling the same, please know what this guy has said is true. It is just a state of mind not the reality. You can change your reality by changing your state of mind. Bless you x