Gifted kid burnout playlist that describe me rn

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  • (Vent) It's not easy being the gifted kid without burning out, trust me. I usually get all A's but if I see a 96% on a test or assignment, I'll completely flip out. My problem is 'obsession for perfection.' For example- I play violin, so if something doesn't sound right, if my dynamics aren't perfect or my notes, if I hold a note out for too long, I feel so pissed at myself. Everything I do must be perfect, but it's hard to do so when I can feel myself slowly burning out.
  • the problem is, I'm really good at school, take honors classes, and get good grades. but my academic process in itself deals with stress really badly. when people try to help, they don't understand that it's not as simple as "just do this differently" or "don't do that." If I could stop being stressed, believe me I would. but one thing that prevents me from dealing with this differently is the good output it produces. getting the praise from good grades just creates a cycle. I can't stop it, and it's wearing me out before school is even supposed to get difficult.
  • @casperr5544
    Being the "gifted kid" who's in honors classes and has straight A's ain't all it seems, I feel ya. I can't even remember when my purpose in life didn't feel like some label or statistic. I'm great at school and amazingly smart, but it's slowly killing me inside. It sucks but I hope everyone who relates to this playlist knows that they're doing great and that they should go drink some water :)
  • @figgypudding
    Pov: you're only known for being smart. Your friends only partner with you because you know what you're doing and will do most of the work. The teachers know you'll finish first and always have extra work. They always point you out as the "smart kid". People always expect you to be right all the time. They compare their test scores to yours and get super excited and brah if theirs is higher than yours.
  • @bluberri4367
    Seeing how many people suffer from being labeled as a "gifted kid" hurts me sm
  • @ExsioPicore
    My parents, my teachers, everyone around me kept saying "You have the ability to get the best grades, stop being lazy", but despite how hard I tried, I kept having bad grades. It's only after school that I learnt what was a Gifted Kid, and... Like it's my whole life described with other words. Good marks without working, almost got perfect notes before middle school, and due to this and personnal stuff, I went from the best student in my class to the worst. And no one around me would listen when i say that even if I try, I can't succeed. My parents yelled at me when I yelled for help. I fell into depression and suicidal thoughts, but that's when I decided that I don't give a fuck about what people want from me. Fuck grades, fuck how school is made. It's unfair. If you read this, don't give up. Be yourself and take care. Don't be what others want you to be.
  • @jiji0766
    I feel u, I haven't slept for 3 days since my grades are dropping and I'm really stressing out. I've always gotten A+ or 100/100 scores. And now it's dropping to 80/100. My hands are shaking and my parents aren't helping. They just tell me to do all the house chores that they should take care of. But no, I need to do them. I even need to make dinner and take care of my younger siblings.
  • @hope-3-464
    the worst part is when you question if school is necessary/worth it, and your teachers think it'd be a "waste" of your skill if you didn't go to college. i personally want to have a career that needs college, but it makes me sick to realize that they think i'm "wasted" if i don't do specific things. like i owe something, or that intelligence is useless on people who won't use it certain ways
  • @sleepykai3528
    The problem with being a burnt out gifted kid is that you're constantly looking for validation but even achieving a full set of A's never seems to be enough because everyone expects it so you just keep pushing and pushing and it keeps getting worse and worse but you never stop because you thrive on other people appreciating your work and giving you praise but it's never enough and nothings ever good enough so you just keep slipping until you don't want to do anything anymore but you can't give up otherwise your grades go down and then that little bit of praise you get won't be there anymore. I know in England we never really got grades but we did know how good of a job we did and for some reason the happiness I got from those 'great job' stickers stopped cutting it for me- It got so much worse when I moved to America because those good job stickers turned into letters and numbers and all I could think about was keeping them up trying to get them so much higher than I possibly could with what little bit of mental health I had left. I tried taking a year break from french because a second language has never been something I was good at but my fucking school counsellor convinced me not to (I explicitly told the women that if I did I would cry and here we are..). No one listens to anything you say anymore because 'you have good grades what do you have to worry about' but they never understand how growing up being told that you were smarter than everyone else affects you in the future when you start struggling with what you're learning.
  • @ikaa7426
    People always see the gifted kids as a "perfect" kid but they don't know how it felt to always have to get a perfect score, even if I did got a perfect score they're not even proud because it's expected but if I messed up a little bit they'll say "you should do better!" As if I don't do my best on everything :(
  • I needed this rn. Before 8th grade I've always had all As. It was easier then. Now my grades are dropping, I've got an F and a D. I can't keep As anymore like I used to. I can barely hold a C in most classes. This is killing my mental health, the reason I can't do it to begin with. Then my parents make me do nearly everything and say "What does mental health have to do with school? Your generation always brings it up." Now if I don't have As before summer, they're going to take my phone which is what calms me down. It's how I talk to my boyfriend. I can't let that happen, but if I push myself anymore I'm afraid I'll snap
  • @Joyy807
    POV: You're listening to this playlist while doing your work, fighting the urge to give up with all your might because if you do, what else will you be? You've been the gifted kid for so long that you have no other option but to keep going and pretend this burnout isn't really there.
  • @zombiekittyy_V2
    I thought I was the only one with this problem. People always say they want to be as smart as so and so, but the fact is it's not that great. Everyone always tries to push me into things I don't even want to do. School always pushes you to do your work, and it's even worse since I already get so much work for being in the "smart classes". Idk if I'm making much sense here, but hopefully someone understands this.
  • @nani7928
    I've been a "gifted kid" in honors classes and who has good grades and makes good decisions in school and shit, but I didn't realize how bad the pressure has been getting these past few years. Like, not only is it pressure from my parent, but also my own pressure. Because of all the great things people in my family and school are expecting from me, I've started to expect them from myself, even though I know it's impossible to be as "good" as people are thinking I will be. Anyway, I'm glad to see I'm not alone in feeling this way and maybe it's time we all take a break. :)
  • @cas5311
    Fuck man, you dont know how bad i need this In less than six months i went from gifted kid to burnt out disappointment. Im gonna fail at least 4 classes at this rate. Most likely 6. LMAO RESULTS CAME BACK AND I FAILED 6 I ONLY PASSED MATHS AND IM PRETTY SURE THATS CAUSE THE TEACHER LIKES ME! I GOT N (“insufficient evidence to make a judgment.”) IN INDUSTRIAL TECH EVEN THOUGH I DID THEORY AND MOST OF MY PRAC
  • @saracalderon1
    This playlist really helped me get through me crying one night. I have always been a perfectionist and will literally have a panic attack if I get even a 89% on a test or on homework. I have overworked, questioned my work and almost all the time stay up late just thinking to myself “What am I doing with my school life? Is all the work I stay up late for ever going to be worth something?” It’s hard and tiring listening to people say “ She’s just a “perfect” teacher’s pet and will always be a “perfect student.”
  • here's a story for whoever needs it: I'm in high school but I take college courses from a local community college for free because of a program my school participates in. Been doing that since the summer before 9th grade I think. Now listen, I'm a straight-A student, always have been. Got great marks on the ACT, got great marks throughout high school. But there was this one college class I took called Finite Math. Now, I'm not a math buff. It is probably my worst subject. But I'd never really had enough of a problem with a math class to get upset about it until this one. It was the summer before 11th grade and I needed this class for my Associate's degree, and my brother recommended it as one of the college's easier math courses. As a note, the summer courses from the college are shorter compared to the spring and fall courses (spring and fall = 16 weeks, summer = 8 weeks or something like that) so all of the material is either smashed together to fit in the timeframe or just half of the content is cut, depending on your teacher. Well, this math professor (who now holds the grand prize as the worst teacher I've ever had) decided to just smash all the material together so it would fit. I get about halfway through the class and I'm doing horrible -- I do all the homework, I come in for every test, and I absolutely do not understand this stuff. The worst part is that if I fail a class from the college, it isn't free anymore. I will have to pay for it entirely. And my family is lower-class, very very poor. No way we had that kind of money. So I'm sitting with a D in this class and on top of my three other summer classes it's really bringing me down. I slip into a sort of depression during this time -- I ignore my friends, I stop doing my hobbies, and I don't want to get out of bed anymore. Anytime I think about the class, I want to die. And then one day, I went in for a math test. I had an assignment for another class to get done, but my professor held us in class after the test for a lecture, which he hadn't done all semester. I realize immediately that I now won't have time to submit the assignment for my other class, because I have to get back home to my computer within the hour to do so. I should have excused myself from class and just gone home, but I was petrified to speak to that professor (I tend to avoid situations where I ask something that causes someone else to ask me 'why'. That question infuriates me). So I end up getting more and more stressed about it, debating with myself over what to do, that I end up having a panic attack. Now, I'd never had a panic attack in my entire life. But, if you haven't experienced one, I'm happy for you. I broke into a cold sweat, I couldn't see, I couldn't think, I couldn't breathe, and I imagine this went on for about ten minutes before I heard my professor say, "hey, uh, is something wrong?" I opened my eyes and the other students were all looking at me like 'is she okay...?' and I shook my head, murmured, "just stressed", and let him continue teaching the class. When he resumed and things went back to normal, I realized something that kinda changed my perspective. I started thinking, "wait a second, why am I so upset about this? Is my grade in this class really more important than my mental health...? I don't even care about this class! I'll never even need it!" I resolved to ignore the rest of the lecture, get out my notebook, and just start drawing (I believe I drew a puny stickman labelled 'me' and a giant dragon labelled 'literally everything', but I threw that drawing away sometime after class). As I did the second half of the semester, I worked to train myself to think, "it doesn't matter if you get a good grade. it doesn't matter if your gpa goes down (I still had a 4.0 gpa -- top of my class). just do your best and accept whatever happens." When I went into class for my final test, I remember having calculated out the grade I would need to pass the class. For an overall passing 'C', all I needed was a 10. I didn't have to get an A in the class. A 10 was all I needed. When I finished my final, which I skipped about half of the questions on, I was one of the last people to hand it in. I gave it to my professor, and he said, "do you think you did well?" I replied, "I think I got at least a 10." He goes, "a 10???" And I turn around and walk away, wishing him a good summer while walking out of the classroom with the biggest smile on my face. After that, even in hard classes, I've kept in mind how much it really doesn't matter. It's important to do well, but I believe that my grades should never be more important to me than my mental health. I'm a lot more lenient now -- I do fail math tests sometimes and I get a lot of B's (which before would have sent me into a spiral) -- but I'm happier. I've been able to have fun with my friends again and pursue the things that are actually important to me. If you are struggling like I was, I just want you to know that you come first. Don't let little things like that drag you down. They are never as important as you.
  • @black_rose1136
    Reading all these similar experiences make me feel sad but at the same time happy knowing i am not lonely. Before covid I was also the pride of my parents but since online classes I have become a disappointment to them. Before I always got A+ or A in my subjects but now I am starting to get.B and even C+. Before I didn't even had to study much but now it's so hard to sit down and memorize. I feel bored but at the same time guilt and stress and sadness eats me from inside. Idk how long I can keep going. I have also gained a bit a weight nowadays and comments from my relatives about my weight and grades have not stopped. Nowadays I work harder than I ever had too but my parents only nag about grades. They never see my hardwork. I have started considering cheating in exams too but I don't wanna go that route yet. Not only me, all my friends are also like this. Everyday I see so much sadness in them and pressure. I want to help but I am the same too. I too don't know how to get back like how I was in the past. Tbh now I am much more aware of the world and know many things but still. I hope everyone who is going through the same keeps their mental health first. Ik its hard but we should live till the point when we are finally free and happy 😊
  • @Ilovedilfs13
    Thank you for making this Playlist because I've found my people here 😭 I'm not only seen as the gifted kid, people have always called me the teacher's pet since I was the quiet kid and never talked. People now call me beautiful, rich, smart, etc. When I feel like I'm none of those things. It's really hard because people see you as perfect when your gifted. I break down even when I make one mistake cause I feel like everyone is going to hate/disown me. Crying has been my specialty recently and when I a got straight A's award it didn't make me feel any better. But that's just how I feel everyone have a great day and wear your seat belt <3